Does it really matter?

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ww_21

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This thread goes out to all the singles out there. It's based on somethings I have noticed throughout the years. I have seen people refuse to date someone who clearly liked them because some of the following reasons:

-They don't make enough.
-They don't like the person's car.
-Said person isn't tall enough.
-Said person isn't muscular enough.
-Said person has a physical flaw.
-Said person did something 'too nice' for them.

My question is, do these things really matter? I know I personally couldn't care LESS about these excuses. Why should it matter how much money they make? It's their money not mine. Coming from a household of all females and an all girls school these are just some of the excuses I have heard. There are women who walk around with lists of what they are looking for in a man?

Am I the only female who things this is wrong? I believe you should love a man for what's on the inside who cares what he looks like as long as he treats you right? Yet some people go running after the jocks and wonder why they get hurt? I am not asking you to lower your standards because I do not see this as lowering your standards in any form whatsoever I am simply saying you could be missing out on a truly amazing person if you refuse to give them a shot because of something as silly as their profession etc.

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Donkeyfish07

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I don't think any reasons you listed are actually the "real" reasons those people weren't interested, those just happened to be the excuses they regurgitated when asked why.
 
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Jullianna

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I'm thinking that anyone who was dumped for any of those reasons should be thanking God for the dumpage. It was a blessing in disguise.
 
zeroturbulence

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ww_21 said:
This thread goes out to all the singles out there. It's based on somethings I have noticed throughout the years. I have seen people refuse to date someone who clearly liked them because some of the following reasons:

-They don't make enough.
-They don't like the person's car.
-Said person isn't tall enough.
-Said person isn't muscular enough.
-Said person has a physical flaw.
-Said person did something 'too nice' for them.

My question is, do these things really matter? I know I personally couldn't care LESS about these excuses. Why should it matter how much money they make? It's their money not mine. Coming from a household of all females and an all girls school these are just some of the excuses I have heard. There are women who walk around with lists of what they are looking for in a man?

Am I the only female who things this is wrong? I believe you should love a man for what's on the inside who cares what he looks like as long as he treats you right? Yet some people go running after the jocks and wonder why they get hurt? I am not asking you to lower your standards because I do not see this as lowering your standards in any form whatsoever I am simply saying you could be missing out on a truly amazing person if you refuse to give them a shot because of something as silly as their profession etc.
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Wow I didn't think women who feel the way you do actually existed outside of my hopes and dreams. GOD BLESS YOU! Ok, there is a couple of women I know who I think feel this way too, but they are very special (have much bigger hearts than most people).
 
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zaoman32

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What happened to the good old days where people were just shallow and only cared about looks :(
 
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Seraphic

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rare to find a woman like this, just saying.
 
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i like all post and video...................
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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This is a nice post, but i think some of it sounds totally unrealistic.

Now i wouldn't not date someone because of his profession or car. However i would not go out with someone because of height or looks
It sounds really nice to say who cares about looks or anything else as long as he or she treats you nice, but i kinda think that's garbage.
I wouldn't date a man my fathers age who was morbidly obese because he treated me nice. I wouldn't date a man 2 or 3 inches shorter than me either. I wouldn't date a man my height, i wouldn't date a man who had huge growths coming up out all over his whole face. I wouldn't date a guy who was so nice he let's people run all over him.
I would date a man who was bald or balding, i would date a man who was slightly over weight, i would date a man who wasn't muscular, i would date a man who worked at McDonalds, or was missing an arm or leg.
I won't completely disregard looks though. If his face is wack his face is wack. I mean i can't pretend to be attracted to someone because i don't want to feel shallow.

One more thing

I think it's pretty stereotypical to say if you run after ''jocks'' you'll just get hurt. Just because this person is into sports that means he'll treat you like crap? How does that work?
 
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kenthomas27

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah says: "...i would date a man who worked at McDonalds, or was missing an arm or leg."
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Is that and/or? or just or?
 
Fenner

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zaoman32 said:
What happened to the good old days where people were just shallow and only cared about looks :(
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I worry about your generation. In the 80's and 90's we only cared about looks and money. You children of today need to step it up. ;)
 
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kenthomas27

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Ok then, what about if the guy had one arm missing, did NOT work at McDonalds but has serious bad breath?
 
Fenner

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kenthomas27 said:
Ok then, what about if the guy had one arm missing, did NOT work at McDonalds but has serious bad breath?
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Then she'd have no choice but not to date him. Bad breath is as you'd say, detttthhhppiiicable.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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kenthomas27 said:
Ok then, what about if the guy had one arm missing, did NOT work at McDonalds but has serious bad breath?
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So if he had a missing arm and bad breath...

That's a no go. However i suppose i could always do this

 
Nautilus

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I dont understand not tall enough...do 'not tall' enough people exist? We should send them off the short countries.

#Heightism #HeightPower #NoShorties
 
Fenner

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
So if he had a missing arm and bad breath...

That's a no go. However i suppose i could always do this

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There is no escaping bad breath, it's not like kissing an ashtray it's like kissing old milk or rotten anchovies. :p
 
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kenthomas27

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Fenner said:
There is no escaping bad breath, it's not like kissing an ashtray it's like kissing old milk or rotten anchovies. :p
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old milk :D:D. That is so gross. Like old milk in the back of the school at the dumpsters.
 
Oncefallen

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Nautilus said:
I dont understand not tall enough...do 'not tall' enough people exist? We should send them off the short countries.

#Heightism #HeightPower #NoShorties
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Vertically challenged persons of the world unite against the oppressive giants!!!!!!!
 
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