"My husband/wife is the prettiest/most handsome person in the world!"

iraasuup · Jan 31, 2014

Just to put a spin on things (I love presenting the flipside to thing... what can I say I'm antagonistic muhahaha) but seriously, is it realistic to think that someone should view their spouse as the most beautiful/handsome in the world?

I'm sure it's every girls dream that the guy she marries views her as the most gorgeous girl in the world. Not even Kate Winslett or Jennifer Hawkins could turn their heads, nope for them it's their wife? I've always thought this notion sounded so wonderful and fairy-taleish, but recently I spoke to someone who absolutely believed that about his wife. He thought she was just stunning and no other woman on the planet compared. This got me wondering about the whole looks thing. I mean this guy was so in love with his wife, and genuinely saw her as the MOST BEAUTIFUL girl in the world.

As heart-warming as that is, I honestly struggled with that. Not because I don't believe him, but just because it seems such a whimsical notion. I think it has a lot to do with the social construction of beauty and how women 'should' look and what the world says is 'beauty'. However if someone genuinely LOVES another person wouldn't they automatically see them as beautiful above any other? I dunno, maybe I'm rambling. It got me to wondering if that's a realistic notion...like could a guy marry a girl and view her as the most beautiful girl in the world (because he is so genuinely in love with her and because beauty is more than just 'looks' but consists of inner beauty too, which is a whole different subject... ), and should a girl expect her husband to view her this way...or is it all just empty words? Interesting thread. Sorry to railroad it like this, but you got me thinking is all. Carry on now...

lil_christian · Jan 31, 2014

iraasuup said:

See, that's what my train of thought is. I honestly look at it in a literal sense, not a metaphorical sense of "Most handsome/beautiful in the world." I'm glad people think highly of their spouses and show how committed they are. But in the literal sense, no one can be the most beautiful/handsome in the world. But it very well could be that they have such a love for them, that is how they think of them.

Meh, I'm pretty sure I've nooo idea what I'm talking about.

Rainbows and puppies.

There. Had to lighten the mood somehow after these two reality checks and the whole "Looks matter" junk again....

MissCris · Jan 31, 2014

Sometimes people in love don't really see anyone else.

I've never had a problem with a husband or wife claiming to be with the most attractive woman/man in the world.
Obviously, that's not literally true, but to that person...if they feel that way...

Who cares? It's sweet.

kenthomas27 · Jan 31, 2014

PopClick said:

I think everyone is misthing the point of what PopClick is sthaying. Ellie Mae is beautiful!

Sthe useth to be anyway. Don't know what sthe looksth like now. Warner Brothers ought to throw a reunion with all the old sthars.......of coursth, there's nobody left to .....re-une.

hmm.

being a cartoon characathure has its perksth afterall.......

Liamson · Jan 31, 2014

Women compare themselves to other women. A LOT. Almost whether they wanted to or not.

Men do not care if we are the most handsome thing in the world. We care that someone we chose, chose to be with us.

If I'm dating someone or pursuing someone it is certainly not because I think they #4378 in worldwide attractiveness ranking in their age group. (according to whom exactly?)

It is because I find them very very attractive. Probably in ways that are hard to communicate. In ways that endear them to me. In ways that reveal who they are to me. In ways no one else could ever measure up to or replace.

So If I say that a Woman is the most beautiful in the world, it is because there is no one who could ever do what she does better than she can. It is because I know her, in ways that let me see how her beauty is like a magical power that she wields. The effect of this power is that in all of the world I am enchanted by it.

Women are unique, which is why I value that they do not follow each other or compare themselves to each other. Which butterfly is more beautiful, the Monarch or the Tiger Swallowtail?

When one lands on my hand and I get to see the intricate details the creator has cut between the colors, I can not see in my minds eye a more beautiful butterfly.

In Philosophy this is called Idealism. I'm not being irrational or untruthful to say, that this butterfly is the bees knees.

There is no scientific truth to which is more beautiful, because there cannot be. Beauty was never meant to work that way.

So ladies, be the best version of you that you can be. When you become the most beautiful creature in the world, you just might be the last to know.

rachelsedge · Jan 31, 2014

I was going to elaborate on beauty and how it is both subjective and can change, how one woman is a "different" beautiful than another, though both still radiant (more than just in the physical sense), but Liamson, you said it way better than I could have. Well done.

kenthomas27 · Jan 31, 2014

rachelsedge said:

Well of course you like what she said Liamsthon! Why wouldn't you? "Liamsthon, you just sthay things in the most wonderful way" "Everything Liamsthon stays justh says things perfect, doesn't he ladies?" Oh! Of course he does, he's Liamsthon" "He'll stay things that are spot on, that Liamsthon will"

Liamsthon

Liamsthon

Liamsthon!

Grace-Like-Rain · Jan 31, 2014

kenthomas27 said:

*Sidles over to Thomas and smooths down the feathers on top of his head, murmuring soothing words of comfort about his own worthiness and accomplishments.*

kenthomas27 · Jan 31, 2014

Grace-Like-Rain said:

that ole cowlick justh won't lay down .... will it.. .. ...... Liam .......z.zz ......zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

thecreationtutor · Jan 31, 2014

Shouldn't your spouse be your standard of beauty?

Animus · Jan 31, 2014

This extends past relationships, the idea can be applied to the idea of compliments in general, and I believe it still holds. Suppose one person walks into a group of people and says, “Wow, you look really nice today” to one other person. Everyone else in the group knows that the person is giving out compliments, yet didn't think them worthy of one. It's not that I think everyone has the right to be upset or anything, after all, nobody owes anyone a compliment, but at the end of the day the whole ordeal is going to weigh down on those people that don't receive compliments simply because they've seen that other people do. The problem I have is with compliments in groups, and the internet counts as a group, insofar as it is viewed numerous people. Moreover, I think that the worst compliment is the comparative one, where someone says so and so is the best singer, or best looking, or best dancer etc.. Even if you say, “to me” it still says, “I don't think you are as good as them” to whoever it may concern. An example that would relate to this forum might be,“You're the prettiest girl on CC” or “You're the smartest man on CC” or “You're the funniest person the site”. All of these seem well meaning, but what they are really doing is building one person up at the expense of others. You could just as easily say,“You're super pretty” or “You're very smart”, and if for some reason these aren't as effective compliments, so be it, I'd say compliments should not take precedence over anything at all. For this reason I think that the best way to compliment someone is to do it in private, and without comparisons. Whether or not you should be comparing people in your mind, or judging people in public, is another issue, but as for how you express your thoughts, time and location are what matters most.

Liamson · Jan 31, 2014

I want to make a Troll account where I can say stuff like...

"Shouldn't Christ be your standard of Beauty?"

"We should look to what Jesus says about favoritism."

"Why focus on worldly things like a woman's beauty when you can focus on Jesus?"

NodMyHeadLikeYeah · Jan 31, 2014

Animus said:

This extends past relationships, the idea can be applied to the idea of compliments in general, and I believe it still holds. Suppose one person walks into a group of people and says, “Wow, you look really nice today” to one other person. Everyone else in the group knows that the person is giving out compliments, yet didn't think them worthy of one. It's not that I think everyone has the right to be upset or anything, after all, nobody owes anyone a compliment, but at the end of the day the whole ordeal is going to weigh down on those people that don't receive compliments simply because they've seen that other people do. The problem I have is with compliments in groups, and the internet counts as a group, insofar as it is viewed numerous people. Moreover, I think that the worst compliment is the comparative one, where someone says so and so is the best singer, or best looking, or best dancer etc.. Even if you say, “to me” it still says, “I don't think you are as good as them” to whoever it may concern. An example that would relate to this forum might be,“You're the prettiest girl on CC” or “You're the smartest man on CC” or “You're the funniest person the site”. All of these seem well meaning, but what they are really doing is building one person up at the expense of others. You could just as easily say,“You're super pretty” or “You're very smart”, and if for some reason these aren't as effective compliments, so be it, I'd say compliments should not take precedence over anything at all. For this reason I think that the best way to compliment someone is to do it in private, and without comparisons. Whether or not you should be comparing people in your mind, or judging people in public, is another issue, but as for how you express your thoughts, time and location are what matters most.

Yes... exactly this!

rachelsedge · Jan 31, 2014

Liamson said:

Maybe the screenname could be "JesusJuker4Life"

LovelyU · Jan 31, 2014

Actually I've had this experience of my sisters Ex announcing that all other women look hideous standing next to her. I thought it was very rude indeed. It was a bit more out-there than what you're saying, but I think it would be nicer, kinder and display more affection if it was whispered in the ear of the spouse. It would sure make them feel special without putting everyone else in the room down and making them feel unattractive or hideous.

didymos · Jan 31, 2014

Liamson said:

What? You mean to say Christ ISN'T your standard of beauty?

seoulsearch · Jan 31, 2014

LovelyU said:

I have to admit, I wouldn't be able to resist saying something to him such as, "OH WOW, and you're OFF THE MARKET???!! UNBELIEVABLE. I CAN'T POSSIBLY IMAGINE WHY. You'd better marry her quick, lest you be stuck with one of us other hideous-looking woman!!!"

Donkeyfish07 · Jan 31, 2014

I definitely wouldn't ever bring it up infront of an ex, especially if it was true. If your current beau really is prettier than your last girlfriend, she already knows and the fact of the matter is going to sting bad enough as it is. I'm not one to rub salt into a wound for sport

Jullianna · Jan 31, 2014

I want my man to think I am beautiful in every way, even when I come back from a morning run without makeup smelling like a goat.

And I want him to know I only have eyes for him (well...and Peyton Manning...and Joey Votto

).

But it's seriously bad form to say something like that in front of an ex.

In truth, I don't handle public compliments very well, period. I would much prefer that my man say something like that in a more private setting.

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