I truly respect your point of view, FireWire, and I understand that marriage is not a calling for everyone. Best wishes in your search for what God is wanting for your life.
I do, however, find that there are generally two types of people who believe they aren't called to marry:
1. Those who truly aren't called by God to marry.
2. Those who come to a point of believing they aren't called to marry due to a lot of pain and disappointments in their lives. I'm not saying this about you in particular but I've seen a lot of posts from people who say, "I couldn't care less if someone is ever interested in me... because the opposite sex is more trouble than it's worth. If I ever find someone... because no one finds me attractive anyway. If I ever get married... because marriage is a waste of time." etc., but the subtle, and not so subtle clues are in the emotions behind their statements.
The thing is... they keep saying how much they don't care or how much it doesn't matter over and over again.
But very few people waste their time constantly repeating something that doesn't really matter to them.
The truth is, many subscribers to the self-declared position of, "I'm not meant to marry" really would have loved to have found someone to love and to love them, but for whatever reasons... they lost hope. And they find it's less painful to say, "This is what I now choose," rather than, "It hasn't worked out so many times in my life, I'm beaten down and don't know where to turn."
I think we all feel this way at times. That's what this forum is for
, encouraging each other and helping to keep one another on the right path, no matter what their own individual variation may be... Fighting off the hurt and bitterness and not letting it win... even though I'll be the first to admit it's so easy to give in to.
Keep commenting, FireWire. I admire that you seem content in life and hope you are able to engage your whole heart into whatever situation your life brings.
(Hopefully it's ok that I'm derailing my own thread.) Merry Christmas, and God bless.
I do, however, find that there are generally two types of people who believe they aren't called to marry:
1. Those who truly aren't called by God to marry.
2. Those who come to a point of believing they aren't called to marry due to a lot of pain and disappointments in their lives. I'm not saying this about you in particular but I've seen a lot of posts from people who say, "I couldn't care less if someone is ever interested in me... because the opposite sex is more trouble than it's worth. If I ever find someone... because no one finds me attractive anyway. If I ever get married... because marriage is a waste of time." etc., but the subtle, and not so subtle clues are in the emotions behind their statements.
The thing is... they keep saying how much they don't care or how much it doesn't matter over and over again.
But very few people waste their time constantly repeating something that doesn't really matter to them.
The truth is, many subscribers to the self-declared position of, "I'm not meant to marry" really would have loved to have found someone to love and to love them, but for whatever reasons... they lost hope. And they find it's less painful to say, "This is what I now choose," rather than, "It hasn't worked out so many times in my life, I'm beaten down and don't know where to turn."
I think we all feel this way at times. That's what this forum is for
, encouraging each other and helping to keep one another on the right path, no matter what their own individual variation may be... Fighting off the hurt and bitterness and not letting it win... even though I'll be the first to admit it's so easy to give in to. Keep commenting, FireWire. I admire that you seem content in life and hope you are able to engage your whole heart into whatever situation your life brings.
(Hopefully it's ok that I'm derailing my own thread.
) Merry Christmas, and God bless.
