Thank you for your response I think you are right but its just so hard to do that. When I was younger I always used water to put out the fire and not do the wrong thing. Now I'm older and more bitter its hard to stay that way and not try to make other people feel how they made me feel.
Yes, I hear you. It is hard to not respond to things from an area of pain and hurt. I am the same way. Sometimes, I have to just walk away from the forum for awhile and then respond or not respond at all...and being a writer and a very opinionated and chatty person with a black and white view of right and wrong, that is EXTREMELY hard for me.
But I'm learning.
The good thing is that the majority of people on here are forgiving and don't say things like, "In the other forum you..." or "I remember when you did this..." They realize that we are all human and get upset and say things out of emotion, rather than logic. That is why I stay here.
Very few are unforgiving and vindictive and those are the ones I avoid getting into discussions with...unless I am looking to argue.
This is a great place and, yes, just like anywhere else, you're going to meet button pushers. Hang in there, though, and glean the good wheat from amongst the weeds.
It's worth it in the end.