I am sorry for making it seem like that. Actually I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I am a firm believer in Paul's message in 1 Corinthians 7 of the benefits of singlehood.
It's just the fact that most people want to not be single, yet they are. Many single Christians want to settle have kids and all. I hope you get my question in a more positive light.
...and I'm sorry that I read something into your post beyond your intent (I think the "at your age" phrase threw me off - it read to me that there is an expectation that single people are not meeting).
As for my reasons -
1. As I stated before - I'm not going to be pressured by societal norms within the Christian culture to be married.
2. The last thing I wanted to do after my divorce was to get into a relationship again. Over the years since my separation (divorced for 2 years, separated for 3 before that), I went from becoming physically ill at the prospect of a new relationship, to not really wanting one but being open to the idea, to going on the occasional date and having fun (even though some of the dates were disastrous), to thinking it would be kind of nice to be in a relationship.
3. Right now, I want to focus my energy on being a dad. I make way less than what I did as a public school teacher (because as everyone knows, schoolteachers make bank, man!). In addition to my current job of working with developmentally disabled adults, I teach music lessons just to get by. I've scheduled all this on days I don't have my kids or involved with the music ministry at church, so for me, a date is a pretty rare occurrence.
4. My dream job (after my youngest is older) would have me travel a lot. A lot of women would rather be homebodies, though I would love a godly wife who also loves to travel and is somewhat adventurous. It seems that most women view a white picket fence as something that makes them feel secure - I would view the picket fence as bars in a cage, keeping me tethered to one area.
5. I can count on one hand the women I've dated since becoming single:
1) most recently a wonderful woman who is funny, attractive, feminine, a musician - not a Christian.
2) the mother of a friend of my daughter. Pleasant enough, but not a Christian yet - has been attending church for the sake of her kids.
3) a Christian woman who wanted to be FWB with me. umm...no.
4) a Christian woman who spoke ill of her ex husband the entire date.
5) a Christian woman who seemed to have our roles all determined - a bike ride: she didn't tell me that her brakes were busted until I picked her up and she expected me to fix them because I'm the guy (I did). Then she treats the cashier like dirt when we go for ice cream afterward, then once outside, scolds a young man for smoking.
so out of all this, the ones I enjoyed most were #1 and #2, both of whom are not Christians. Then again, I don't want just a nominal Christian, but a woman who is growing in Christ and has a history of service. Perhaps I am too picky.
