Abuse and the Chruch
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The issue of divorce is no different than any other law, rule or regulation you can find in scripture. We should make decisions according to the life within not laws. What do I mean by 'the life within?' Each of us has a different degree of spiritual growth in life. What one person can 'follow' another cannot. How each is dealt with is the Lord's business not ours.
Of course the Lord would RATHER there be no divorce. But as someone already said, there are certain circumstances where there is no alternative.
"But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth." Excerpt from Malachi 2:13-16.
Of course the Lord would RATHER there be no divorce. But as someone already said, there are certain circumstances where there is no alternative.
"But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth." Excerpt from Malachi 2:13-16.
My mind goes in rabbit trails, so it is hard for me to stay on topic. I did not say that I would kill him, that I will kill him, or that God commanded me to kill him. I was speaking in hyperbole to make a point that a divorce grants me certain freedoms regarding my interaction with my abusive exhusband than when I was married to him.
The point of this thread is how the church has mishandled abuse, so I would thank you to stay on topic now.
The point of this thread is how the church has mishandled abuse, so I would thank you to stay on topic now.
It disagree that abuse is a rare thing. Misty is telling you of abuse she experienced. In my family we have a very abusive husband who is also ritualistically Christian and quite wealthy. He never strikes, but enjoys causing pain. A favorite is making a promise that excites everyone and cancelling at the last minute. A typical act was the blistering hot day he took everyone by taxi to an wonderful very expensive concert. Then made them walk home in inappropriate shoes, and wouldn't allow stops for water saying it would be expensive. The wife graduated from college with highest honors, but is kept submissive with scripture.
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Well some abuses I wouldn't say are then needed for divorce, it is very situation though so I can't say what I think is or isn't grant for divorce. Also it'd be my opinion on that one, the point I made holds true in that it is never "ok" to get a divorce but needed from time to time due to the hardness of our hearts. Also I meant relatively rare my bad. Is it rare like finding a diamond laying on the ground? No. But relatively rare I'd think so. Granted I do not know 100% on that one that is my opinion. The points about the topic hold true though
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Before I say anything, I was wondering if this thread was a purely subjective (from a woman's point of view) posting, where we should only see abuse happening from the eyes of a woman, or is this a post to truly reach the heart of the matter of abuse? Also, what is considered abuse? Because in this day and age, we have buzzwords like "bullying" and "hazing" that is most of the time anything but....