Alone on a Friday Night?

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ckbones

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A Christian single mother... Its Friday night and the kids are off with their father for the weekend. You’ve scrolled through your contacts on your phone, and Facebook, and everyone else has plans. You’ve run out of friends to call, and you’re flying solo. What do you do?
 
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A Christian single mother... Its Friday night and the kids are off with their father for the weekend. You’ve scrolled through your contacts on your phone, and Facebook, and everyone else has plans. You’ve run out of friends to call, and you’re flying solo. What do you do?
Spend the evening with the Holy Spirit.
 

rachelsedge

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I'm an introvert and enjoy spending time alone, so that isn't so much an issue for me. :)

If you're talking about yourself, though, perhaps you could use that time to catch up on things? Clean with no distractions, take a relaxing bath, read a book, bake something tasty, read your Bible, get things ready for the next week, write your kids little notes of appreciation and put them on their pillows for when they get back, the list goes on!
 
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woka

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If you are wanting to get out then how about a movie? Window shopping with a super large ice cream is always a great idea, or browsing in a good book store for me is always nice......
 
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Arlene89

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Hahaha, I had a case of this last night. Saturday night, and all my friends were busy as well (not that I have many these days). Usually, I am okay with this, I'm good at entertaining myself. However, it bothered me greatly last night. I was avoiding God yesterday and wanted someone to quickly fill that aching spot within me. I even messaged some of my old drinking buddies who I haven't spoken to in almost a year. No one got back to me (I honestly can't blame them). I considered a lot of stupid things to do with my night but eventually I gave up and laid in bed. As I did I cried out to God and wept, and He filled that aching spot in my heart. I slept peacefully, woke up rested, and feel okay this Sunday morning.
 
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ckbones

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To Arlene, Cry out to God... That is exactly what I usually do and I usually God does fill that aching spot, but the question that remain in my heart is...... How long will it be this way??????
 
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Arlene89

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As long as you let Him, I guess. I think there are times when he cradles us in His arms, and after a short time, like a father, He will put us down to walk for ourselves. I believe I'm not always in a fuzzy, warm spot with God because He wants me to seek Him and to go to that secret place where all my attention and affections can be on Him. The Lord wants for us to be the kind of people that seek Him out daily, for all things whether great or small.

He wants us to draw close to Him so He can draw close to us. The Lord is a gentleman, He knocks, but it is up to us to open that door. There is nothing more Jesus wants for us than to be more like Him. They say you become more like the one you worship, so I guess as Christians we need to be in a position of constant communication and relationship with Him, to allow that transformation to take place. If we want Him to fill the aches of loneliness, then we need to be in a place of complete surrender, we need to be in a place in our mind and hearts where we know our God is a God that listens, a Father that will pick you up when you lift your arms up to Him, a Husband that will hold you tight, a Friend that will listen to anything and all things.

Run to Him and He'll be there.

(I totally just ministered to myself just then)
 
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zaoman32

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Ugh, I know the feeling all to well. It didn't help that I would make plans to do something and then bail because I just didn't feel like it anymore. So last night I actually forced myself to go out and do something, I ended up running into some friends who invited me into their little group, and rather than ducking out early (as I usually do when I do this kind of thing) they all forced me to sit down and stay put. I was really incognito the whole night, but it was something to do, and everyone wanted me there, so it was awesome.

I gave the whole loneliness thing up to God, and He has been filling and providing that empty spot in my heart. Sometimes God fills it but just showing up when I pray or read my bible, other times when I'm pushed to go out and do something, and I get to see people that actually care about me. Give up your loneliness and He will provide in somehow, and someway. You know your desires, so does He.
 

Misty77

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One rare childless Friday night, I looked online for something to do. I thought a singles event could be fun. It turns out that if you are planning to go to a restaurant or bar, your choices in Dallas are pretty slim. I thought about going to a marriage conference and picking off the stragglers. :)

Sometimes I still feel lonely, but for the most part I try to enjoy the peace. I volunteer for the magazine that my church puts out, so quiet nights are a perfect time to edit. Or read a good (nonromantic) book. Or soak in the tub with a good moscato and netflix playing on the ipad. We have to learn to be grateful for what we have instead of focusing on what we lost.
 

zeroturbulence

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A Christian single mother... Its Friday night and the kids are off with their father for the weekend. You’ve scrolled through your contacts on your phone, and Facebook, and everyone else has plans. You’ve run out of friends to call, and you’re flying solo. What do you do?
I don't know, but you're probably not an introvert..

 
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Ugly

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This sounds like most nights to me. I have learned to not rely on others for entertainment. I go to movies alone, eat out alone, do whatever i want... alone. If i eat out a take a book or just sit and watch people. If i need friendship, i don't go out for it, i go online.
 
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Hellooo

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Google local events in your city and go out and do something..catch a movie, go on an art walk, museum, concert, etc.

Or stay in and take a long bath, with candles and a good book/really good music.
 
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Jullianna

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I actually like to be alone. Not all the time, but most of the time.
 

Misty77

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One rare childless Friday night, I looked online for something to do. I thought a singles event could be fun. It turns out that if you are planning to go to a restaurant or bar, your choices in Dallas are pretty slim. I thought about going to a marriage conference and picking off the stragglers. :)

Sometimes I still feel lonely, but for the most part I try to enjoy the peace. I volunteer for the magazine that my church puts out, so quiet nights are a perfect time to edit. Or read a good (nonromantic) book. Or soak in the tub with a good moscato and netflix playing on the ipad. We have to learn to be grateful for what we have instead of focusing on what we lost.
Oops! That should have been "if you are NOT planning to go to a restaurant or bar..."
 

maxwel

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Apr 18, 2013
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ckbones,

If you were a man, you could just spend time alone in your man-cave, doing man-things.

And... you'd find burping and scratching to be deeply satisfying.

: )
 
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Hellooo

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oops, I thought the original poster said she was from Dallas. Disregard.
 
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I normally enjoy alone-time, but I've had a few of these sorts of weekends. Those were the times I ended up checking into on-line dating.



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