Do you agree that sex is a need?

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Trudes

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I agree with you Colalella2891. Sex is a strong desire for most people. What makes it challenging is that we are constantly shown sex images on tv shows, song videos, movies, news etc. We are overexposed and so self-control is even more difficulty. Remember the story of Joseph how he had to flew from that woman. Joseph is a good example of self-control.
 
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Trudes

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I agree letti. I think also that the desire for sex may be very strong for some who were accustomed to having sex prior to becoming a christian.
 
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Trudes

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Hi Christaly,
I agree sex is not a need. Self-control is very important as christians. Too many people loose self control and have regrets.
 
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Trudes

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I think the people who believe sex is a need are probably looking for an excuse to do what-ever they please.
 
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Trudes

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Thanks for commenting. The wordly teaching is one of the main problems.
 
TheAristocat

TheAristocat

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Trudes said:
Hello Everyone,
Do you agree that sex is a need? According to Maslow’s hierarchical pyramid, sex is a physiological need just as food is a need. If sex is in fact a need, then this explains why it is important for couples to get married and start a family.
However, what about single Christians who are not married, how do you suggest they control this need so that they would not sin against God?
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The more sex you get the more sex you want. What you sew you reap. You get accustomed to satisfying a desire. Which in turn makes it more "necessary" to satisfy it the next time. Which doesn't really matter if you're married. But if you're not married it's not a good idea. Anyway, sex is not a need in the way that one needs food. Sex is a need in the way that one needs good, western food. I'm 27. Never had sex. And the older I get the less my body "needs" it. So apart from the obligatory snickering this post requires of some random atheist, I think it proves that these psychiatrists are rather misguided.
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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Well that doesn't mean I haven't struggled with sexual desire or the flood of filth the devil pushes on the whole world. I have like every other male single or married. But I have minimized it to the best of my ability and I do have a good heart. The rest is God's grace, of course.

The point is that having sex with other people is something that is within our control. We can qualify the people we choose to associate with and what we do or don't do with them. We can choose where we physically go and spend our time.

Sexual abstinence from other people before monogamous marriage is fully within our capability and I have NO special gift in this area. None. I feel everything the rest of you do and I come from an abusive broken family to boot. So if I can practice sexual abstinence from other people since 1984, then so can you... lol.

But we're designed to have sex so go ahead and find suitable mate and get married and have sex. I would have liked that but it just didn't happen for me. You go ahead though. :)


Trudes said:
Hi Ageofknowledge, I commend you for remaining faithful. I believe without a strong spiritual connection with the Lord celibacy is quite a challenge. We also should not sin in our thoughts (lust after others). This is only done by the gace of God.
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Trudes

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Thanks Aristocrat for sharing your comment. I have a friend in her 40's who is a virgin. She told me she doesn't think about it. On the other hand, two other friends who were also virgins, admitted to having strong desires for sex especially when under stress. Anyhow, I do agree it is not a need.
 
TheKringledOne

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Some people are more asexual than others.

Either way, it is not a need.
 
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cmarieh

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I don't agree that it is a need. Like driving, it is a privilege, not a right. Think about that some men, they become impotent at some point in their lifetime and though it may be difficult on them and their partners, they won't die. I feel the people that feel it is a need they are addicted to sex and that is very dangerous. People that are addicted to sex, it ruins their lives, marriages, family, and themselves.
 
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Trudes

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This is quite interesting. I wonder if someone can train themselves to be asexual? I think it is possible.
 
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Richie_2uk

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No, I would say sex is more of a demand. poor children starving is a need, lose some weight is a need. Sex is for pleasure, and pleasure is not a need. Though there are those who demand sex to keep them satisfied in the lust, there perversions and immorality. And no offence! Lust is not a need, perversions is not a need. Men and women don't need sex, but sex needs men and women. and that's the closest to need.

Sex is a controller of men and women. So the question is? do you need to be controlled by sex? No, would be the answer, however, sex does controls us men and women. So then people are reliant on sex, and possibly give the impression that it's a need.

The need to repent from sexual perversions, sexual immorality, lust, and any way sex is used in the wrong way, that will be more of a need.
 
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OGM

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No...sex is not a need. There are many people in the World that are not...and will never be...sexually active. I person can only live a few weeks without food...a few days without water...a few minutes without air.
 
jandian

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Sex is a need in the context of marriage only. God places a high value on the activity there, so much that he gives guidelines for not having it (I Cor 7:). If you starve your marriage of sex, there is great potential for it to die. Just saying.....
 
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nw2u

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Trudes said:
HI Misscriss,
I do agree with you. Unfortunately sex can be a very strong desire. Paul was a good example of someone who did not let this desire cause him to sin.He didn't have a spouse and we didn't have affairs. He is a good example this can be controlled.
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Can you point me to the scripture?
 
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nw2u

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T_Laurich said:
That he didn't have a spouse???
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No. I thought I read in one of his letters that he said it wasn't a sin or bad or something to have sex if you are not married, but better if you can wait. I wanted some clarification and a little better understanding.
 
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nw2u

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Also, I didn't realize this was the young adults forum when I first posted. I guess in my understanding, I am "young". I will get out of here if I am out of place. I don't meant to derail anything.
 
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Bryancampbell

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Sorry I want to first and lastly answer the thread title question.

do you agree sex is a need?

Well it's a yes and no answer for this question.

Yes, worldwide and within martial status:

1. For humanity to continue populating the earth.
2. If it's one of the things to keep a relationship with a spouse strong (optional if you figured other ways to opt this out)

No, individually:

1. Compared to water and food? Of course not.
2. You die of starvation, you still live in abstinence.

Sex isn't essential to an individual with and w/o a partner. Also don't listen to human philosophy, that stuff isn't Christian.
 
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Trudes

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I agree with you. However, the strong desire for sexual gratification will cause many not to make it to heaven. But this desire must be controlled.
 
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