Do you agree that sex is a need?

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Trudes

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Hello Everyone,
Do you agree that sex is a need? According to Maslow’s hierarchical pyramid, sex is a physiological need just as food is a need. If sex is in fact a need, then this explains why it is important for couples to get married and start a family.
However, what about single Christians who are not married, how do you suggest they control this need so that they would not sin against God?
 
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MissCris

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I've never heard of anyone dying from a lack of sex. A person doesn't eat for a certain amount of time, they die. A person doesn't have sex for a certain amount of time....yeah, they're still alive and kickin'.

I think sex is more about desires than needs. A desire can run deep, certainly, and the desire for sex and intimacy definitely is deeply rooted for many people, but no, I don't think sex is on the same need-for-survival level as food.


 
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Ugly

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No i don't. Sex is so difficult because its put on us from all around us. TV, music, news, etc... We are bombarded with sex, so we have this constantly being pushed on us, making us more aware.
There was also a study done by a man that said Children are sexual beings, and therefore, should be nothing wrong with children having sex, or even having sex with children. Just because some non-Christian qualifies something as 'normal' or necessary doesn't make it true. While i am a fan of psychology, mostly psychologist comes from an atheistic/evolutionary background. Or from a new age/spiritualism background. Both of these viewpoints often encourage uncontrolled sexuality.
For single Christians? Self control. I know the difficulty in it, as a single Christian myself, but really, that's the bottom line. As Christians we are taught and expected to exercise self control in so many areas, but yet sex is something many Christians excuse as being different. Renewing your mind, prayer and fighting off sexual thoughts. Retraining yourself to not dwell on the subject or desire. Which only serves to feed it.
And i'm not trying to make it sound easy. Its a lot of hard work. But its this or marriage.
 
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kenisyes

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The problem with getting information from psychologists, is that they use the meanings of words they were taught in psychology class. In some psychological theories, there are only two motivating factors, fear and sex. Fear keeps you from approaching people, sex causes you to overcome fear to approach people. Under such a theory, sex means overcoming fear to come together. The Bible is pretty clear that Christians ought to come together. Do not confuse this meaning with the common meaning. If you read more carefully, the hierarchy lists physical needs, of which sex is listed by some as an example, and belonging needs, of which sex is listed by some as an example. Sex is not a need for anyone not called by God to be married. Here's a responsible source illustrating what I am saying: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - Simply Psychology Note the absence of sex from the original model.
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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What we do is remain celibate. We don't have sex with other people until we're married. I haven't had sex with another person since I became a Christian and that was in 1984. Before I became a Christian I was sexually active with girlfriends outside of marriage (e.g. fornication).

Obviously, one CAN choose God's plan of celibacy before monogamous marriage.


Trudes said:
Hello Everyone,
Do you agree that sex is a need? According to Maslow’s hierarchical pyramid, sex is a physiological need just as food is a need. If sex is in fact a need, then this explains why it is important for couples to get married and start a family.
However, what about single Christians who are not married, how do you suggest they control this need so that they would not sin against God?
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ServantStrike

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Sex is not a need.

When I saw a doctor for insomnia, he asked me to see a psychologist to make sure there wasn't something else behavioral that was keeping me from sleeping. The psychologist asked me about sex and I told her I don't have any, nor do I allow myself to look at a woman that way. She said that was obsessive compulsive religious behaviour, and I said no, I prefer it that way until I get married, and even then there's only one woman that I can look at that way. I've had people tell me that's crazy and that you have to at least indulge in fantasy because no one can go completely without. You can :)

Mainstream psychology has bought the lie that sex is a need that must be met. Mainstream Christianity has clung to this lie as clinical proof that a culture of fornication and adultery is now acceptable within the church. The argument is that scriptures like Matthew 5:28 do not say what they say, and that they only refer to coveting a married man or woman (so it's okay other wise).

But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

I think Job might have something to say about that, if people couldn't already take Jesus' word for it. Job 31
“I have made a covenant with my eyes;
How then could I gaze at a virgin?

While it would certainly be nice, we as Christians do not need it, as we are sanctified by Christ and the Holy Spirit gives us strength that we would not other wise have.

The church could experience such a magnificent revival if the body of the Church would start behaving more Christ like and cast off the chains of sexual depravity. The floodgates would open and the Holy Spirit would be so very strong.
 
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jimmydiggs

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Trudes said:
Hello Everyone,
Do you agree that sex is a need? According to Maslow’s hierarchical pyramid, sex is a physiological need just as food is a need. If sex is in fact a need, then this explains why it is important for couples to get married and start a family.
However, what about single Christians who are not married, how do you suggest they control this need so that they would not sin against God?
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Christianity + secular anti-christian psychology = bad things
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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I've met genuine Christians that are psychologists and psychiatrists. Their practices are decidedly different than their secular counter-parts, however.

Society for Christian Psychology —

Instead of telling their clients that getting laid will solve all their problems, they actually work through the problems to solutions... lol.

jimmydiggs said:
Christianity + secular anti-christian psychology = bad things
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ServantStrike

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AgeofKnowledge said:
I've met genuine Christians that are psychologists and psychiatrists. Their practices are decidedly different than their secular counter-parts, however.

Society for Christian Psychology —

Instead of telling their clients that getting laid will solve all their problems, they actually work through the problems to solutions... lol.
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Oh yes, but that is such an unusual combination these days. And they always are the first to get accused of improperly indoctrinating their clients.

They do exist, but it seems so few of them are there teaching new students these days due to how liberal universities are.
 
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The world cannot comprehend the value of waiting and abstaining and saving sex for marriage. I believe sex is a need in marriage only, but not a need as one requires food or drink or shelter, but a need for drawing closer and intimacy and such. The Word tells that in marriage, the abstaining from sex must be a mutual agreement between husband and wife and that one should not withhold it from the other as punishment or out of anger. So, in that respect, indeed, but, as I said, not to the level this article is trying to state it at.

I went to a couple of counselors, once for surgery and a couple of other times just to talk about my feelings. Two of them, when asked if I was dating and I replied no, both asked if there was a chance I was homosexual, to which I replied, "No. I just don't believe in sex outside of marriage. I'm a Christian." The sad thing was one of these counselors advertised herself as a Christian counselor.

The devil is working overtime to perpetrate his lies so that he can destroy as many people as possible and this is one of the ways. I agree with a lot of the posts above. I have been saving myself for marriage. I am 33 and I am still alive. I have no ill effects from abstaining from sex. However, had I been abstaining for 33 years from food or some other form of nourishment...well, I wouldn't be alive, would I? Or, if I was, I'd be very unhealthy. So, yeah, there are some strange doctrines out there.
 
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colalella2891

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Well, God gave us hormones and other things. Starting in the teens, we get urges. So it can be hard to control ourselves. I don't know why God made us this way.

I wouldn't consider sex a need. Not that's it's not important though. But basically a need is something you can't live without. You can't really put sex in the same category as food and water, without food or water you'll die. You can live without sex. It's not easy, but it can still be done.
 
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letti

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Sex isn't a need but I am sure some people think it is because they desire it.I't is part of a need to reproduce,and for intimacy in marriage but it has limitations, boundaries it has it's correct purpose and it can be sinful when people go against what it was intended for.
 
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Christaly

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The Bible gives us the advice to get married, If someone as a Christian is struggling to resist the urge to have sex, according to 1 Corinthians 7 : 8 and 9. A christian should know personally where he or she stands when looking at this subject, am I able to have self-control when dealing with this matter? or should I get married due to the fact that its hard to control the urge of committing fornication? Not forgetting that fornication can also be done with the mind. (Matthew 5: 27-30, though its about adultery, fornication is also a sexual sin, it's just before marriage).

Then there are also Christians that are struggling with sexual desires, but that are not willing to be in a relationship. In this case God is the only one that can help out in His way, the right way to bring that person to the right decision.

By the way :) , God knows the desires of the heart of his children. Meaning He will send someone for that person that desires sex and will strengthen those who don't really view it as necessary.
 
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Trudes

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HI Misscriss,
I do agree with you. Unfortunately sex can be a very strong desire. Paul was a good example of someone who did not let this desire cause him to sin. He didn't have a spouse and we didn't have affairs. He is a good example this can be controlled.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I don't need to have sex, but i do need to eat so i won't kill anybody.
 
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Trudes

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Well said, I do agree with you. Every day we are bombarded by sexually explicit images. It is pretty sad. Unfortunately, it is being taught in schools that sex is a need. This makes it very challenging for some to exercise necessary self control. Thank God Jesus was our living example here on earth.
 
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Trudes

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Thanks Kenisyes for sharing your input with us. I agree although we are taught one thing in school, the bible is our reliable source.
 
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Trudes

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Hi Ageofknowledge, I commend you for remaining faithful. I believe without a strong spiritual connection with the Lord celibacy is quite a challenge. We also should not sin in our thoughts (lust after others). This is only done by the gace of God.
 
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Trudes

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I agree with you ServantStrike, the church would greately improved if it weren't for sexual depravity among its members. Many men and women in the word and even in the church are struggling with sexual sins. I lost count of the various politicians who were kicked out of office because of there secret affairs. This same fornication is common in the church today. I think these issues should be addressed in the church because it may save many from falling into this temptation.

Some of us, in the church, are like Joseph and flee from temptations while others fall into temptation like King David. These two great men loved the Lord very much. I think it is definately human to err, but we should strive daily to be like Christ.
 
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Trudes

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It is good that you are strong in the Lord. It seems like those counselors were trying to make you feel discontent becasue you were not having sex. I am sure they might have discourged many people this way.
 
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