I'm glad you finally got an answer that seemed to work for you, Art. I do think we could have come to a productive conclusion a lot sooner if you had given us your definition of the term "nice guy" closer to the beginning of the thread. I say this not to attack or discourage you.. it's just that as you can see, we have a variety of definitions represented in this thread alone.
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That said, I think I understand your definition now, but please correct me if I am wrong. You use the term "nice guy" the same way I might use the term "good, godly man", yes? A man who's striving to be like Christ? And the nice guy's opposite would be a secular, worldly man?
If that's the case, I'd like to try and answer your original questions now, but I hope you don't mind if I swap the term "nice guy" for "godly man". After all, according to your definition, that's really what you mean, right?
Are godly men finishing last in the Christian culture?
I don't believe they are, and I sure hope I'm not wrong about this! I don't live in a very densely populated community, so maybe I'm just lacking exposure, but in my experience I have seen quite a high number of godly men pursue and win the hearts of godly women. Then again, my church really emphasizes godly masculinity and we have a very healthy and thriving young adult/singles ministry that has produced a lot of marriages, so that could contribute to my opinion as well.
Should they be finishing last with Christian women?
No, they shouldn't. If a woman is in love first and foremost with Christ Himself, she will naturally be drawn to men who exhibit Christ-like qualities.
Why don't Christian women like godly men?
Generally speaking, I don't think that Christian women don't like godly men. BUT, all of us, men and women, are fallen sinners who are vulnerable to attacks from the enemy and to many temptations of this world. Proverbs is full of warnings to a young man against worldly women, but the same principles apply in the opposite direction. If a woman does not heed the wisdom that is in God's Word as well as passed on to her from older sisters in Christ, her priorities may fall out of line and she may easily be deceived into thinking that worldly men are more attractive.
If Christian women are not interested in godly men, but worldly men instead, then who is to blame: the guys or the girls?
I don't really think we need to assign blame. On the one hand, you could say it's all the women's fault, because she *should* be looking for a man who loves the Lord. On the other hand, lets say the majority of "Christian" men in a particular woman's life are in fact living a more worldly lifestyle, then the woman may become discouraged and assume there's not that much difference between self-proclaimed "godly men" and the men of the world. I think women (and obviously I'm preaching to myself here, too) need to guard their hearts against worldly temptations, and one of the best ways to do that is to let the Word and her relationship with Christ "renew her mind" (Romans 12:2) as far as what qualities she considers attractive in a man. In the same way, men who claim to love the Lord need to also remain rooted in God's Word and His ways, and do their best to not waver from that, even if they DO get rejected by Christian women. These things can only be done by the strength that comes from Christ alone.
Are we "godly men" because we are devoted to Jesus, and not in pleasing the feminine lusts of the flesh?
Not quite sure what you mean by "feminine lusts of the flesh", but a man devoted to pleasing Christ rather than other people (women included) is certainly a godly man.
Thanks for your thoughts and questions, Art. God bless