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It totally happens. Particularly, I would guess, with young Christians who want to do the right thing and wait til marriage...but you know, pesky hormones and all that...so they end up getting married so they aren't fornicating, and after a few years they realize they don't love the person they're waking up with...
Kinda sad, really.
Kinda sad, really.
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My old Pastor refused to marry more than a few couples in the 8 yrs I attended there due to the fact that after pre-marriage counseling with them,the main driving force behind their wanting to marry was their desire to not have to "burn with lust"
any longer towards one another. One couple even left the church over it,because he wouldn't marry them. He told them they weren't ready if that was their main foundation for getting married,and that he didn't want to have to give an account to God for knowingly blessing a marriage under those circumstances. So yep..it happens...lots I'm sure.
any longer towards one another. One couple even left the church over it,because he wouldn't marry them. He told them they weren't ready if that was their main foundation for getting married,and that he didn't want to have to give an account to God for knowingly blessing a marriage under those circumstances. So yep..it happens...lots I'm sure.
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It makes perfect sense. Maybe you said it a little better than I did on 3.5 hours sleep 
That's the thing about being with a spouse you trust completely. Nothing is forbidden to you anymore, you are one, and anything and everything should be done in love.
It's just that so many times I have read posts about people saying they can't wait to get married so they can have sex, deal with lust issues, blah, blah, blah. Makes it sound so cold and mechanical. In my mind, that speaks of a kennel, not a bedroom.
Another reason I think it's important to watch your words when it comes to this subject, if you deeply wound your partner in this area of your marriage, it's very difficult to make amends. Big time damage can be done to a husband or wife.
Disclaimer: Folks, Please don't bombard me with what Paul said about marrying so that you don't burn with lust, BECAUSE he was also the guy who outlined the true meaning of love for us so beautifully elsewhere.
That's the thing about being with a spouse you trust completely. Nothing is forbidden to you anymore, you are one, and anything and everything should be done in love.
It's just that so many times I have read posts about people saying they can't wait to get married so they can have sex, deal with lust issues, blah, blah, blah. Makes it sound so cold and mechanical. In my mind, that speaks of a kennel, not a bedroom.
Another reason I think it's important to watch your words when it comes to this subject, if you deeply wound your partner in this area of your marriage, it's very difficult to make amends. Big time damage can be done to a husband or wife.
Disclaimer: Folks, Please don't bombard me with what Paul said about marrying so that you don't burn with lust, BECAUSE he was also the guy who outlined the true meaning of love for us so beautifully elsewhere.
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Very sad
Not only do they not love them, so many times they never even took the time to really get to KNOW them. How many couples do you know who are miserable and say they married because they thought it was "the thing to do"?
Not only do they not love them, so many times they never even took the time to really get to KNOW them. How many couples do you know who are miserable and say they married because they thought it was "the thing to do"?