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i'll run, i'll tackle, i'll squeeze the life out of them like a brother or sister lol not kidding i ran a half mile just to take down a friend from bible study and i swear i broke her ribI don’t think it’s appropriate for a man to front hug a woman who is not his wife. It could incite inappropriate feelings and we are not to create stumbling blocks for others or ourselves. In my church, women only hug women and men hug men if they want to or offer handshake. Between family members, side hugs are fine.
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I don't understand exactly why this is an big issue. Usually I hug anyone who offers me a hug, or I shake hands. When someone (usually any aged woman) hugs me, I feel loved, not inappropriately. Has the church of God gone as far as being so negatively distant to even touch one another that it "incites" sometimes feelings? People use to always kiss and hug all the time in the biblical times for fellowship. I know the world is secular, but in school almost everyone hugs there friends, I use to hug even my guy friends and girls with or without a boyfriends, it's a form of greeting, how is it that those secular people have more self control than some churches? The contrast amazes me. There are even people who are sexually abused and things that still hug people because they might feel loved instead of distant. Of course don't force yourself on someone, if there is a problem or such, ask or wait for them to decide to hug you.
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We have opinions but, what saith the scripture?
1 Corinthians 7:1 - "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman."
This is clear, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Men of course can shake women's hands if they're greeting them, of course discretion is needed. Why does someone need to get so close to someone's body to greet or to say goodbye to them when they're with the church? They don't and it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
1 Corinthians 7:1 - "Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman."
This is clear, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Men of course can shake women's hands if they're greeting them, of course discretion is needed. Why does someone need to get so close to someone's body to greet or to say goodbye to them when they're with the church? They don't and it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Hi J-Kay-2
I don't see anything wrong with it if its in truth in JESUS name(i mean if its done without any bad intentions.... ie (lust)
When they say turn to your neighbor and greet them,i think they are putting a works mentality on people that don't want to do it.If its not in truth then they are influencing us to sin because if someone is hugging someone they do not really want to hug,then they are doing it because its the right,good, traditional thing to do when in church.
If we don't believe(have faith) that hugging that person is what we want to do and you hug them anyway,then that is sin.
Romans 14:23
viewing the king james version(kjv)
23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin
I don't see anything wrong with it if its in truth in JESUS name(i mean if its done without any bad intentions.... ie (lust)
When they say turn to your neighbor and greet them,i think they are putting a works mentality on people that don't want to do it.If its not in truth then they are influencing us to sin because if someone is hugging someone they do not really want to hug,then they are doing it because its the right,good, traditional thing to do when in church.
If we don't believe(have faith) that hugging that person is what we want to do and you hug them anyway,then that is sin.
Romans 14:23
viewing the king james version(kjv)
23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin
I live in the south and we are known as huggers. With that said, in church, if the person is somebody I know well, I will give them a huge hug. If the person is someone I do not know, I shake their hand warmly and introduce myself to them. I want there to be something personal there but, not something that would or could be offensive in the eyes of God. I would also never hug a man that my husband would not feel comfortable with me hugging. Luckily, I attend a small church and we are a close group. The non-hugging is usually for people visiting our church.
K
My youth would probably Lynch anyone who suggested removing hugs, actually the church tried that once it didn't work. This is how we hug at my youth.
[video=youtube;zpjTRguOoIw]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpjTRguOoIw[/video]
I mean, in the bible they greeted with a kiss even men. Now, they are trying to ban physical contact in schools, I think that is wrong.
Hug, noun: A way of making someone feel all warm and fuzzy inside without being weird about it
"You can't wrap love in a box, but you can wrap a person in a hug."
"Everybody needs a hug. It changes your metabolism."
"Hugging closes the door to hate."
There have been so many times when I was feeling down or alone, and just a hug snapped me out of it.
Hugging is good medicine. It transfers energy, and gives the person hugged an emotional boost. You need four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the largest organ we have and it needs a great deal of care. A hug can cover a lot of skin and gives the message that you care. It is also a form of communication. It can say things you don't have words for. The nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can't give one without getting one.
There's a reason the world is trying to remove hugging from school. hugging is a way to show love, love belongs to God. So they try to remove it, we should be seperate from them, we should spread the love.
"Oh I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug 10 people at a time."
Sorry for the rant, but if you couldn't tell I'm Pro-Hugs
[video=youtube;zpjTRguOoIw]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpjTRguOoIw[/video]
I mean, in the bible they greeted with a kiss even men. Now, they are trying to ban physical contact in schools, I think that is wrong.
Hug, noun: A way of making someone feel all warm and fuzzy inside without being weird about it
"You can't wrap love in a box, but you can wrap a person in a hug."
"Everybody needs a hug. It changes your metabolism."
"Hugging closes the door to hate."
There have been so many times when I was feeling down or alone, and just a hug snapped me out of it.
Hugging is good medicine. It transfers energy, and gives the person hugged an emotional boost. You need four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the largest organ we have and it needs a great deal of care. A hug can cover a lot of skin and gives the message that you care. It is also a form of communication. It can say things you don't have words for. The nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can't give one without getting one.
There's a reason the world is trying to remove hugging from school. hugging is a way to show love, love belongs to God. So they try to remove it, we should be seperate from them, we should spread the love.
"Oh I love hugging. I wish I was an octopus, so I could hug 10 people at a time."
Sorry for the rant, but if you couldn't tell I'm Pro-Hugs
Tin gets 20 points for using the word "glomp". (I was going to give you 10 points but that made my sentence sound redundant. Your gain.)
Keegan, everything you said was AWESOME. I am pro-hugs! And there's nothing inappropriate about a proper hug. For single people especially... human touch is important! Single people may not have the benefit of human contact throughout their entire week. Affection in this way is a basic human need.
Some people in my church are huggers and some aren't. You can tell pretty quick via body language who the huggers are. (They will glomp you. Hahahaaa...) Anyway, there are two older men in my church who hug me and sometimes actually drop a kiss on the top of my head in a absentminded way. These are father figures to me. I cannot express to you how loved this makes me feel. It makes me feel like a beloved daughter. I want to cry just thinking about the love expressed in that simple gesture. THIS is a close fellowship of believers who share their lives and souls with one another. It feels very much as I imagine a church in Paul's day might have felt. I've heard many visitors say that our church is the most loving church they've ever been to. It isn't a perfect church, but we do deeply love one another as a family.
Of course, we don't hug visitors... unless we feel moved to. I have felt a connection with someone when meeting them that led to a hug. In general though, a handshake is a good rule for people you don't know very well.
Keegan, everything you said was AWESOME. I am pro-hugs! And there's nothing inappropriate about a proper hug. For single people especially... human touch is important! Single people may not have the benefit of human contact throughout their entire week. Affection in this way is a basic human need.
Some people in my church are huggers and some aren't. You can tell pretty quick via body language who the huggers are. (They will glomp you. Hahahaaa...) Anyway, there are two older men in my church who hug me and sometimes actually drop a kiss on the top of my head in a absentminded way. These are father figures to me. I cannot express to you how loved this makes me feel. It makes me feel like a beloved daughter. I want to cry just thinking about the love expressed in that simple gesture. THIS is a close fellowship of believers who share their lives and souls with one another. It feels very much as I imagine a church in Paul's day might have felt. I've heard many visitors say that our church is the most loving church they've ever been to. It isn't a perfect church, but we do deeply love one another as a family.
Of course, we don't hug visitors... unless we feel moved to. I have felt a connection with someone when meeting them that led to a hug. In general though, a handshake is a good rule for people you don't know very well.