Think about it. When a woman has sex for the first time, or indeed a man, they almost all of the time (if it's their first time), fall in love with each other. That's not a coincidence. It's not some perk of human nature; it's deliberate and for a reason.
I've been a victim of being cheated on right. And there've been times where I have DESPISED women. And not just the women I was with that hurt me. I've thought to myself 'all women are promiscuous 'insert swearword here'' and I've put them down as shallow little creatures that can't control their own radical impulses.
And if I'm frank, there are women that are that way, some. Everything 'happens to them', rather than everything being a result of their own choices and mental responses. The same with men.
There are women out there who think it's okay to dump a man or to go sleeping around for two reasons;
1. Because society says they can, and
2. Because they think they deserve it if they aren't getting what they want.
And I don't blame women for that anymore. I blame the society that promotes that kind of mindset. I have had girlfriends who would rather cling to another branch and let go of the one they are holding on, instead of talking to me about any issues they have. They decide 'oh he's just not right for me', because, and this might upset some people, they want to climb up the ladder of male specimens.
Now that's controversial. But some men have it really messed up too.
Some men think it's okay to sleep with lots of women because women are beneath them somehow, like they are there to learn from and experiment with, but also men sleep around because modern society promotes the idea of sexual experience (with many partners) being more important than the idea of learning how to be wholly sexually compatible with one partner. And again, this part will offend people. But that idea is put out because of the emphasis that's put on how much of a Mount Everest being able to please a woman is in a partnership and also how important a man's sexual prowess and endowment has become to women and men around the world.
It works both ways. Men may demean women and all the rest, but honestly. The real issue is men and women being against each other in today's world. And in THESE respects, you're right about the 'me, me, me' mentality. Genders seem to be out for themselves nowadays.
That's an issue that eventually will be explored to the point where people realize the ways in which they contribute to the awful divorce rates and the people who walk around with a real hatred of the opposite sex.
Two young people sharing an intimate moment could be a beautiful thing; and that's the kind of sex you get in a pure, virgin marriage. Where two people don't take on society's preconceptions about sex.
The thing is, the whole thing is so convoluted and backwards today that the only solution is to let people come to the eventual conclusions about it all. If we can help someone, then we help. But gender forcing the other gender and gender demeaning the other gender only instills more sexist hatred.
Each gender is massively responsible for the issues of the other.
