So how do I gain self confidence?

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May 4, 2009
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I'm just wondering since it seems like a major thing I to get in order to get a girlfriend.
 
Oct 13, 2009
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Do things that would ordinarily make you uncomfortable. i.e. talk to large groups of people...
There really is no set formula or plan...Just have to go out and do it.
 
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Dread_Zeppelin

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Look at yourself in a mirror and say, "I am a gorgeous manly man." At least 10x mind you.
 
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ChristopherMichael

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Do things that would ordinarily make you uncomfortable. i.e. talk to large groups of people...
There really is no set formula or plan...Just have to go out and do it.
Good advice!

- Topher
 
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Leilaii425

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run a gauntlet
 
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Josh281981

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Dont worry about what anyone thinks! Be yourself and be proud to be a unique indivdual.
 
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Josh281981

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Look at yourself in a mirror and say, "I am a gorgeous manly man." At least 10x mind you.

Every time I see a mirror I have to stop and stare at the awesomeness staring back at me!!
 
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jesuslover911

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Well its really easy. Your mind is taking control of you. You think in your head that if i say hey to her then she is just going to slap me. Well trust me, its not going to happen. I delt with this problem about a year ago but now i talk to everyone in the school. I like to say this...its mind over matter. That means that in your head your thinking about t he bad things that will happen. But in reality, nothing is really going to happen. This is what you have to do...just talk to her. You guys will get to know eachother really good. Soon you wont even be nervous to talk to her. So then you can ask her out when you guys are comfortable together and then most likely you will be dating after that. I hope this works for you and just try it it wont let you down
 
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Meridoc

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I'm just wondering since it seems like a major thing I to get in order to get a girlfriend.
You need to be happy with who you are and happy with you relationship with God, then the self confidence and girl will come after
 
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ChristopherMichael

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I'm just wondering since it seems like a major thing I to get in order to get a girlfriend.
Gaining self-confidence to get a girlfriend is like eating so you can take a dump. You've got it all backwards! You work on your self-confidence for YOU, to make you happier with who you are and a better person. It's when you've got your relationship straight with yourself, and with God, that the women you're looking for start to gravitate towards you.

Take that with a grain of salt though, as I'm still single. : /

- Topher
 
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Stand as a leader,reach those people who are hungry&thirsty of Word make urslf busy n d kingdom tl' n surprise your desire is granted! GOD LOVE SURPRISES!
 
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oopsies

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I'm just wondering since it seems like a major thing I to get in order to get a girlfriend.
Great advice from everyone but what about praying and asking God to instill that confidence in you?
 
Jan 8, 2009
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If Austin powers can get all the ladies with his bad teeth and all, then any guy can.
 
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Great advice from everyone but what about praying and asking God to instill that confidence in you?
I concur.

(it says this message is too short so I am typing this to make it longer.)
 
May 4, 2009
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I am asking God for it. No results yet, though he is helping me with my shyness right now.
 
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oopsies

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I'm getting the feeling that you really really really want someone right now. Just wait patiently for it. If it's in God's plan to give you that special person, He will give it to you when the time is right. :)
 
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I'm getting the feeling that you really really really want someone right now. Just wait patiently for it. If it's in God's plan to give you that special person, He will give it to you when the time is right. :)
Yeah, but what if God doesn't give me a girl. :(