socially Awkward

[Jordache]

Amberbird9,
It's not so much about being offensive as it is about pitying yourself. A struggle is not objective. One person may put in a similar effort running a 6 min mile as another who runs a 10 min mile. They are both struggling. Your pain is your pain and often we pity ourselves because we feel like others don't validate our struggles. Amber, I hear your struggle. I have social issues sometimes also. I don't claim to completely understand your pain, but I know it is just as real as anyone else's when they struggle in social issues. Your pain isn't worse. You may have a harder time overcoming it.. But that's for sure if you start comparing your struggle with others.

 

[mistyrain]

A lot of people claim they're "socially Awkward" but still have a bestfriend, go out, pfft! maybe even a signififcant other!
I dont have any of that yep you heard it not even a bestfriend :/ I would love to have all those things, but i am seriously socially awkward. I dont understand whats weird, whats cool. I dont know how to act, and yes of course "Be yourself" but what is myself ? and if by chance im hanging out with a group of people, im the quite one standing there watching everyone having they're conversations and laughing. Im pretty sure they forget im even there. I dont say a word. Im just there. I follow them around like a little puppy. I dont know what else to do, where else to go. And i try to get out of my awkward shell, I really do. In my head im like say something!! but what!!! and by the time i figure out something "clever" to say they're already on another topic -.- i keep asking god for help but no answer. I just want some friends, real friends, people that i genuinly have a good time with effortlessly and care about. And i want to mean something to them aswell. I want to be cared about, loved, be special to someone you know... why am i getting no answer :/ im just asking for simple things. Im not asking for an awesome car, to get the hottest person in school to go out with me or to be rich. Nothing like that i just want people in my life :/

what you just wrote is like a complete description of me...i completely know what you mean i literally have zero friends right now and i don't talk to my family. i do have a boyfriend unlike you, and thank God for him because without him i honestly don't know where i would be right now. he stayed long enough to wear i could finally open up and be myself around him. i just dont know how to do that with other people. i never know what to say and i never fit in anywhere. it is very lonely

 

[Jordache]

The only way to overcome is to face it. Several weeks ago I decided I needed someone friends since the friends I have are entering new stages in life and don't have as much time. So I prayed and thought of two women. I went to them one Sunday and asked to have coffee... Just hang out. And we did. These were women whom I knew were kind and sensitive.

 

[Witness45]

We gon Survive Witness45 we gon survive! we just got to make friends someho... agh screw i mean i cant even do it -.-
Haha how do you picture me? i see you kinda skinny but tall with like skater hair...was i close?

Lol. You say your lonely and need a friend, then...

Y u no respond to friend request or message!?


Lol, srsly, I like sent you a friend request and private message forever ago. If you don't want to though I understand...

btw, my picture's on my profile here. Just beware, I'm kinda ugly... As for you, I honestly don't know enough about you yet to say...

As far as communion with God goes though, my relationship with God is obviously above all else. It is good for us to separate ourselves from the world and spend some serious time in communion with God and God alone. And when you're all alone, it becomes all the more greater. However God never intended for any one of his children to completely go it alone. That's why we do need fellowship with fellow believers in the faith, so that we can have someone else that God can work through to help support us and hold us accountable when need be. Together we all make the body of Christ. A body part separated from the body is good for nothing, but when it works as a part of the body, it not only strengthens the body, but the body strengthens the body part as well...

So to sum it up, we are meant to spend time with God alone. And if you have the choice of spending time with God or spending time with believers, then obviously it should be God. But remember that God is with us when we are with fellow believers. No Christian is meant to completely go it alone. We're all a spiritual family. Brothers and sisters under the same Father. We need one another, almost as much as we need him.

 

[Share55]

Dude?? Geez I haven't heard that term in years since about 30 years back actually. Either it has come around again or the ones around here have fallen out of step.

If changing who you are, the way you talk or what you do is a requirement to make new friends then is it YOU? Is that what you truly want or maybe you have a friend right in front of you seeking to be your friend but you are looking at flashy, classy.

Try a day of acting what you think is the ideal friend and picture yourself there saying and doing those things. Is it really you.

I grew up in the age of The Monkeys, Beachboys, Elvis Presley etc and I remember they were on tv and my sister suddenly screamed, dropped down to the floor crying and pulling her hair. We were shocked, my mom came running through from the kitchen and then everyone laughed when she got up and went to the tv and kissed the screen. Then my younger sister started behaving that way and that was the end of Ed Sullivan for me. I liked some of the songs and Elvis voice in some of them but really, kissing a screen and going all hairy kairy!!! My little sis said you want to too but your just too dumb LoL I said Your calling me dumb? it isn't me kissing no tv screen or swooning over someone I will never meet and could give two toots about me ever and left.
Needless to say I don't fit in and still not today. I still talk with my siblings but I am definitely not the same as any of them and my God is not their god although they have come to be respectful enough and accept the fact that I am me and happy to be so.

I get lonely at times but it is apparently because I spend too much time on the internet and not in communion with God and my surroundings/nature.

Be friends with those who are happy with you being you. Change is a gradual thing wherein one should soon feel comfortable and brings no harm to anyone.
You could be my friend and we can jump off the bridge together tomorrow

 

[reject-tech]

OP, I was the same way growing up.
I wouldn't trade it for the world.

Actually, if you trade it, that's what you get. The world.
And it's better not to be obsessed with the modern world.
God may be protecting you from even worse heartbreaks.
I know He protected me that way.

By being cut off, when you finally do get the interaction you are looking for, you might find that you are wise beyond your years among your peers, and have better peers. Use that to help them.