will you marry me?

[eugenius]

Sure I'll marry you. What are the benefits?

 

[arwen7]

Hey hey hey now, strangers are nice. They seem to always give out candy

 

[jimmydiggs]

I will not marry a stranger at all God has someone for me

That person is likely a stranger though...

 

[SleepingLion]

Who would marry a stranger? Submit to an arranged marriage.

hmm, actually yes... If I knew that they were matched for my nature and lifestyle. I wouldnt ever be forced to tho, but willingly I'd submit, with the same wants it can work and last. Friendship to me is always the foundation of a lasting relationship not romance, so with arranged you have to build that first and then love would grow after.

 

[_Ryan_]

Personally I would rather chose the girl I wish to marry, rather than have my mom, or some girl's parents arrange it. To me marriage is something special shared between 2 people that love one another, and in my opinion, love takes time to grow, first you have to get to know one another, share feelings, hang out.

 

[xXErraticEmilyXx]

Depends on who's doing the arranging.

 

[MichiganderSarah]

I'm already married, so it's sort of a moot point. However, if I were single I might be willing to consider it, as long as the right people were making the match. My parents for example, or my sister, who know me well and have my best interests at heart. I could trust them to make a good choice. Would be easier than finding my own dates was, lol!

 

[See_KING_Truth]

I'd probably say yes, get cold feet, and end up being a runaway bridegroom.

 

[BlackTigress777]

Nope..I plan on marrying my best friend sometime in the near future..but thanks to your concern..!
..for some reason, I want candy now..

 

[Stephen63]

Just a penny of my observations (slightly deviating from the OP but related with a couple of following comments): One of the reason for the high percentage of divorce rate (taking the west as an example) could be due to
1. Strong sense of individualism and
2. High expectations

In the first, a person is mostly concerned with the issue of I, me, myself which is strongly present in western society. As studies have reported, in societies and cultures where the notion of individualism is comparatively low, marriages last longer if not for a lifetime and divorce is very rare but as society become more and more complex, the notion of individualism tend to grow stronger into a person and as a result marriages between such two persons is most likely to end up in divorce.

In the second, when certain expectations between spouse are not met, it lead to disappointment. Disappointment over a period of time will lead to discontentment until such time that divorce becomes the only option for the couple.

While it is not a bad thing to maintain some individualism and certain expectations, too much indulgence into the two would lead to clash of personality and disappointment that could end up in divorce. As a Christian, I personally believed that just as we are told in the scripture to conform our ways to the word of God, both the couple should also apply the same principle in marriage for it to last.

PS: There are exceptions in every society and culture and the same would be true in these cases as well. This is just a broad observation and generalisation and is not directed to offend anyone.

Might I add a couple more?
3. Immaturity of adults for their age.
4. Mistaking fleshly lust for love.
5. Treating marriage in a much too casual way, instead of looking at it as a holy ordinance of God.
6. Christians refusing to let God choose for them. After all, He is Lord, right?

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

my daddy said he'll pay you to marry me.

 

[PopClick]

my daddy said he'll pay you to marry me.

L-O- stinkin' L!

 

[LightningClap0002]

How is this thread still alive? Can I pay to have it silenced instead?

 

[Descyple]

my daddy said he'll pay you to marry me.

Hey Holly, I could use a couple of extra bucks. You wanna get hitched?

But since I'm not American (and don't have a passport), our marriage wouldn't last. Would your father pay for the divorce too??? - lol.

 

[lookwhatthelordhasdone]

Or the, "are you out of your mind..." option?

In Christ, 1Christianwarrior316

Or the, "Where do I sign up?!" option?
. . . . .

No?



Oh, never mind.

 

[becausehefirstlovedme]

my marriage was always arranged....by God lol all the other arrangers are fired....forever

 

[Indubitably]

I didn't vote. I feel like it would somehow diminish my standing in here as a mental giant. (Utoh, think good things now..)

Well, I know from experience that you can marry someone you know quite well and it turns out badly. Only a long period of time in marriage (living with someone) reveals what's really inside of them. Every marriage is a risk, even when both believe God is in it. Marriage is built from the ground up and is built further everyday. Marrying a non-proven entity is often not a whole lot different than marrying one you thought you knew.

The bottom line is, I do not believe I would let a CC'er arrange my next marriage.. Sorry y'all!

 

[error]

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Newluke]

Weird thread: need attention much?

 

[Colours]

I would ask only that me and her sat with heads covered and I could tell her my beliefs for a day or two, then she could choose.

I generally find that arranged marriages end up more fulfilling than the normal ones.

you meet a person you've never met. Marry. Have tons of arguments and basically hate each other for six months. But then begin to respect and love one another in a way that transcends lust and attraction and petty things like money and all that. you don't care for money because you never wanted the person regardless in the first place. When you find out about them, you begin to fall in love with them for all the right reasons.

'Normal' marriage is far from that. marry for all the 'good stuff', money, or cause we have the hots for someone, or whatever, cause it's all 'perfect', and when the bad times come ... well .. over fifty percent of western marriages fall apart sooner or later ..