Ok so this is one that can get feathers in a bunch, so let me start by saying that my objective for this thread is to gain insight and understanding that might help me honor God more, and maybe make me a better wife and mother some day. I also have not had a lot of exposure to Christian families and was not raised in one. Anyway, I didn't want you guys to think that I'm bringing this up out of sinful nature. I just want to see if anybody agrees with me, or if I'm wrong maybe get some help and verses to get me on track. OK So I was wondering a couple of things actually.
First, I think that before we are married, we should not even kiss intimately. People say this is legalistic, and I'm not trying to judge anyone or say you are in any way wrong for whatever you may have done during your engagement. My thinking is before we are joined as one flesh, we are brother and sister, and should treat each other as such. Do you guys agree or have thoughts?
Also, do you guys think a man is really the head of the marriage? Or do you take a less literal stance? I'm not saying I want to be barefoot silent in the kitchen, I want to be loved, heard, and partnered with. I also want to feel like a husband will keep me in line a little bit. Keep me on track spiritually, with whatever little reminders were needed, not saying I want a man who's gonna be mean or hurt me, the contrary, but is it appropriate even to expect men to think this behavior is allowed or is it just not anymore? I'm just wondering opinions. I have found it a blessing to submit at appropriate times to my brothers and sisters in Christ, and I'm always rewarded for it. I think the concept gets a bad rep.
