I have found that a startling number of divorced men exhibit these two characteristics:
1.) They are still very bitter towards their ex-wives and bring them them up in conversation often.
2.) They take no responsibility for the divorce, even if they filed for it. The ex-wife is entirely to blame.
Ok I'm sure there are women out there who are to blame. I'm sure there are evil ex-wives who have plotted the destruction of their husbands. But 95% of ex-wives are evil incarnate?! Really?
It's really frustrating! Three different times I have met men who claimed they were past their ex-wives. The email exchange went fine. Then when we sat down for coffee I ended up being stuck listening to these guys consistently rehash the problems of their past marriage. One guy I actually listened to for TWO HOURS. (I will never do that again. I will just get up and leave. Talk about lesson learned.)
Me: So do you like to hike?
Divorced guy: My ex-wife had energy issues so we never hiked very much.....
Me again: Ok, so do *you* like to hike?
Divorced guy: Well I did before I met my ex-wife.
(Rinse & Repeat)
AAAHHHHHH!!! I even instituted a rule: no dating men who have been divorced less than two years. No dice. They still seem to be unable to hold a conversation without bringing up the ex-wife.
I'm seriously thinking about carrying the business cards of a local counselor and passing them out on dates. Just slide one across the table and say- hey give him/her a call.
Why does it seem that divorced men stay broken and oozing pain longer than women?
Has anyone else had this experience?
1.) They are still very bitter towards their ex-wives and bring them them up in conversation often.
2.) They take no responsibility for the divorce, even if they filed for it. The ex-wife is entirely to blame.
Ok I'm sure there are women out there who are to blame. I'm sure there are evil ex-wives who have plotted the destruction of their husbands. But 95% of ex-wives are evil incarnate?! Really?
It's really frustrating! Three different times I have met men who claimed they were past their ex-wives. The email exchange went fine. Then when we sat down for coffee I ended up being stuck listening to these guys consistently rehash the problems of their past marriage. One guy I actually listened to for TWO HOURS. (I will never do that again. I will just get up and leave. Talk about lesson learned.)
Me: So do you like to hike?
Divorced guy: My ex-wife had energy issues so we never hiked very much.....
Me again: Ok, so do *you* like to hike?
Divorced guy: Well I did before I met my ex-wife.
(Rinse & Repeat)
AAAHHHHHH!!! I even instituted a rule: no dating men who have been divorced less than two years. No dice. They still seem to be unable to hold a conversation without bringing up the ex-wife.
I'm seriously thinking about carrying the business cards of a local counselor and passing them out on dates. Just slide one across the table and say- hey give him/her a call.
Why does it seem that divorced men stay broken and oozing pain longer than women?
Has anyone else had this experience?