See there Grace Like Rain? There you go - it's Catwoman for Zaoman. Catwoman works for me too right at this very moment - right at this molecular stasis in forward time, Catwoman works.
What I'm trying to say.is we men spend most of our time being shallow Here at CC, I've seen intelligent men, introspective men, men with deeply religious roots and all of us playing in the shallow end of the pool. We're just not going to give you a satisfactory answer here. We're not going to give you what you're looking for unless one of our wild stabs at an answer happens to hit home.
This isn't to say we don't go to the deep end. I go there sometimes, usually underwater and always alone. So my short and shallow answer is that I think we men simply look for women that can swim - a lot of times with us and sometimes without.
Re-reading this sounds like I'm in a bad mood but I'm not. Just ....shallow!