Does he just want sex?

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Shouryu

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AprilAngel said:
no not every guy. good advise though :D
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Yes, every guy, Christian or not. It's not a spiritual thing, it's biological. But it's not really an addiction, so much as it is...a constant preoccupation. Those of us who were raised in the Word, as Paul says, rely on Christ to help bring our bodies into submission. But even the most Christ-like peers I had through high school and college confessed that they continually struggled with sexual temptation. This was well before the prevalence of internet porn, as well. Living in Christ doesn't make young men exempt from our biology, it just gives us the strength to persevere.

So that nice 22-year old Christian gentleman you may be chatting with? He IS wrestling with it, I promise you. He's just winning...because we can do all things in Christ, who strengthens us.
 
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Tintin

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Jessica, you seem like a sweet, mature Christian girl. I think you're right to ask people here at CC for help. As others have already said, I would stay well away from this guy. As God for his guidance and continue to honour your body and God by doing what is right by him.
 
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Was this a thread were everyone agreed with me?

SUCCESS!
 
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STAY AWAY from this person. Cut off all ties with him. He is nothing more than an opportunist and would throw you out after he gets what he wants. You have so much value and worth, Jessica. The RIGHT guy that God has for you will treat you well, like gold. He will not pressure you into doing something that you do not want to do.
 
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[h=3]Proverbs 31:30 ESV / 15 helpful votes[/h]Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
 
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GreenNnice

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Shouryu said:
Yes, every guy, Christian or not. It's not a spiritual thing, it's biological. But it's not really an addiction, so much as it is...a constant preoccupation. Those of us who were raised in the Word, as Paul says, rely on Christ to help bring our bodies into submission. But even the most Christ-like peers I had through high school and college confessed that they continually struggled with sexual temptation. This was well before the prevalence of internet porn, as well. Living in Christ doesn't make young men exempt from our biology, it just gives us the strength to persevere.

So that nice 22-year old Christian gentleman you may be chatting with? He IS wrestling with it, I promise you. He's just winning...because we can do all things in Christ, who strengthens us.
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Shobro, seems like when you speak, I picture you speaking just like that melancholy, solemn, even, sleeping-looking, off-red pony in your avatar, but your words that come out speak 'great' wisdom (from Him) and this post is def nooooooo exception :)

I also appreciate seeing soooo many passionate posts to this sweet 17 year old girl and I pray God blesses you and keeps you all in Him for your response to her that is, like shobro's, from Him :)
 
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JessicaMae

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Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
 
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I'm so glad to hear that, Jessica :)! Huge hugs <3 :)!
 
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JessicaMae said:
Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
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I hope everything goes well :)
 
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JessicaMae said:
Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
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Good to hear. I'm not sure if this happens or will happen, but something else to keep in mind is don't let him make you feel guilty. He may try to act hurt, or like he really did care about your friendship, or accuse you of being mean, but stick to your guns and don't let him make you feel as though you chose wrong, not even for a second.
 
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GreenNnice

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I 'like' post #47 .

God bless you, Jess. Now, be brave, let the Lord lead your life, get into His Word, get into church, and, let Him minister to you, as, IF you let Him speak through your pastor on this Sunday. If you really pray to God, your pastor will be speaking as if He is speaking ONLY to you. 'Course, that is not true, because God speaks to so many through a preacher who is speaking from His Truth, the b-i-b-l-e :)

Pray, too, for the blood of Christ protection, just like Israel did when they were to smear blood on their doors so God swept past there doors and did not kill their firstborn child. God protects those who ask for protection from Him, and, not just for physical protection, but emotional protection and social protection even, to be able to have the strength in YOU that is from Him to stave off those who are, maybe, even from Christ, but are HAVING problems with understanding the sacrament way of marriage as through Scripture and, I pray, YOU, too, are a great testimony of Christ to this sex-speaking guy, of what a good girl REALLY wants to do: follow Him. Pray to Him for strength now, for how to get to His next great step in life for you, milady :) "...you follow Me." John 21:22

God bless you for coming to christianchat too , spend some time n the forums, like the 'teen' forum and, of course, the Lord leads, you are welcome here too :)
 
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mystdancer50 said:
Run far away. Fast! Flee sexual immorality. This man seems to be overly focused on this very thing, so run away from this relationship and don't look back.
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Agree with mystdancer ^^^^^^

Keep your virginity it's really really precious

Good luck with shaking this guy off...You can do it ! :)
 
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JessicaMae said:
Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
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So proud of you!! I know that wasn't easy to do. You show great wisdom and good choices. :)
 
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ServantStrike

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Shouryu said:
Yes, every guy, Christian or not. It's not a spiritual thing, it's biological. But it's not really an addiction, so much as it is...a constant preoccupation. Those of us who were raised in the Word, as Paul says, rely on Christ to help bring our bodies into submission. But even the most Christ-like peers I had through high school and college confessed that they continually struggled with sexual temptation. This was well before the prevalence of internet porn, as well. Living in Christ doesn't make young men exempt from our biology, it just gives us the strength to persevere.

So that nice 22-year old Christian gentleman you may be chatting with? He IS wrestling with it, I promise you. He's just winning...because we can do all things in Christ, who strengthens us.
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Ehh, yes and no.

Does every man think about it on occasion, yes, but the more you live in Christ the more you can cut it off. Other than a weird thought out of the blue it becomes more of "holy crap she's really hot", "now wait just a minute, shut up and think about something else." You have to be careful though, trees can start to look attractive...


Now if you're talking bolts out of the blue, then yeah, I don't know a man alive who hasn't had to guard himself against those. The non Christians (and the faux Christians) just ignore the whole struggle and do whatever they want, so no guarding required.

That, and biologically, there is a clock on a man just like on a woman, it's just not as well defined and gets laughed at. For all those who doubt it though, I've heard even the manliest of men break down and say "I have needs."
 
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kenthomas27

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JessicaMae said:
Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
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Well, as taps play ever so softly for this poor man's mojo, it's clear he never knew what hit him. He spotted his target, aimed as he was trained to do and never realized he was flanked by a hundred of ChristianChat's finest.

It was a slaughter.
 
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Tintin

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JessicaMae said:
Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
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Good on you, mate. Blunt is good. Very good.
 
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Ugly

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JessicaMae said:
Thanks everyone for the great advice, I may have justified his actions a little bit..okay a ton.
But I'm happy to let everyone know that I told to quit talking to me. A little blunt but I think it got the job done nicely.
Once again thanks.
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Men need blunt. I wish more women understood this. So blunt was likely the needed method. Especially with a guy like this.
 
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Ringer

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JessicaMae said:
This guy has made it very clear that he wants to have sex and we have only been talking a few days. I have basically flat out told him he is not having sex with me, multiple times. Anytime he starts to mention sex or anything I tell him it is not gonna happen and he quits talking or hinting at it for a while. A lot of times when he brings up sex though he does it in a 'sweet' way like first i have to win your heart and other things along those line. He is really pushing me to hang out with him but I am very hesitant because I don't want to be pushed beyond what I want, because I know people can get caught up in the moment. He is very sweet and I don't think he would push beyond it, and i know he would stop if I told him to. But the fact that it is constantly on his mind makes me question his motives. Let me just add he is in the National Guard and just got back from duty. So it might be built up tension from being on duty for so long? I don't know...I'm just guessing. He also knows I'm a virgin, and likes to say witty remarks about it, trying to get me on the topic of sex. I know his friends are pushing him to have sex with me because they have liked me for a couple years now and whenever he is with his friends his texts and the way he talks kinda changes.
Does he just want sex? Should I quit talking to him or keep telling him how I feel about it and see if he quits. I don't know what to do, advice or anything would be awesome.
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Uhm...
This is going to be strange, and totally off topic... but what the hell...

Dump him.
Wait until your 18th birthday, by which time I will buy an engagement ring and propose to you.
=)

If what you're posting is correct then we both share the same values, we'll make it work.
The age difference shouldn't be too bad.
 
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MissCris

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Ringer said:
Uhm...
This is going to be strange, and totally off topic... but what the hell...

Dump him.
Wait until your 18th birthday, by which time I will buy an engagement ring and propose to you.
=)

If what you're posting is correct then we both share the same values, we'll make it work.
The age difference shouldn't be too bad.
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I would just like to point out the um..."creepy"...factor here.

Nothing personal, of course.
 
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