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B
I often tell him before we go to bed at night how much I appreciate and love him. I I leave little love notes in his lunch box, I surprise him with peanut M&M's (his favorite) or other chocolate. I go fishing or golfing because its a way I can just be near him. I rub his back or whatever is aching on his body. I wear more dresses than I ever have because he likes me in dresses. I'm always there for him intimately to satisfy his needs. I go to work everyday to help supplement the family finances, I cook his favorite meals, I do his laundry, buy his clothes, take care of our son's needs. I help with yard work, I clean the house, do the grocery shopping, I handle his mother's affairs and needs when called upon. I love this man. I pray for this man.
A
have you heard about how people have different love languages? yours seems to be DOING or SAYING things to someone you love, spending time with them, etc. I wonder what your husband's is?
Maybe he's a "physical touch" kind of guy and just by giving you hugs and stuff, he thinks he is telling you "I love you. I think you are wonderful." but just doesn't put it into words.
You say you know he loves you, but maybe there is some miscommunication happening?
Home | The 5 Love Languages®
perhaps you and your husband could take the above free quiz and learn a little more about how you would like the other to express their love?
Maybe he's a "physical touch" kind of guy and just by giving you hugs and stuff, he thinks he is telling you "I love you. I think you are wonderful." but just doesn't put it into words.
You say you know he loves you, but maybe there is some miscommunication happening?
Home | The 5 Love Languages®
perhaps you and your husband could take the above free quiz and learn a little more about how you would like the other to express their love?
J
My husband and I actually just finished reading the 5 love languages. It is an incredible book and I would highly recommend it to any and all married couples. I knew what my husband was right away and he didn't realize what I was until we read my chapter. And then he knew. It really put a lot of issues in perspective for us. I felt like I was giving constantly and getting nothing that I needed in return but he never took my requests seriously till we read the book. He is actually trying now. Every day he does an act of service for me and it makes me more happy than if he were to tell me I'm pretty or buy me a gift. And I give him more time to hug and just be close because he needs physical touch. I had problems with physical touch in the beginning of our marriage but forced myself to overcome it to fulfill his needs. But I try to incorporate more massage and I understand now that his needs are very different from mine. And it helped him to understand me better. This book just seems to put it in terms that seem so simple and it really is.
S
maybe that's overkill.
why don't you try being nice and polite and all, but start doing less and less. not to the point where you're not doing anything. but like, the love notes in the lunchbox, well, i wouldn't do that.
if you like doing something of your own, maybe gardening or whatever, try doing more of that and paying less attention to him (not being rude or anything like that).
maybe he feels smothered. some guys do. he might like just looking out the window seeing you gardening not thinking or worrying about him for a change.
why don't you try being nice and polite and all, but start doing less and less. not to the point where you're not doing anything. but like, the love notes in the lunchbox, well, i wouldn't do that.
if you like doing something of your own, maybe gardening or whatever, try doing more of that and paying less attention to him (not being rude or anything like that).
maybe he feels smothered. some guys do. he might like just looking out the window seeing you gardening not thinking or worrying about him for a change.
N
I lived with someone for a long time who was just like what you described of your husband. Even though i have never been over weight i have always struggled with it and my self esteem. I say that to let you know i understand where your coming from. I know all the questions that are running through your head about why he may not be acting the way he should towards you. I get your frustration.
He married you for a reason, and he married you with your weight problems and all. I doubt he had an epiphany one day and decided he didn't like you.
If he didn't like how you looked or wasn't attracted to you anymore, trust me on this, you would know it.
There would be a lot more than just him not being affectionate towards you. An After awhile he would just say it.
Talk to him about it, ask him.
He married you for a reason, and he married you with your weight problems and all. I doubt he had an epiphany one day and decided he didn't like you.
If he didn't like how you looked or wasn't attracted to you anymore, trust me on this, you would know it.
There would be a lot more than just him not being affectionate towards you. An After awhile he would just say it.
Talk to him about it, ask him.
S
i say shes pressuring him too much.
he probably worries everyday about if she going to ask him if he loves her again or something.
that can be a tun off too. Miss, you should find something you like to do on your own like flea markets or something and spend time doing your own thing more., you will feel better and you will take off some presurre for him to validate you all the time. thats not fair to him
thats just my take on it but guys are different
he probably worries everyday about if she going to ask him if he loves her again or something.
that can be a tun off too. Miss, you should find something you like to do on your own like flea markets or something and spend time doing your own thing more., you will feel better and you will take off some presurre for him to validate you all the time. thats not fair to him
thats just my take on it but guys are different
I
Agree : do you compliment him and show him affection........
Maybe you have low self-esteem since you may need reassurance and compliments and you mention your body weight.
A curvatious body can be so cuddly and all body types can fee eel bad in side.
Maybe you can appreciate your body and love it and know that he loves it and you to love it and feel good inside.
i dont feel good inside my body either but thats complicated.
To feel beautiful, feel loved.
A blessing not everyone feels or has felt for various reasons and sometimes it because someone jealous of them does not want them feel beautiful or loved.
Maybe talk with him about it.
Maybe he is having difficult time at work or in general and needs space and theres a reason why he is not as cuddly or has he always been this way.
Perhaps see what you can do for you to feel better with your esteem without ofcourse being bad or malicious to others and truly work and pray on it.
Have you spoken with him about it?
Ask him to embrace you or hold hands on a walk together....
Or seek professional help.
Do you laugh together?
Best wishes and blessings for your marriage.
Maybe you have low self-esteem since you may need reassurance and compliments and you mention your body weight.
A curvatious body can be so cuddly and all body types can fee eel bad in side.
Maybe you can appreciate your body and love it and know that he loves it and you to love it and feel good inside.
i dont feel good inside my body either but thats complicated.
To feel beautiful, feel loved.
A blessing not everyone feels or has felt for various reasons and sometimes it because someone jealous of them does not want them feel beautiful or loved.
Maybe talk with him about it.
Maybe he is having difficult time at work or in general and needs space and theres a reason why he is not as cuddly or has he always been this way.
Perhaps see what you can do for you to feel better with your esteem without ofcourse being bad or malicious to others and truly work and pray on it.
Have you spoken with him about it?
Ask him to embrace you or hold hands on a walk together....
Or seek professional help.
Do you laugh together?
Best wishes and blessings for your marriage.
I
I think all body shapes are beautiful.
Whats within them......thats the beauty temple as we say.
and or how we feel inside and why we feel that way.
are we being violated inside or what is the reason for such a feel and cause of problem and heal and work in nice healthy way to make things better.
I do not feel beautiful or good inside but thats cause im not in my body most of time lol so my inner beauty not shining through and also because had maliciousness upon me of very bad type.
Blessings to you in feel good inside and outside.
Whats within them......thats the beauty temple as we say.
and or how we feel inside and why we feel that way.
are we being violated inside or what is the reason for such a feel and cause of problem and heal and work in nice healthy way to make things better.
I do not feel beautiful or good inside but thats cause im not in my body most of time lol so my inner beauty not shining through and also because had maliciousness upon me of very bad type.
Blessings to you in feel good inside and outside.
I
ofcourse we should encourage each other with love and care to care for our bodies best we can.
Feed beautiful food and drink, exercise at least one or twice a week do sooomething acn do wonders and improve posture.
Whatever shape we have in our bodies , best wishes and blessings.
I have no bosom but refuse implants.
I do not even full fill a a cup.
i sometimes say i have a jcup ... lol
anyway
best wishes for your marriage and feelings with and bout your body
body corporate no...
all yours, reclaim ones body and feel good in it.
Feed beautiful food and drink, exercise at least one or twice a week do sooomething acn do wonders and improve posture.
Whatever shape we have in our bodies , best wishes and blessings.
I have no bosom but refuse implants.
I do not even full fill a a cup.
i sometimes say i have a jcup ... lol
anyway
best wishes for your marriage and feelings with and bout your body
body corporate no...
all yours, reclaim ones body and feel good in it.
Y
I think the most importan part of a good marriage is communication.So have you tried to talk to him about your thoughts and struglings.I believe he has a good heart,you also say he loves you.So maybe you could try to tell him about your heart-cry.I also would pray for you guys could really communicate in God's love,then find some solutions.God loves both of you.
M
Peanut M&M's are my fave too!! and Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream.. Yes.. with capital letters... Now.. If only I could find a wife to surprise me with some... I like a woman with some meat on her bones.. who will rub my aching body.. the...stars...are...aligning...
Seriously though, do you have a single sister?
Seriously though, do you have a single sister?
N
To make marriage awesome is totally depend on both of the partners. Understanding is must in between both of the partners this is the bonding of the successful relationship. Life have both aspects some time good and sometimes bad so its all up to you how to take. Love is only the way to make a relation more meaningful.
I am running secondinningz matrimony site. I have seen the best couples too, who are still living happily.
I am running secondinningz matrimony site. I have seen the best couples too, who are still living happily.
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To make marriage awesome is totally depend on both of the partners. Understanding is must in between both of the partners this is the bonding of the successful relationship. Life have both aspects some time good and sometimes bad so its all up to you how to take. Love is only the way to make a relation more meaningful.
I am running secondinningz matrimony site. I have seen the best couples too, who are still living happily.
I am running secondinningz matrimony site. I have seen the best couples too, who are still living happily.