Hey Everyone,
I love my family to bits, and I know they're trying to be helpful but... my beloved Grandma died over two years ago--she and my wonderful Grandpa had been married 64 years and knew each other their entire lives. As you can imagine, he has been extremely lonely since her passing and I visit him on a regular basis.
He has been dating a woman who is much younger than he is (I know, some of you guys out there might say, "Score one for your Grandpa!") and I know he was trying to "help" (because my family doesn't like seeing me alone), but last night, he set up a dinner that included me, him, his girlfriend... and her son. (Ahem.)
He had told me about it in advance--how many of you have heard, "I know this guy/girl..." and you know right away they are NOT going to be a match in any way, shape, or form--what did you do? Did you still go out with the person anyway and how did it go? What did you do or say to let them down easy?
For one thing, this man smokes (I have allergies and can't stand smoking--tried dating a smoker once and it was a catastrophe), is unemployed (and during dinner, when I asked him about work, he mentioned NOTHING about looking for another job--said he was hoping his old place would call him back, and it's been over 8 months,with no mention of any involvement in his church), and, I'm sorry, but I have to be honest--because I'm told I look younger for my age and he looked older for his age (he's about 7 years older than me as it is), he looked like he could be my father (pet peeve of mine, as everyone in public who sees just my Grandpa and me together, because we are different races, that I am my Grandpa's much-younger mail-order-bride--no joke! We've had numerous people tell us that and I HATE it.) I'm sorry, but that's just not me, and I hope I don't sound superficial.
But as we've discussed in other thread, even as Christians, looks do have some merit.
My Grandpa talked eagerly about "the four of us going out again soon...." I'm going to have to sit down and have a very loving, gentle, but FIRM talk with him.
What about all of you? Tell us your blind date stories!!
I love my family to bits, and I know they're trying to be helpful but... my beloved Grandma died over two years ago--she and my wonderful Grandpa had been married 64 years and knew each other their entire lives. As you can imagine, he has been extremely lonely since her passing and I visit him on a regular basis.
He has been dating a woman who is much younger than he is (I know, some of you guys out there might say, "Score one for your Grandpa!") and I know he was trying to "help" (because my family doesn't like seeing me alone), but last night, he set up a dinner that included me, him, his girlfriend... and her son. (Ahem.)
He had told me about it in advance--how many of you have heard, "I know this guy/girl..." and you know right away they are NOT going to be a match in any way, shape, or form--what did you do? Did you still go out with the person anyway and how did it go? What did you do or say to let them down easy?
For one thing, this man smokes (I have allergies and can't stand smoking--tried dating a smoker once and it was a catastrophe), is unemployed (and during dinner, when I asked him about work, he mentioned NOTHING about looking for another job--said he was hoping his old place would call him back, and it's been over 8 months,with no mention of any involvement in his church), and, I'm sorry, but I have to be honest--because I'm told I look younger for my age and he looked older for his age (he's about 7 years older than me as it is), he looked like he could be my father (pet peeve of mine, as everyone in public who sees just my Grandpa and me together, because we are different races, that I am my Grandpa's much-younger mail-order-bride--no joke! We've had numerous people tell us that and I HATE it.) I'm sorry, but that's just not me, and I hope I don't sound superficial.
But as we've discussed in other thread, even as Christians, looks do have some merit.
My Grandpa talked eagerly about "the four of us going out again soon...." I'm going to have to sit down and have a very loving, gentle, but FIRM talk with him.
What about all of you? Tell us your blind date stories!!
. *quickly updates her picture to a recent one* Ha! My profile pic is only about a year old (I just dont tell people about the third arm I grew in the meantime--and luckily, it's in the back, so it never shows in pictures from the front... Makes finding clothes difficult though, because I find most sweaters for us 3-armed people have a sleeve for the third arm ON THE SIDE, not the back... how rude and inconsiderate, huh?