Who couldn't you date?

[abbiejean]

I couldn't date a woman who who just doesn't get things. Having to explain concepts all the time or wishing she had something to talk about is such a bummer.

Thanks for the smile.

Having been in a relationship with someone that NEVER talked, and I mean NEVER, to hear a man say something would be refreshing. As a woman, who has been around women that never "hush up" LOL and if I'm not careful can be the same way, I like to have the guy talk. As long as it was interesting and engaging conversation.

 

[Jullianna]

I don't think any of the things on the list would be absolute dealbreakers for me, but my having a sense of humor about those things might be a dealbreaker for them.

Two absolute dealbreakers for me:
Talks a LOT about nothing
Poor personal hygiene

 

[Donkeyfish07]

hmmmm, im sure I have some petty things somewhere. I would definitely not continue a relationship with anyone if I learned they weren't fond of cuddling. Non-cuddlers need not apply.

 

[CatHerder]

I was once thinking of asking a friend out who conducts a youth orchestra. At a dress rehearsal I was helping her with, her teenaged son got mouthy with her while she was in front of her group. She did nothing about it and just kind of stood there looking helpless in front of these nerdy music kids with their violin bows in their hands and their mouths open.

I decided not to ask her out, because I figured that if we were in a relationship, she would let me walk all over her, and I kind of want someone who can push back a little.

I don't know if I was fair to judge her "dateability" by this one incident or not.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

What Catherder said

I couldn't date someone who wouldn't push back.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

I'm not this shallow.

 

[CatHerder]

I'm not this shallow.

How shallow ARE you, then?

 

[Tintin]

Age, good to know. But from reading the thread, you'd find knowing most of these things beforehand could save from further heartache, later in the relationship.

 

[kenthomas27]

Low voice. I think that would bother me a little. Like real low and gravel-y. Like "hey, you got a cigarette" type low.



oh, and same name as my mother.


Course, her name was Harold.

 

[Tintin]

How shallow ARE you, then?

Not very. I'm 6 foot, 5 inches below sea level.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

Not very. I'm 6 foot, 5 inches below sea level.

Your height reversed is mine. Except take an inch off of that...

ok fine then maybe one more!!

I hate this post!

 

[Tintin]

Your height reversed is mine. Except take an inch off of that...

ok fine then maybe one more!!

I hate this post!

So you're 6 foot, 3 inches? Nice. Why do you hate the post? There aren't many tall women where I live.

 

[CatHerder]

Not very. I'm 6 foot, 5 inches below sea level.

Your height reversed is mine. Except take an inch off of that...

ok fine then maybe one more!!

I hate this post!

So you're 6 foot, 3 inches? Nice. Why do you hate the post? There aren't many tall women where I live.

I think she meant "reversed" to your 6' 5", which would put her at 5' 6". Then take an inch...okay, maybe one more....that puts her at 5' 4" - ish.



courtesy of CatHerder Aussie/American Translator Services, LLC.

 

[Tintin]

I think she meant "reversed" to your 6' 5", which would put her at 5' 6". Then take an inch...okay, maybe one more....that puts her at 5' 4" - ish.



courtesy of CatHerder Aussie/American Translator Services, LLC.

Silly, me. I understood "reversed", as to mean above sea-level she was 6 foot, 3 inches. My mistake, Nod! Being tall isn't always a blessing, honest!

 

[Fenner]

Silly, me. I understood "reversed", as to mean above sea-level she was 6 foot, 3 inches. My mistake, Nod! Being tall isn't always a blessing, honest!

I want to be taller. I can't reach things and it's really annoying. And I have to always look for short pants and can never find them, then I have to have pants altered so I'm not tripping over them.

I bet for you it's the opposite someone is frequently asking you to get something that's up high for them and you're always having to look for long pants.

I wonder what the happy medium height is? I am thinking maybe 5 feet 9 inches or an even six feet.

 

[IloveyouGod]

So there!! Your guide!!

Age, good to know. But from reading the thread, you'd find knowing most of these things beforehand could save from further heartache, later in the relationship.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

I was once thinking of asking a friend out who conducts a youth orchestra. At a dress rehearsal I was helping her with, her teenaged son got mouthy with her while she was in front of her group. She did nothing about it and just kind of stood there looking helpless in front of these nerdy music kids with their violin bows in their hands and their mouths open.

I decided not to ask her out, because I figured that if we were in a relationship, she would let me walk all over her, and I kind of want someone who can push back a little.

I don't know if I was fair to judge her "dateability" by this one incident or not.

Well, not pushing back in front of her group may not mean that she didn't give him a good talking to when she got home that evening.

 

[djness]

I was once thinking of asking a friend out who conducts a youth orchestra. At a dress rehearsal I was helping her with, her teenaged son got mouthy with her while she was in front of her group. She did nothing about it and just kind of stood there looking helpless in front of these nerdy music kids with their violin bows in their hands and their mouths open.

I decided not to ask her out, because I figured that if we were in a relationship, she would let me walk all over her, and I kind of want someone who can push back a little.

I don't know if I was fair to judge her "dateability" by this one incident or not.

Reminds me of when a teen age kid was in my store and was hitting his moms arm over and over. I didn't hit him but the pack of male store employees circling him like hungry lions was enough to get the message across.

You should of gotten in the kids face and stared them down. If you really wanted to follow it up you would have told the kid to apologize. If the kid said ''You aren't my dad you can't tell me what to do''. I would pulled a line from the book shane and said ''i aint your daddy , im the one that stuck around'' then you ask her out.

I'd say it wasn't fair.

 

[abbiejean]

I don't think any of the things on the list would be absolute dealbreakers for me, but my having a sense of humor about those things might be a dealbreaker for them.

Two absolute dealbreakers for me:
Talks a LOT about nothing
Poor personal hygiene

Yup, they gotta have teeth. LOL
And shave - preferably no facial hair. Use of cologne (and there is some nice smelling stuff "out there") would be nice.
Oh and be able to pay for the date, having money to afford a girl would be nice.
Taller than what I am would be nice - would be nice to look up and not down.
Has his own transportation, one with wheels and not four legs and a buggy.

 

[abbiejean]

Reminds me of when a teen age kid was in my store and was hitting his moms arm over and over. I didn't hit him but the pack of male store employees circling him like hungry lions was enough to get the message across.

You should of gotten in the kids face and stared them down. If you really wanted to follow it up you would have told the kid to apologize. If the kid said ''You aren't my dad you can't tell me what to do''. I would pulled a line from the book shane and said ''i aint your daddy , im the one that stuck around'' then you ask her out.

I'd say it wasn't fair.

I really like that.