So it is wrong of me to tell my children to not steal or murder or to love one another? and ect..... What exact indoctrination upsets you. You mention children my friend I'm a mom and when it comes to them you may press nerves.
Morality is not exclusively derived from religion. I know not to steal because I will go to jail if caught, I know not to murder, because it will affect me psychologically for the rest of my life, and I will likely go to jail also.
Indoctrination upsets me because when an adult teaches a child a concept, whether it be a political ideology, religious dogma, or nationalism, without teaching other points of views, without allowing doubt, and without teaching them at an age when they can fully grasp it. Thus when a belief you have gained comes from your childhood, a simplistic way of thinking is attached to the concept.
I'd say many adults are religious today because they were taught, "this is our religion, it is correct, beyond question", at childhood, once this is drilled into their heads by the time they reach adulthood they've had it in their lives so long it is rarely shead, if they do they risk cutting off a significant tie to their family and community.
Not only religion, but how many people in the world are this political party or that political party simply because their parents were?
How many people think their nation is a faultless, great nation?
Choice by rational reasoning (when one is capable of comprehending what entails this belief), is the only safe and fair way to maintain a society that is not populated by drones. Free thinking is crucial.