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Seriously this question could so make a good plot line for a good chick flick or romance novel. Like gosh..um..if I thought long and hard about it, and I genuinely thought the other girl was a better match for the guy, I'd consider it. But I'd pray about it first before I step aside. Geez definitely a hard question -_-
I call this the Matador.
I've done it, its been done to me and it never seems to end very pretty.
Essentially, you know they like you BUT, deliver them another target whilst simultaneously plunging a sword into their heart.
"(Liamson), we should get coffee."
"sure, do you mind if I bring a friend?"
"um, okay but, I thought......"
"Yay, perfect"
*You show up with a friend, you think will like them and then leave suddenly to take care of something somewhere else*
It seems diabolical at the time but, chances are they liked you, not who you think they should like.
I've done it, its been done to me and it never seems to end very pretty.
Essentially, you know they like you BUT, deliver them another target whilst simultaneously plunging a sword into their heart.
"(Liamson), we should get coffee."
"sure, do you mind if I bring a friend?"
"um, okay but, I thought......"
"Yay, perfect"
*You show up with a friend, you think will like them and then leave suddenly to take care of something somewhere else*
It seems diabolical at the time but, chances are they liked you, not who you think they should like.
D
Na, not if they like me more than the other person. Logic doesn't apply to situations like this.....people can be the best logical choice for you but if you don't like em in that way and you don't click when your together......no amount of good reasons why you should be together matter......However, if I'm dating someone and they decide they like someone else more......they're free to go for it.....I never look at another person like they are my property.
I've done this before, this year, actually.
In May, I had a small crush on this one guy (different than the one I have now that I mentioned in the other thread...see what I mean?
) and I thought he liked me back. A good friend of mine also had a crush on him. I knew I had no chance, and that my crushes passed so easily, so I told her to go for it. In August, they started dating, and they are doing well.
This is probably a little different than what you're talking about, Jules, since mine was so small, just a crush and not really a genuine interest. But to answer the question, I think that I'd do it. A small part of it would be out of insecurity, in a "Oh, well of course he'd like her better, she's better than me" way (which is dumb and I'm doing better at not doing that), but mostly it would be just knowing that ultimately, someone else would be better for them as well as for me.
In May, I had a small crush on this one guy (different than the one I have now that I mentioned in the other thread...see what I mean?
) and I thought he liked me back. A good friend of mine also had a crush on him. I knew I had no chance, and that my crushes passed so easily, so I told her to go for it. In August, they started dating, and they are doing well. This is probably a little different than what you're talking about, Jules, since mine was so small, just a crush and not really a genuine interest. But to answer the question, I think that I'd do it. A small part of it would be out of insecurity, in a "Oh, well of course he'd like her better, she's better than me" way (which is dumb and I'm doing better at not doing that), but mostly it would be just knowing that ultimately, someone else would be better for them as well as for me.
J
Rachel, I can't imagine anyone being better than you...ever.
For me, it's not really about someone being a better person than another, but rather some people being more compatible than others, you know? They may have the same experiences, similar interests/beliefs/hopes for the future/etc.....and you may not share those things.
For me, it's not really about someone being a better person than another, but rather some people being more compatible than others, you know? They may have the same experiences, similar interests/beliefs/hopes for the future/etc.....and you may not share those things.
K
Exactly this would be my response. I don't havea right to decide for someone else, nor does anyone has a right to decide who is better or more compatible for me (except God, obviously). If things don't work out, I'll walk away, but if there aren't any problems in our relationship then I don't have to create problems myself.
