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U
First we have to establish the right or wrong of going out dancing. What typically entails going to places where dancing is done. Mostly clubs or parties. What takes place at these venues? Heavy drinking, lots of drugs, lots of blatantly sexuality, foul language, rape risks, smoking, music full of these topics as well... that's just what we see. Who knows what's going on that we don't see. So basically you are seeking to go out into a highly sexualized, drug and alcohol filled environment where you spend the night hearing and seeing all sorts of sinfulness going on all around you. And you take yourself there, insert yourself into it and believe you are somehow above temptation from it all. You purposefully put yourself in an environment like that for the purpose of enjoyment? So, when put in that context does engaging in this sound right?
Next lets tackle your second question. Well, is it ok to have premarital sex once or twice a year? Is it ok to get drunk once or twice a year? Is it ok to murder once or twice a year? Is it ok for a man to beat his wife once or twice a year? If something is wrong, when is it ever ok to do, no matter how little?
Only you can decide if the first part is really an appropriate place for you to go for an evening of enjoyment. If you think that kind of atmosphere is where you should be putting yourself in, the risks, the temptation. And until you decide if that is right or wrong, you cannot answer the second question.
Next lets tackle your second question. Well, is it ok to have premarital sex once or twice a year? Is it ok to get drunk once or twice a year? Is it ok to murder once or twice a year? Is it ok for a man to beat his wife once or twice a year? If something is wrong, when is it ever ok to do, no matter how little?
Only you can decide if the first part is really an appropriate place for you to go for an evening of enjoyment. If you think that kind of atmosphere is where you should be putting yourself in, the risks, the temptation. And until you decide if that is right or wrong, you cannot answer the second question.
J
I no longer go dancing with just my lady friends. It causes more trouble than it's worth. I love to dance, but I don't like being hit on, having guys buy me drinks with expectations, the inappropriate "accidental" touching (translate: groping) etc.
However, I don't have a problem going dancing SOLELY with the man in my life. That's a whole different thing.
If you like to dance, try having fun close friends over so that the environment is under control. That way you get to pick the music too.
However, I don't have a problem going dancing SOLELY with the man in my life. That's a whole different thing.
If you like to dance, try having fun close friends over so that the environment is under control. That way you get to pick the music too.
B
I accepted Christ into my life a year ago. Like Sweet! Welcome to the King of the Saints!
My questions, is going out dancing wrong if you go maybe once or twice a year?The frequency of participation is irrelevant because it only take 1 cop to see 1 traffic infraction for you to be issued a traffic violation.
what if you dont engage into any drinking? or dance inappropriatly?
My questions, is going out dancing wrong if you go maybe once or twice a year?The frequency of participation is irrelevant because it only take 1 cop to see 1 traffic infraction for you to be issued a traffic violation.
what if you dont engage into any drinking? or dance inappropriatly?
The Bible encourages to "abstain from all appearance of evil" (1 Thessalonias 5:22) and that "you are a letter of Christ... written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God" (2 Corinthians 3).
In other words, our behaviors should express "Christ in you, the hope of glory." Therefore, turning away from old habits for the sake of gaining the virtues of Christ, for the love of God, is better than dancing, would you agree?
BTW, I grew up within the Baptist ranks, so here's a Baptist joke for you.
The reason why a Baptist couple courting each other are not allowed to hold hands is because it may lead to dancing. LOL
U
I no longer go dancing with just my lady friends. It causes more trouble than it's worth. I love to dance, but I don't like being hit on, having guys buy me drinks with expectations, the inappropriate "accidental" touching (translate: groping) etc.
However, I don't have a problem going dancing SOLELY with the man in my life. That's a whole different thing.
If you like to dance, try having fun close friends over so that the environment is under control. That way you get to pick the music too.
However, I don't have a problem going dancing SOLELY with the man in my life. That's a whole different thing.
If you like to dance, try having fun close friends over so that the environment is under control. That way you get to pick the music too.
P
In some traditions, dancing is looked down upon because it puts two unmarried bodies in an intimate position. I respect that. Some dancing is more provocative than other, slow dancing is fine I think when its with a guy I know quite well. I used to belong to a sorority and we would have slow dance cards for our formals, where you'd fill it up with a guy per song. So no one was really left out. But we all knew each other quite well- well enough that I didn't feel it was wrong. But with a drunk guy at a bar, its a no-no.
I would say trust your gut and your heart. You know yourself more than we do, you know your weaknesses and your heart. That should guide you in making good choices.
I would say trust your gut and your heart. You know yourself more than we do, you know your weaknesses and your heart. That should guide you in making good choices.
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The line between safe dancing and unsafe dancing is so thin, and so easily crossed, I think it's best for MOST Christians to refrain from dancing.
The line between the safe kind of sway, and the suggestive kind of body sway is so so so thin, why put yourself in that situation?
The line in hand to hand dancing, between a hand being put too high or too low, is so thin, why even go there?
The distance in hand to hand dancing between being comfortably close, and too close for comfort is so thin, why put yourself in that position?
It's not like secular music. Secular music has stark contrasts. You can listen to some Kenny G without easily falling into some Eminem. So a hard and fast rule against ALL secular music seems misguided. (Please don't derail into a debate on secular music. It's just a point of reference.)
I don't think you can say the same about dancing.
A safe body twist, or a safe body shake, can too easily become a suggestive body twist or shake. It's a very, very thin line.
In safe hand to hand slow dancing, the hand is literally inches away from places it shouldn't go. The distance between the two is so easily crossed.
For the sake of avoiding temptation, lust, and all things inappropriate, I really think it's best to avoid it.
I know my answer is going to offend some, and you may view it as suggesting you're not holy enough or whatever. That's not really my intent. I'm not suggesting anyone is a tempter/temptress. I know some reading this will fill their mind with outrage and assert I'm drawing some distinction between the holy non-dancers, and the sinful dancers. Yup, I know how some people think. I'm not declaring myself as way up here, as those who dance are on some unholy level. Not declaring a special holy club, etc...etc..etc.
In my opinion, the only Christians who should be dancing are engaged or married couples. (No I'm not speaking against dance during worship services. Two different topics here, so save that rant too.)
The line between the safe kind of sway, and the suggestive kind of body sway is so so so thin, why put yourself in that situation?
The line in hand to hand dancing, between a hand being put too high or too low, is so thin, why even go there?
The distance in hand to hand dancing between being comfortably close, and too close for comfort is so thin, why put yourself in that position?
It's not like secular music. Secular music has stark contrasts. You can listen to some Kenny G without easily falling into some Eminem. So a hard and fast rule against ALL secular music seems misguided. (Please don't derail into a debate on secular music. It's just a point of reference.)
I don't think you can say the same about dancing.
A safe body twist, or a safe body shake, can too easily become a suggestive body twist or shake. It's a very, very thin line.
In safe hand to hand slow dancing, the hand is literally inches away from places it shouldn't go. The distance between the two is so easily crossed.
For the sake of avoiding temptation, lust, and all things inappropriate, I really think it's best to avoid it.
I know my answer is going to offend some, and you may view it as suggesting you're not holy enough or whatever. That's not really my intent. I'm not suggesting anyone is a tempter/temptress. I know some reading this will fill their mind with outrage and assert I'm drawing some distinction between the holy non-dancers, and the sinful dancers. Yup, I know how some people think. I'm not declaring myself as way up here, as those who dance are on some unholy level. Not declaring a special holy club, etc...etc..etc.
In my opinion, the only Christians who should be dancing are engaged or married couples. (No I'm not speaking against dance during worship services. Two different topics here, so save that rant too.)