"Now Ladies, Make Sure You Put That Nice Guy That's Interested In The Friendzone!"

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Nautilus

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Re: "Now Ladies, Make Sure You Put That Nice Guy That's Interested In The Friendzone!

I've never been 'friendzoned' or nice-guy'd as much as you claim it happens. Maybe it is you.
 
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I agree.

Although, you should understand that he is going to do one of those four things to this post, as well as this one agreeing with it. He'll ignore it or write it off, but he won't face his problems head-on. He won't admit that there is something that HE needs to change about himself (his attitude). Why? Because change is hard, and some people want everything to be easy. Because it takes a STRONG person to admit they are wrong.

But in the end, it's really his prerogative. He can just keep things the way they are and plug his ears to useful advice; he can end up bitter and alone. It happens to many people. So there you go.
This is on a level of pathetic rivaled only by DHZ...

... *staring at the both of you talking about said starer*

lol

Do you see anyone else laughing?

This is as serious as a heart attack. A lot of people have tried to help you and you've decided you want to stay broken.
 
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Relena7

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... How ... how on earth did you come to this conclusion? ... Oh, I see. Let us see:

"Created by embittered hearts" ~ Of course, because they couldn't have come from men that have observed and understood the evil ways of women, because women cannot be evil, unless they insult other women lol.

haha Wrong. We're unattractive, we're not "manly", we don't have the best jobs, we're "too nice", we're not "boyfriend material", we're not confident enough [and what horny woman wants an unconfident guy?, 'cause ....], we're not built, we're not like those "Hey girl" Christian memes (lol and never will!), not built, don't have a nice butt, ... and so we basically suck over all. But hey ... the men are to blame for all of that, right ladies? You never tell women to change their perspective, OF COURSE ... because they're women ... they got it all figured out already. They're minds are built in with "Absolute Truth" when it comes to relationships.

I'm actually not really that cynical in real life. I'm still holding on the the hope that there is a remnant of good, wise, kind Christian women out there that are nothing like their worldly counterparts. Nice girls for nice guys. Unfortunately, the problem is that they're NOT HERE lol
Well it sounds like you've already got life all figured out then.
 
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Art05

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Well it sounds like you've already got life all figured out then.
haha Not quite, but I'm getting there, just like everybody else.
 
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This friggin' takes the cake, dawg

This ends it all.
Doesn't matter what girls think of you, artyiste, that is, if you're nice or not, or, too nice, even. Just have faith, ask her out, accept her response to you for why she's not interested.

What should matter to the Christian (nice) guy is what God thinks of you after you've been rejected by a girl. Do you go in a corner and cry, or , become bitter, or, do you ask God for more faith, for an increase, for more of a reason of understanding for why that girl rejected you. God will bless you for that, bro. :)
 
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Doesn't matter what girls think of you, artyiste, that is, if you're nice or not, or, too nice, even. Just have faith, ask her out, accept her response to you for why she's not interested.

What should matter to the Christian (nice) guy is what God thinks of you after you've been rejected by a girl. Do you go in a corner and cry, or , become bitter, or, do you ask God for more faith, for an increase, for more of a reason of understanding for why that girl rejected you. God will bless you for that, bro. :)
GreenNnice, don't you turn on me too! haha ;)

]Doesn't matter what girls think of you, artyiste, that is, if you're nice or not, or, too nice, even. Just have faith, ask her out, accept her response to you for why she's not interested.

What should matter to the Christian (nice) guy is what God thinks of you after you've been rejected by a girl.
M'kay, okay. I think I'm getting there.

Do you go in a corner and cry, or , become bitter, or, do you ask God for more faith, for an increase, for more of a reason of understanding for why that girl rejected you.
All three :) Just the kind of guy I am.
 

Nautilus

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You might also be confused with how women operate. They aren't vending machines where can pop in a nice credit and get a date out of it.
 
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Art05

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You might also be confused with how women operate. They aren't vending machines where can pop in a nice credit and get a date out of it.
lol How women operate? Is there any of them that operate in a Biblical mechanism?

You're one of those guys that has been deceived by women that they need no change in their perspective, no correction, and they have all of the knowledge they need to go on.

I'm still holding on to hope, though.
 
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lol How women operate? Is there any of them that operate in a Biblical mechanism?

You're one of those guys that has been deceived by women that they need no change in their perspective, no correction, and they have all of the knowledge they need to go on.

I'm still holding on to hope, though.
You should make a blog post outlining all of your thoughts about this stuff so that it's all in one place so that we can keep track of it all. From little bits I'm getting around the forum I have a picture that I'm not sure is quite right, but it appears as though you both hate an worship women.
 
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lol How women operate? Is there any of them that operate in a Biblical mechanism?
I would guess that you've seen the Biblical mechanism.

as I saw young Christians (younger than me) arrive at a relationship, then that beast of sadness and jealousy won, and now I am here;
 

Nautilus

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lol How women operate? Is there any of them that operate in a Biblical mechanism?

You're one of those guys that has been deceived by women that they need no change in their perspective, no correction, and they have all of the knowledge they need to go on.

I'm still holding on to hope, though.
It's funny, you say I'm the one deceived yet I'm not the one whining in three different threads about how its impossible for me to find a woman, because somehow the 3.5 billion women in the world just don't see me for the shining paragon of masculinity I really am?

Get real, the reason you are single, is because no one wants to date someone who desperately clings to the lie of being a nice guy when in actuality you're desperate and probably a door mat. If you were 'nice' you wouldn't have a problem. But you're probably creepy is more honest. "hey uh, excuse me, but I saw your boyfrined just broke up with you, need someone to talk?, like on a date?" This is something I can imagine you doing.
 

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lol How women operate? Is there any of them that operate in a Biblical mechanism?

You're one of those guys that has been deceived by women that they need no change in their perspective, no correction, and they have all of the knowledge they need to go on.

I'm still holding on to hope, though.
Hold out hope :) I don't know what you mean by mechanism :confused: but all I do is Christ based :)

Also the more girls who friend zone you the better :D imagine how many dates thousands of women who have friend zoned you would set you up on :cool:
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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You should make a blog post outlining all of your thoughts about this stuff so that it's all in one place so that we can keep track of it all. From little bits I'm getting around the forum I have a picture that I'm not sure is quite right, but it appears as though you both hate an worship women.
No I'm pretty sure your picture is quite right.

Anyway

My best friend is a guy. There was never any awkward thing though like about whether or not we should date. He likes books, i like books, he was all hey and i was all sup... We've been bff's ever since.
 

ChosenbyHim

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Why do they do this?

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From what I have heard, it may be that a lot of women see the "nice guy" as not being confident.
Afterall, it is commonly said that women like confidence, so if you fail to initiate a conversation with a lady that you are interested in, then you most likely will not ever enter into a relationship with that lady. Now this may not always be the case. Because sometimes there are women that will approach a man and start up a conversation.

Also understand that for a relationship to be a proper one, it needs to be based upon the word of God. Dating is not biblical. Betrothment is Biblical though.

Also if a woman sees that a guy is so "nice" that he agrees with everything she says, well that may also be a red flag, since again it comes back to confidence. And a guy who doesn't think for himself lacks confidence. Now don't get confidence confused with pride. A man can be confident and yet not proud.

More importantly though Art05; focus on serving the Lord while your still single. Being single gives you the opportunity to serve the Lord without distraction (1 Cor. 7:35).

Another thing to Consider Art05, you are still rather young. Are you sure that your ready for a wife?

I understand that a lot couples these days get married in their early twenties, but again, the main thing you need to weigh out is whether or not your ready to take on the responsibility of having a wife. Are you in a position right now in your life that you could provide for a woman? That you could provide for her spiritually, mentally, and monetarily?

I am sure you are probably just thinking about this in the view of just dating a woman and not considering marriage at this time in your life. But again, keep in mind that dating is not biblical. Dating is of the world.

But betrothment is Scriptural.
 
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buckets

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Also Rachel is a good Christian woman :) here is a thought

I see her post on all the threads about nice guys :D then I see all the "nice guys" argue with her

Argueing isn't nice :) humbly accept your sisters words :D that's nice
 
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Afterall, it is commonly said that women like confidence, so if you fail to initiate a conversation with a lady that you are interested in, then you most likely will not ever enter into a relationship with that lady. Now this may not always be the case. Because sometimes there are women that will approach a man and start up a conversation.
WOW! ChosenbyHim your entire post is the work of the Holy Spirit, thank you for posting this. Happy Christmas brother.
 

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Christian women date genuine Godly men of all types :) but they decide what genuine Godly and nice is

Guys telling us this is what you should like, is none of the above
last be Christ like the Christian girls may friend zone you but again enough girls put you in the frieend zone and behold they will want to set you up :D it's in our nature to do so
 
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Argueing isn't nice :) humbly accept your sisters words :D that's nice
Humble acceptance is always best.

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Theodore

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Why do they do this?

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If you two had no relationship history or marriage of any sort then there should be nothing wrong with being friends; especially with the population we have. Now, if you have kids or you were once married that is when the confusion comes in. I think you may be in too much of a rush and from my experience rushing into relationships or physical encounters is really not worth it in the end. So I say move on and make use of that new friendship you made.
 

ChosenbyHim

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WOW! ChosenbyHim your entire post is the work of the Holy Spirit, thank you for posting this. Happy Christmas brother.

Absolutely Praus. You are welcome. And yes, to God be all the glory.

Have a great time with your family in this festive season. Shalom.