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Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special man? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED 
As a companion, respectful of my opinion and feelings. Desire to be with me, not just live together, but to go out and spend time together. Have fun. Laugh.
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by men in general?
Desire to get to know me, listen to be, initiate contact.Put effort in. The opposite of these have hurt me deeply in the past.
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
I guess not be so quick to be the one who initiates things? Don't settle for any guy? I really don't know. Expect respect? In the past, I have given respect and loyality but have not received it. End up being a convenience.
As a companion, respectful of my opinion and feelings. Desire to be with me, not just live together, but to go out and spend time together. Have fun. Laugh.
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by men in general?
Desire to get to know me, listen to be, initiate contact.Put effort in. The opposite of these have hurt me deeply in the past.
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
I guess not be so quick to be the one who initiates things? Don't settle for any guy? I really don't know. Expect respect? In the past, I have given respect and loyality but have not received it. End up being a convenience.
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Men often speak of women being manipulative, seducers and should conduct themselves in a proper manner/ wear proper attire. But men are just as manipulative. They look into your eyes, speak words that appear to be genuine, act as a gentleman. But are wolves in sheep's clothing. They initiate contact just enough until they get what they want. Make you think that they are actually interested in who you are. A woman's heart is nothing to be toyed with.
^where's that in the bible?
^where's that in the bible?
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Like really: Does God care about a woman's heart? Why is there more instruction about how a woman should dress, be submissive, than how a man should respect a woman's heart? The heart is more important then appearances and behavior. The heart is an expression of the soul, if not apart of the very thing. Not to cherish and respect it, should be more concerning to Christians.
Proverbs 4:23
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
Ephesians 6:11
Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.
Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special man? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
To be treated as his superior. Just kidding
As a companion, best friend, and equal partner in everything. Love and respect that go hand-in-hand.
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by men in general?
I don't put too much importance on what other people treat me as. If they're misogynistic, their opinions are invalidated to me.
God is my protector.
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
I am myself.
Want a man with strong leadership traits.
A man who will do little things, just because; which shows me he is thinking of me.. like pick up my favorite pop.. candy bar and flower.
In return:
Be intintive to what he is trying to teach and convey to me and be submissive to the out come he is striving for in the Lord.
Do the same in return.. get his favorite things.. call him just because I'm thinking of him. Try and surprise him in sweet ways that shows I know him, or getting to know him and like who he is, even if it's not nesseccarily what I like or want.
A man who will do little things, just because; which shows me he is thinking of me.. like pick up my favorite pop.. candy bar and flower.
In return:
Be intintive to what he is trying to teach and convey to me and be submissive to the out come he is striving for in the Lord.
Do the same in return.. get his favorite things.. call him just because I'm thinking of him. Try and surprise him in sweet ways that shows I know him, or getting to know him and like who he is, even if it's not nesseccarily what I like or want.
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Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
The more I think about this question, the more I realize that I honestly have no idea how to act, how to behave, how to speak, in order to bring about the respect I said I wanted to be treated with.
And that's sad.
Unfortunately, I think a lot of women, younger girls maybe especially, have the same problem. They want to be treated with respect and love, and yet their actions and how they dress or talk leads men to treat them with something totally opposite of respect.
The more I think about this question, the more I realize that I honestly have no idea how to act, how to behave, how to speak, in order to bring about the respect I said I wanted to be treated with.
And that's sad.
Unfortunately, I think a lot of women, younger girls maybe especially, have the same problem. They want to be treated with respect and love, and yet their actions and how they dress or talk leads men to treat them with something totally opposite of respect.
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Some people will be jerks no matter what. These kind of people aren't able to be grateful for the little things or the big things that others do for them, because in their mind, they were owed these things anyway since they were entitled to that kind of treatment. It's sad :/ and I've lived with people who are like that, and it's no fun.
But, to any girl reading this, remember that's their fault. We are only responsible for our actions, not for how they are received.
But, to any girl reading this, remember that's their fault. We are only responsible for our actions, not for how they are received.
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Peter actually said something VERY IMPORTANT re: how to treat women in scripture, but I don't think many people read the Bible back that far sometimes.
He was a married man. He knew Christ. He understood what it meant to both be cherished by Christ and to cherish a woman. And he knew what truly made a woman beautiful.Peter talked about the spirit of a woman. How gentle it should be. He cautioned men to deal with women gently...carefully. He knew that God cared a GREAT DEAL about how a man treated his lady. He knew that treating a woman badly would hinder a man's prayer life. Check it out:
1 Peter 3
New International Version (NIV)
3 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, [SUP]2 [/SUP]when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. [SUP]3 [/SUP]Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. [SUP]4 [/SUP]Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. [SUP]5 [/SUP]For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, [SUP]6 [/SUP]like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
If a man feels as though his prayers are just hitting the ceiling, he might want to examine how he's treating the women in his life. When he is seeking the heart of a woman, he should show her how he intends to handle her heart once she agrees to become his wife. This is how she comes to trust him with it. As hurtful as it may seem sometimes, it is better to know this information ahead of time.
I'm so sorry you have suffered the pain I'm reading here, my friend. I can feel how tender your heart is and how you are hurting. I assure you that if I can know it, feel it and CARE, God most certainly does.
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I guess what bothers me in particular with CC, is how there are so many threads about submitting to husbands, how a woman should conduct herself, if makeup is okay, if more than one wife is optimal. And little about how a Godly man should be. We are viewed as temptresses, Eve making Adam fall- we are evil. We are to blame. While there isn't a large amount of guys on here that voice that so loudly, I believe that mentality whether big or subtle still exists.
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We need to encourage them to keep reading. They'll get to 1 Peter eventually. Who knows....maybe they'll read some of this and skip ahead It will explain a lot of their relationship issues and unanswered prayers if they will pay attention. If not, they will continue to fail at relationships and perpetually wonder why.
Bottomline for me is that immaturity in Christ is what leads to behavior like that, you know? You don't want that in your life anyway. Ain't nobody got time for that!
Who knows....maybe they'll read some of this and skip ahead It will explain a lot of their relationship issues and unanswered prayers if they will pay attention. If not, they will continue to fail at relationships and perpetually wonder why.Bottomline for me is that immaturity in Christ is what leads to behavior like that, you know? You don't want that in your life anyway. Ain't nobody got time for that!
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I feel the same way. Most days I just shrug it off and even laugh, but some days it really bothers me to see threads like that. Threads about how to control a woman basically. Having seen the ugly side of what it is to live in a family that fights over power and control, it really irks me. But, there are good men out there As long as Christ is being preached and souls converted to Christ, there is hope.
As long as Christ is being preached and souls converted to Christ, there is hope.
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Thread: Woman should not teach or assume authority over men (applies to secular????)
New International Version (NIV)
[SUP]3 [/SUP]Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. [SUP]4 [/SUP]Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, [SUP]5 [/SUP]to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
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If a man wanders into a place where women are CLEARLY teaching other women/learning from other women as instructed per scripture, is not the error his own? If you wander into the ladies room, is it the lady's fault if you see something you shouldn't?
I was not attempting to teach you anything. I was attempting to use humor to urge you to honor a simple request. Since that did not go well, I will be more direct and politely ASK that you please stop interrupting what the ladies are doing here. Thank you in advance for your kind consideration regarding the matter.
Guys, please honor the OP's request and DO NOT post in this thread. This thread was created specifically for the ladies to discuss in. An identical thread was created for the men
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/81684-man-thoughts-men-only-please.html
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/81684-man-thoughts-men-only-please.html
Question 1: I want to be treated with respect as a human being of equal worth, like a buddy he can make jokes and be silly with, like a partner he can depend on, and like a precious gift from God. [I hope that last one doesn't sound as pretentious as it did in my head.]
Question 2: I want to be treated with respect as a human being of equal worth.
Question 3: I spend time in the Word and in prayer, try to behave in an appropriate manner (unless I am around legalists
), and treat all people with respect.
I never answered these, but I think I'm ready to now.
Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special man? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
When I really think about it, what I truly desire is to be cherished. That might look different from one man to the next according to their individual personalities, but the feeling of being cared for and delighted in would hopefully shine through.
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by men in general?
With gentleness and respect.
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
I'm trying to be someone worthy of respect, some to take delight in, someone worth being cherished. I'm working toward making my own words, thoughts and actions gentle, compassionate and loving. I'm not there yet, but I'm further along than I was.
Question 1: How would you like to be treated by your special man? Not a bunch of rules, etc., but how you honestly would like to be TREATED
When I really think about it, what I truly desire is to be cherished. That might look different from one man to the next according to their individual personalities, but the feeling of being cared for and delighted in would hopefully shine through.
Question 2: How would you like to be treated by men in general?
With gentleness and respect.
Question 3: How are you conducting yourself in order to bring what you would like to see in Questions 1 and 2 come about?
I'm trying to be someone worthy of respect, some to take delight in, someone worth being cherished. I'm working toward making my own words, thoughts and actions gentle, compassionate and loving. I'm not there yet, but I'm further along than I was.