People are extremely biased by their own culture/society when it comes to this passage.
It's really pretty simple.
The context in the chapter is speaking in the church, as in, from the "pulpit", or standing up and addressing the church. That context is clear, simply read through the chapter, without biases. "Speak" and "be silent" are in reference to public speaking in the church.
Paul gives guidelines in this chapter for "speaking" in the church. His last guideline, or rule rather, is that women are not permitted to speak, but let them be in subjection.
Is that really that hard to accept?
Consider this: how many times this past year did you "speak" in the church? Me: zero.
My point: even most men rarely, if ever, speak in the church. So why is it so hard to accept that the few speaking spots in the church service should be given to men?
Naturally the pastors/leaders will speak (and hopefully you believe the pastors/leaders should be men), and any other speaking spots can be given to aspiring men who need to exercise this leadership skill of speaking in the church.
And it seems to me that most of the churches and pastors who are soft on this, inevitably do let women not just "speak" but actually teach/preach/etc. and justify it by saying she's not teaching, when actually she is.
And, really, whether people acknowledge it or not, 1 Cor 14 and 1 Tim 2:11-13 are indeed parallel passages. Read 1 Tim 2:11-13:
A woman should learn in quietness and full submission.I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.For Adam was formed first, then Eve.
It's saying the same thing.
And it even gives creation as the basis for women being in submission in the church in this way (not culture or any special local circumstance).