Why Are You Single? (For The Saddened & Distraught Only)

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MidniteWelder

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Art05 said:
Lord, did she purposefully ignore everything I've said about there not being any eligible sister my age here? Perhaps she did. Oh well.

Happy ignorance!
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Well actually...it's more like she called you out on some introspective aspects to consider.
Some may view this as abusive and play the victim to seek sympathy.
Its not abuse, if its truth it is often what one needs to wipe the Fog off the mirror and see clearly again.
Remember...faithful are the wounds of a friend...deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.
(though the one playing the victim neglects to see is this behavior itself can be abusive to others as the root driving the behavior stems from issues which are inherently self-seeking as opposed to giving)
Although that method doesn't do much for bettering oneself in the Light of humility.


Now others would nobly view the truth, (even as disdainfully as they choose to accept it) and not seek to have their ears tickled would instead reflect inwardly upon what caused their actions and how their own actions may contribute to the world around them as opposed to seeking a way to blame others.

Take heart Art,
There is always hope in Christ.
Seek him more than what you are seeking right now. and the friends made will be worthy of your friendship, everything else will fall into place correctly.
 
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Art05

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rachelsedge said:
I actually don't follow every post you make, and I wouldn't have asked if I already knew. :)

I actually really get where you're at, right now. I moved here to Illinois in September of 2012, and since I live with my parents (because of circumstances), I went to the church they had helped plant that summer. At the time, there were maybe 10 people who went, and half of them were the church-planting team (including my parents). The other attendees were all over 50.

I still go to my parents' church in the morning and am helpful there, but I also was invited to a young adult Bible study in February of this year. I went to that small group study every week, and after a few weeks I started going to that church on Sunday nights and since then have made many great friends my age (well, between the ages of 19 and 28...close enough :) ). But, basically from September to March (6-7 months!) I didn't really have any friends my age. It sucked, man. I totally get that. That's also happened to me one time before, when I didn't really have friends close to my age, but that's another story. So, yes, I can relate.

Are there any other churches in your area that you could try? Or maybe even ones that have a little of a drive?

Funny story about my Sunday night church. The first time I went to that small group study, I didn't feel well. I probably looked sickly, and I'm sure I made a horrible first impression, because at one point, I said "Yeah, I don't feel too well. I had Taco Bell for lunch." I saw some people physically move a few inches away from me. :p That night, I ended up having the stomach flu. Thankfully it waited until I was home from the group, but still, it wasn't the first impression I had wanted to make. ;)
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:) Thank you for your respectful response. The first one in a long while.

but I also was invited to a young adult Bible study in February of this year. I went to that small group study every week, and after a few weeks I started going to that church on Sunday nights and since then have made many great friends my age (well, between the ages of 19 and 28...close enough :) ).
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This makes me want to weep :'( There really isn't anything like that here. And if there was, the youth have to be really "encouraged" by older people to show up, and so not one of them really wants to be there, and it dissolves pretty quickly. It sounds like you're so blessed when it comes to friends. I am so so happy for you.

But, basically from September to March (6-7 months!) I didn't really have any friends my age. It sucked, man.
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Try six years and counting ;) It's pretty bad. And I've been praying for Christian friends since about the time the Lord saved me.

Are there any other churches in your area that you could try? Or maybe even ones that have a little of a drive?
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Well, unfortunately, that isn't as simple as it sounds. There are actually many churches, but alot of them aren't ... shall we say, ... really in touch with God. And no, I'm not saying that I would be looking for a perfect church, or that my church is perfect church. Churches here start and fall a dime a dozen. It's pretty sad. I personally feel that God has allowed my church to remain because of the faithfulness of His children, and faithfulness is something you don't really see here. That's not to say that I've never noticed any other people from other churches, but when I do ... they're not ... really spiritual. This is a dead, dead place. And I don't really know of other churches I could visit. They're all pretty much the same. Plus, one of the reasons the Lord led me to my church and love it is because it's so close to where I live. I used to walk there. And I really never have to much money for gas to be driving around.

That story isn't funny, it's horrifying D: Scary! hehe I'm so sorry you got sick.
 
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Art05

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MidniteWelder said:
Well actually...it's more like she called you out on some introspective aspects to consider.
Some may view this as abusive and play the victim to seek sympathy.
Its not abuse, if its truth it is often what one needs to wipe the Fog off the mirror and see clearly again.
Remember...faithful are the wounds of a friend...deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.
(though the one playing the victim neglects to see is this behavior itself can be abusive to others as the root driving the behavior stems from issues which are inherently self-seeking as opposed to giving)
Although that method doesn't do much for bettering oneself in the Light of humility.


Now others would nobly view the truth, (even as disdainfully as they choose to accept it) and not seek to have their ears tickled would instead reflect inwardly upon what caused their actions and how their own actions may contribute to the world around them as opposed to seeking a way to blame others.

Take heart Art,
There is always hope in Christ.
Seek him more than what you are seeking right now. and the friends made will be worthy of your friendship, everything else will fall into place correctly.
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Well actually...it's more like she called you out on some introspective aspects to consider.
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... No, not really. I didn't see any of that. Much of what she said wasn't even really accurate. These errors tend to happen to these sorts of people that want to be the Christian Freud of everyone in the internet, instead of just an empathetic friend that rejoices with those that do rejoice, and weeps that those that weep.
Some may view this as abusive and play the victim to seek sympathy.
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... No idea. You? -- Nope. Alright then, let us move on.
Its not abuse, if its truth it is often what one needs to wipe the Fog off the mirror and see clearly again.
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If she had said anything helpful, I would have appreciated her for it. I have already, for those that have proved themselves helpful.
Remember...faithful are the wounds of a friend...deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.
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I love this verse of Scripture, but I cannot see how it relates to my dealings with this person whatsoever.
(though the one playing the victim neglects to see is this behavior itself can be abusive to others as the root driving the behavior stems from issues which are inherently self-seeking as opposed to giving)
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... Um, again, I'm lost lol. You? -- I'm lost myself. He's trying, though, he's really trying. -- And he's accusing you of other things as well; notice that? Yep. [Dialogue provided by me and myself lol ;) ]
Now others would nobly view the truth, (even as disdainfully as they choose to accept it) and not seek to have their ears tickled would instead reflect inwardly upon what caused their actions and how their own actions may contribute to the world around them as opposed to seeking a way to blame others.
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And so I do not disagree in a sense, but I do disagree with run on sentences.
Seek him more than what you are seeking right now. and the friends made will be worthy of your friendship, everything else will fall into place correctly.
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As I've told another person on this website, this is nothing but a carefully worded placebo.

Good day.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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I'm single because i can't eat to the point of morbid obesity if i'm married or have a boyfriend. Apparently it's ''unattractive??"
 
rachelsedge

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I'm confused what exactly is "placebo" about telling someone to seek God.

Pretty sure seeking God and having Him share in the burden is always good advice, 100% of the time...
 
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MidniteWelder

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rachelsedge said:
I'm confused what exactly is "placebo" about telling someone to seek God.

Pretty sure seeking God and having Him share in the burden is always good advice, 100% of the time...
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Good eye Rachel...He basically just called seeking Christ a placebo, and rejected the advisement
...Pray for him
Mark 12:10
Haven't you read this passage of Scripture:
"'The stone the builders rejected, has become the cornerstone;

Acts 4:11
11Jesus is‘the stone you builders rejected,
which has become the cornerstone.
 
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ServantStrike

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Art05 said:
... No, not really. I didn't see any of that. Much of what she said wasn't even really accurate. These errors tend to happen to these sorts of people that want to be the Christian Freud of everyone in the internet, instead of just an empathetic friend that rejoices with those that do rejoice, and weeps that those that weep.
... No idea. You? -- Nope. Alright then, let us move on.
If she had said anything helpful, I would have appreciated her for it. I have already, for those that have proved themselves helpful.
I love this verse of Scripture, but I cannot see how it relates to my dealings with this person whatsoever.
... Um, again, I'm lost lol. You? -- I'm lost myself. He's trying, though, he's really trying. -- And he's accusing you of other things as well; notice that? Yep. [Dialogue provided by me and myself lol ;) ]
And so I do not disagree in a sense, but I do disagree with run on sentences.
As I've told another person on this website, this is nothing but a carefully worded placebo.

Good day.
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Well, you just insulted another man who tried to help you.

I'm sensing a pattern here.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Has anyone ever called you Arty farty???
 
Grace-Like-Rain

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ServantStrike said:
Right, we want to continue to post in love in the hopes that maybe somehow, some way, one of the messages will get through.
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Though there is a point when we are instructed to shake the dust from our sandals and move on. (Matt 10:14)
 
Praus

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Praus said:
they'll tell you how being cool works out in the real world after a few years.
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[video=youtube;i1kOW-luAoI]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i1kOW-luAoI[/video]
 
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