socially Awkward

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amberbird9

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A lot of people claim they're "socially Awkward" but still have a bestfriend, go out, pfft! maybe even a signififcant other!
I dont have any of that yep you heard it not even a bestfriend :/ I would love to have all those things, but i am seriously socially awkward. I dont understand whats weird, whats cool. I dont know how to act, and yes of course "Be yourself" but what is myself ? and if by chance im hanging out with a group of people, im the quite one standing there watching everyone having they're conversations and laughing. Im pretty sure they forget im even there. I dont say a word. Im just there. I follow them around like a little puppy. I dont know what else to do, where else to go. And i try to get out of my awkward shell, I really do. In my head im like say something!! but what!!! and by the time i figure out something "clever" to say they're already on another topic -.- i keep asking god for help but no answer. I just want some friends, real friends, people that i genuinly have a good time with effortlessly and care about. And i want to mean something to them aswell. I want to be cared about, loved, be special to someone you know... why am i getting no answer :/ im just asking for simple things. Im not asking for an awesome car, to get the hottest person in school to go out with me or to be rich. Nothing like that i just want people in my life :/
 
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T_Laurich

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God loves you the way you are...

I know happy words sound like a curse to someone who is sad, but it is true... God loves you above anything anyone can give... God is always there, God knows your heart and is constantly in a relationship with you...

I know being socially awkward sucks, trust me I am in the same boat... But you are a master piece... God made you, and he doesn't make mistakes... :eek:
 
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amberbird9

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yeah but im not happy i need people in my life i cant just be a lone wolf. I need people i can care about and people who care about me. and of course god loves me but i need physical interaction, with me and god its a more spiritual interaction..
 
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Witness45

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...Wow... I might as well have just written this myself... I understand your situation almost too well... There's nothing more painful than loneliness, or being alone in a crowd... I understand your situation all too well, in fact, I'm living it... :/

I know it's not exactly cool to say this, but who cares? We're socially awkward. "Hey, let's be friends!?" :D (I'm serious btw)
 
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Bryancampbell

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When God knows your short comings, He meets you there. When God sees your struggle His hands already caught you, He is waiting for you to open your eyes to see your no longer falling. He knows, and He is jealous for you, the bible even says so. He is so jealous for you that He pretty much did everything through Jesus so He can say "I want her, she is mine" and once Jesus died on that cross, salvation came, and He finally said, "she is mine and I am passionately in love with her" (like husband and wife, like Father and daughter, parent and child) :)
 
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amberbird9

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@Witness45 Sure! why not :) our kind must stick together! T__T lol jk
Are you in high school? college? and just gonna put it in there boy? girl?
 
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Witness45

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@Witness45 Sure! why not :) our kind must stick together! T__T lol
Are you in high school? college? and just gonna put it in there boy? girl?
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Blue letters mean guy, pink mean girl. (at least I think so... o_O) Anyway I'm a guy. I'm 20 so no, I'm not in high school, I'm studying online. Thus I have very little computer time for forums unfortunately, but I spend what time I can. :D
 
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amberbird9

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Sure! why not :) our kind must stick together! T__T lol jk
Haha Are you in high school? college? boy? girl?
 
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amberbird9

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oh ha well obviously im a noob, I just barley got into this site today xb
why dont you go to a regular school instead of online it will probably help with our little common problem lol
 
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Witness45

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Yeah, that's exactly what I need, to be alone in an even bigger crowd... -_-' /sadface
 
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Bryancampbell

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Witness45 said:
Yeah, that's exactly what I need, to be alone in an even bigger crowd... -_-' /sadface
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Dude, standing out anywhere makes you unique, joining the crowd is like being a robot, at least you have a mind of your own, the world have a disease that forcibly brain washes their life and controls it.
 
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amberbird9

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We gon Survive Witness45 we gon survive! we just got to make friends someho... agh screw i mean i cant even do it -.-
Haha how do you picture me? i see you kinda skinny but tall with like skater hair...was i close? o_O
 
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amberbird9

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your right dude, but you dont get it.
standing out aint the problem i dont mind xb but its the loneliness thats killing me.
 
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Bryancampbell

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amberbird9 said:
your right dude, but you dont get it.
standing out aint the problem i dont mind xb but its the loneliness thats killing me.
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It's been something I learned all my life, and by that it makes me closer to God. I learned that loneliness is for the better when it comes to devotion. Gives you the opportunity to stay more focus on God. :)
 
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Esta

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Wow i thought i was the only one. I heard a pastor say once that the devil will always use false evidence to back up his lies. So no matter what happens,if the voices in your head arent telling you how amazing and socially unawkward you are,IGNORE THEM. Truth be told,the one who created you says you are wonderful,who cares what anyone else thinks. You are ridiculously incredible and your opinion matters. God bless you.
 
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Ugly

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amberbird9 said:
A lot of people claim they're "socially Awkward" but still have a bestfriend, go out, pfft! maybe even a signififcant other!
I dont have any of that yep you heard it not even a bestfriend :/ I would love to have all those things, but i am seriously socially awkward. I dont understand whats weird, whats cool. I dont know how to act, and yes of course "Be yourself" but what is myself ? and if by chance im hanging out with a group of people, im the quite one standing there watching everyone having they're conversations and laughing. Im pretty sure they forget im even there. I dont say a word. Im just there. I follow them around like a little puppy. I dont know what else to do, where else to go. And i try to get out of my awkward shell, I really do. In my head im like say something!! but what!!! and by the time i figure out something "clever" to say they're already on another topic -.- i keep asking god for help but no answer. I just want some friends, real friends, people that i genuinly have a good time with effortlessly and care about. And i want to mean something to them aswell. I want to be cared about, loved, be special to someone you know... why am i getting no answer :/ im just asking for simple things. Im not asking for an awesome car, to get the hottest person in school to go out with me or to be rich. Nothing like that i just want people in my life :/
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Just because some people may not be as socially awkward as others, doesn't make them any less socially awkward. Not a great idea, essentially dismissing peoples problems, because your version of the problem may be worse. Perhaps your ability to insult people by diminishing their problems to make yours seem worse is part of the reason you have problems. I'd suggest not starting out your posts by insulting groups of people.
 
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permen

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Hello fellow weirdos! :D
It's nice to see awkward people like me in this site, I'm an awkward person myself.. I'm 20 and i'm a college student, the reason I'm being awkward/weird is basically because most of my colleagues are not talking in Indonesian language, I moved from North Sumatra to West Java, almost all of them are using their native/ethnic language (Sundanese) in their dialogues, they can speak in Indonesian actually but it's their second language.
In my first year in college I clearly have no idea what are they discussing or laughing at.. but i don't care, i'm not trying to fit in, i don't follow my classmates wherever they go, im not trying to understand their language or mimic their accent, because for me their accent is ridiculous and i want to be real I'm a Bataknese i don't want to be a Sundanese.
I finally make some friends when the teacher gave us a group work/assignments which makes my group MUST interact with me in Bahasa Indonesia, that's how i make friends.. my group-mates are the people who i always hang out with. I never try to start a conversation with people i don't know or be friendly with strangers.. maybe that's what makes people think i'm cocky/arrogant or stupid, but..... that's me :D


You'll find friends, bestfriends or people you can relate to somehow.. just keep doing your thang lol :D
 
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Jordache

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Try one other person. Don't overwhelm yourself.
 
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amberbird9

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you know what your right! I really thought about what you said, it makes sence. I think what your trying to say is do what you love, dont try following others because if you do your not being true to yourself and it makes perfect sence that you will be unhappy because you are just pretending, you are just following. Basically being a try Hard. But if you do what you want to do and what makes you happy and not try so hard i guess everything that you need will come naturally :)
 
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amberbird9

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Dude i dont get who i insulted?
 
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