Would you date someone who has a child with a previous partner?

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Mark_G_2012

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Well im dating a single mom and she has two kids and from two diferent dads but i actually look forward to being there for them..i figure kids are blessings im glad they are in my life as for my fiance well i love her that simple no buts obstacles or runarounds..So dating with kids not an issue at all..kids are blessings.. if people dont like dating single moms its their problem really ..
 
wisebeardman

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I dont have kids of my own, so generally I will not date or hook up or what ever people call it today with a woman with kids.
 
wisebeardman

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wisebeardman said:
I dont have kids of my own, so generally I will not date or hook up or what ever people call it today with a woman with kids.
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course I have to add, I dont like loud noise, I dont like being pestered. I dont deal well with being annoyed. I have spent my life alone and that is what I am used to. quite honestly adults get on my nerves quick, kids even quicker. but I do tend to tolerate girls a little better then boys.
 
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isaria

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One can have a wonderful relationship and make marriage with a party whom has previous children.

But one should have some maturity and care such as if parent only meets child on weekends or less and they in bed making passionate love all weekend and child is left alone and unattended and they do not care only for them to feel good then that isselfish and immature of adults not care for her/him be cared for better with activity, outing etc.


Also they may have a horrid expartner that is abusive and threatens the new partner and spreads lies and incites hate in neighbourhood she jealous and malicious.


In most caces it should be able to workcan work beautifully and the new partner take a responsible roll and become friends or support or step parent.

Problems may arrise if they do not agree how to raise child.
Parent may say "i decide that" but partner may see change needed as dont like they spoil or not discipline child and allow badness.

Often lots of jealousy from immature exes.

As for me.... It depends on circumstances.
Who child is, who parents are, what relationship we have it serious/marriage, etc.
 
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jeremyPJ

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In this day and age, it is difficult to find many women much over 20 that aren't parents already. I know first hand how bad it can be to raise someone else's children, and must say that if you get in that situation, you will find that instead of being a 'parent" to them, you will find more success being their "friend". I have learned this the hard way. God did not intend for us to be where we are today, with so many mixed families, and after being in one, by golly I KNOW why!!
 
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tanyatruetime

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Yes.
I would.
 
JesusChica1991

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I have dated someone with kids before but I won't do it again. It's not that I have a problem with it but my parents do have a problem with it and that unfolds a whole lot of other things with my family.
 
secularhermit

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JesusChica1991 said:
I have dated someone with kids before but I won't do it again. It's not that I have a problem with it but my parents do have a problem with it and that unfolds a whole lot of other things with my family.
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True!

It sounds like a prejudice but, if you want your own family, it´s better you date singles. I, myself, avoid those who have their children. I was about to married one, but she was too hooked on her daughter (and also her family). Besides, I got vasectomized to avoid same mistake of being a father again.
 
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Descyple said:
I don't know if I would date a woman who already has a child, but I would definitely date a woman who "acts" like a child, because then she could relate on my level!!!

"Unless you become like children........." - Matthew 18:3 (I take that verse literally!!!).
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I so agree with that verse! The innocence and all...
trying to get my cousin to join CC so she can share here. Of everyone I've known she in bodies these words of our Lord. I can't explain it but when I talk he into joining, I think when you read what she has to say you will agree.

On the subject at hand...
if you serve Christ and follow Him I believe He will give you all you need. Not limited to a loving husband and father for your children.

Love you all,
lexi
 
zeroturbulence

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I would date someone who has a child, but not from a previous partner.

Think about that for awhile lol.



















































OK, stop thinking. Its just a sad joke cause I'm bored :p
 
secularhermit

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jeremyPJ said:
In this day and age, it is difficult to find many women much over 20 that aren't parents already. I know first hand how bad it can be to raise someone else's children, and must say that if you get in that situation, you will find that instead of being a 'parent" to them, you will find more success being their "friend". I have learned this the hard way. God did not intend for us to be where we are today, with so many mixed families, and after being in one, by golly I KNOW why!!
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Have ANY of you seen "The Ultimate Gift"?

Those things are possible! I refer to dating someone nice, honest, with a daughter (I said one) who loves you the way you are and the social status you may come from...

The larger a "single" family is, the economic factor teases. For instance, one of my brothers raised HER children. Once they grew up, they left him (that time he gave, he received too little; because he hasn´t been abled to get his own children) (He is 51 and childless) And he love kids! (He is not perfect, but he has his job and a career)

My opinion is, for me, it´s easy to get "two" instead of several but, there are many proves that I couldn´t back up my children (the money issue I always have seen) so, why dating anyone if I don´t have enough to go farther in marriage?

They´re not to be blamed or discriminated FOR THEIR PAST (a things that hurts and needs healing) but, the best thing is choosing where to go and WHO ARE YOU GOING WITH.

If I don´t have the necessary I rather fast and stave. Dating is to marriage, not for fun or sinsul hedonism.
 
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Ugly

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jeremyPJ said:
In this day and age, it is difficult to find many women much over 20 that aren't parents already. I know first hand how bad it can be to raise someone else's children, and must say that if you get in that situation, you will find that instead of being a 'parent" to them, you will find more success being their "friend". I have learned this the hard way. God did not intend for us to be where we are today, with so many mixed families, and after being in one, by golly I KNOW why!!
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Your one experience does not equate to all situations. My father married my mother with her 3 kids. My mother died 19 years ago, yet 'her' kids still keep in regular contact with my dad. And even to this dad refer to his as dad. As far as they are concerned he is not their friend, but their father. In fact, he was a better father to 'her' kids than the biological father ever was. So your situation is just one experience out of many and does not represent everyone.
 
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MySavior

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my mother always tells me if I date a woman who has a child, the father has to be in their life.
 
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