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Yes, how dare I be attracted to someone's personality and spirituality. 
Please tell me what us women are "supposed" to be attracted to, then? If none of those things?
Please tell me what us women are "supposed" to be attracted to, then? If none of those things?
It is all about which one clubs you and drags you back to his cave...
Wait maybe that's slightly outdated... guess I'm an old fashioned girl
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Rachel you can't like guys for there personalities... That's crazy talk!
It is all about which one clubs you and drags you back to his cave...
Wait maybe that's slightly outdated... guess I'm an old fashioned girl
It is all about which one clubs you and drags you back to his cave...
Wait maybe that's slightly outdated... guess I'm an old fashioned girl
Can you teach all the 30'ish women here about how their supposed to allow men to pursue them?
Now where did I put my "Love Conquers All" club???
"Love Conquers All" club... Blahahahaha
I hope everyone read that as a joke or I'll get kicked out of the "girl club"
Their are other ways besides the club... You can trade their fathers three sheep and a small goat. I'd think I'm worth that much the goat may be negotiable.... May take more or less live stock for the ladies in your age group, hard to say how these things work..
I hope everyone read that as a joke or I'll get kicked out of the "girl club"
Their are other ways besides the club... You can trade their fathers three sheep and a small goat. I'd think I'm worth that much the goat may be negotiable.... May take more or less live stock for the ladies in your age group, hard to say how these things work..
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Yes, how dare I be attracted to someone's personality and spirituality.
Please tell me what us women are "supposed" to be attracted to, then? If none of those things?
Please tell me what us women are "supposed" to be attracted to, then? If none of those things?
In my opinion true love is different from a man and woman's perspective. As a man, the only thing that matters to me is the woman's looks, personality, and spirituality. I would not care about her financial situation, social status, and certainly not confidence.
But for women, it is different. The man is suppose to be the bread winner and if he is loser who does not have his own place, job, or business, how can he ever be considered as a mate? Most women would not date a man who works at mcdonalds and cannot provide for his family. I guess the only situation where finances don't matter if both the guy and girl are degenerates who have no prospects(trailer trash ghetto types)
not only that, but a man would also need to be confident, have a positive outlook, be humble and kind to attract women. But the problem is that men who are broken cannot be any of those things. I think I am kind and humble but i am certainly not confident or have an optimistic view of life.
So to sum things up, you need certain qualities to attract a mate, and if you can't get it you are not viable. for women it is easier. All they need is looks, a great personality, and love for god. It is the man's job to provide financially especially if the woman decide to become a stay at home mom, so women don't really have to worry about finances if they find the right guy.
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OK nuking, it sounds like you have a serious confidence and self-esteem issue. I can relate due to how my life has gone lately. The first thing you need to do is focus on rebuilding your confidence. Fond a social group in your area. Possibly look on Find Meetup Groups near you - Meetup. Make sure it is a social group/actovity not just meeting to sit in silence or something. You're not going there to find a woman, perhaps you'll make new friends there. If there any women there then you can build confidence talking to them. I have it on good authority they're human beings and can be talked to . Then after time you've got a new group of people you can talk to about the Gospel.
I'm 38, shy and not handsome. I haven't given up at meeting someone. If you are destined for single life, and I would say some people are then there is a lot you can do that married people can't do easily - such as mission work, possibly abroad. Look into that. Rather than watching your life go by use it to serve the Lord.
As for a job and money, if a woman will only look at you because of that then she has issues and wouldn't be worth your time. Also working anywhere even if you don't like it is good for you. It gets your brain active, it'll give you some confidence and proves to people you are humble enough to work in a fast food place and you don't class those people beneath you.
. Then after time you've got a new group of people you can talk to about the Gospel.I'm 38, shy and not handsome. I haven't given up at meeting someone. If you are destined for single life, and I would say some people are then there is a lot you can do that married people can't do easily - such as mission work, possibly abroad. Look into that. Rather than watching your life go by use it to serve the Lord.
As for a job and money, if a woman will only look at you because of that then she has issues and wouldn't be worth your time. Also working anywhere even if you don't like it is good for you. It gets your brain active, it'll give you some confidence and proves to people you are humble enough to work in a fast food place and you don't class those people beneath you.
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Yes, they still lust after (and go for) that poor jerk that's got abs, a built body and butt, attractive face, charm, masculine voice; that guy that will treat them like the jerk he is to get their lust all stirred up and have them coming back for more; that guy that commands her and dominates her (but if I do that, they hate me, rail against me, gossip about me, and ignore me!); that guy that girls think has alot of "confidence" ... that's the guy they want to have, to show off, to try to "change", and to have sex with them (yes, talking about Christian women here), because, apparently, they're better at sex (women must think that all that confidence equals a large member ... lol) ... and I could go on and on, while the nice Christian man remains alone in this world of silly Christian women led away with divers lusts.
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Where do you get this bleak picture of women from? How dare you associate that with my post.
I assure you I'm about 50 pounds overweight and I've had dates with women are quite beautiful. I'm currently unemployed and still women tell me "you will make a great husband some day" when they ask if I'm seeing anyone and my answer is no because I want to be financially stable.
You are not helping your brother mykim when every time someone tries to encourage him and all you have to say is jaded and sour.
Art, this post is dripping with pain. I am sorry for whatever you have gone through that has caused you to feel this way. My heart aches for you. You are in my prayers.
My dear brother, I don't know where you got these ideas. I know so many incredible godly women who literally FLEE from the presence of jerks. They want nothin to do with them and they pray frequently that God would send them a man who is devoted to Christ. I myself am very turned off by worldly men, because I do not see any Christ-like qualities in them. In your post here you speak very negative things against Christian women.
of course, you probably are not speaking ill of every Christian woman in the world, but the way you worded your post makes it sound like you are fed up with all Christian women. it's true, women and men alike are capable of doing horrible things. They are capable of causing much pain. My advice is stop pursuing these women and wait on God. Ask Him to send you a woman after his own heart, and also ask him to help shape you into the type of man that such a godly lady would need.
Praying for you, brother <3
My dear brother, I don't know where you got these ideas. I know so many incredible godly women who literally FLEE from the presence of jerks. They want nothin to do with them and they pray frequently that God would send them a man who is devoted to Christ. I myself am very turned off by worldly men, because I do not see any Christ-like qualities in them. In your post here you speak very negative things against Christian women.
of course, you probably are not speaking ill of every Christian woman in the world, but the way you worded your post makes it sound like you are fed up with all Christian women.
it's true, women and men alike are capable of doing horrible things. They are capable of causing much pain. My advice is stop pursuing these women and wait on God. Ask Him to send you a woman after his own heart, and also ask him to help shape you into the type of man that such a godly lady would need. Praying for you, brother <3
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"Where do you get this bleak picture of women from?" ~ Personal experience ... duh lol. I'm sorry, but this is what I've noticed from hearing and reading what, actually, alot of Christian women have had to say. Sure, they may not have to say the same things, or agree with 100% of what I've said, but this is basically a compendium of what I've reviewed, observed, and even have had the chance to learn from their own opinion personally.
"How dare you associate that with my post.[?]" ~ Because I was inspired to say what I said because of it lol. Nothing personal.
"I assure you I'm about 50 pounds overweight and I've had dates with women are quite beautiful." ~ And I believe you, and I must say that that's pretty cool man ... happy for you. Good for you. You should consider yourself blessed (coming from a guy that's never had a girlfriend, never been on "dates", and hasn't really had any friends ever since he became a Christian lol).
"I'm currently unemployed and still [have] women tell me "you will make a great husband some day" when they ask if I'm seeing anyone and my answer is no because I want to be financially stable." ~ Yeah, they say that to look good when they're thinking, "No ... not him, not him at all lol". They don't want to look mean, appear in a bad light, or seem as if they're interested in something other than Christ in the heart of the man. They tell themselves that they "don't want to hurt you", and so they deceive ever so softly, and many of them have mastered the technique of deceiving themselves. And I completely understand about being financially stable; but what's going on? Why aren't you employed?
"You are not helping your brother mykim when every time someone tries to encourage him and all you have to say is jaded and sour." ~ Um ... it seems to me that mykim actually already knows everything I've said to be fact.
I know, it does sound bleak. But, again, this is what I've gathered from my own experience as a Christian. Is it sad? Then pray for me. God can help me better than someone online a million miles away. The Holy Ghost is a greater comforter than any advice found in a post in a forum.
"How dare you associate that with my post.[?]" ~ Because I was inspired to say what I said because of it lol. Nothing personal.
"I assure you I'm about 50 pounds overweight and I've had dates with women are quite beautiful." ~ And I believe you, and I must say that that's pretty cool man ... happy for you. Good for you. You should consider yourself blessed (coming from a guy that's never had a girlfriend, never been on "dates", and hasn't really had any friends ever since he became a Christian lol).
"I'm currently unemployed and still [have] women tell me "you will make a great husband some day" when they ask if I'm seeing anyone and my answer is no because I want to be financially stable." ~ Yeah, they say that to look good when they're thinking, "No ... not him, not him at all lol". They don't want to look mean, appear in a bad light, or seem as if they're interested in something other than Christ in the heart of the man. They tell themselves that they "don't want to hurt you", and so they deceive ever so softly, and many of them have mastered the technique of deceiving themselves. And I completely understand about being financially stable; but what's going on? Why aren't you employed?
"You are not helping your brother mykim when every time someone tries to encourage him and all you have to say is jaded and sour." ~ Um ... it seems to me that mykim actually already knows everything I've said to be fact.
I know, it does sound bleak. But, again, this is what I've gathered from my own experience as a Christian. Is it sad? Then pray for me. God can help me better than someone online a million miles away. The Holy Ghost is a greater comforter than any advice found in a post in a forum.