New Group: Overweight and Unattractive single men only
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i hate gyms with a passion.
i'd sooner lift hay bales and feed bags, run down the street or at a park. running while facing tv's, a wall (or worse, a mirror) is super annoying and i don't know how anyone survives that.
maybe you and olivia could jump rope. i do that a fair amount.
and praus, do you realize that barbie wold have like, a 18" waist with breast implants for that to even approach reality? is that what you want? women to start removing their ribs (again)?
i'd sooner lift hay bales and feed bags, run down the street or at a park. running while facing tv's, a wall (or worse, a mirror) is super annoying and i don't know how anyone survives that.
maybe you and olivia could jump rope. i do that a fair amount.
and praus, do you realize that barbie wold have like, a 18" waist with breast implants for that to even approach reality? is that what you want? women to start removing their ribs (again)?
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i had an ex who constantly teased me because of my inability to multi-task. he would rather often (being all stealthy) sneak up and scare the living daylights out of me (while i was quite engrossed in something).
which i don't hold against him, really, because i can be a pretty obnoxious practical joker and he definitely got his fair share of those. : )
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Im attracted to heavier men too! I like em thick! Means great bear hugs and to me im already a bigger girl i dont want to be with a toothpick. There is nothing small delicate or petite about me so i need a bear of a man! Plus a big guy makes a woman feel protected plus its good cuddles while watching a movie or camping on a chilly night. Plus it would be nice to date a man the actually has bigger feet than me and specifically bigger hands lol *tired of tiny men*
2 things:
1: Isaiah states a prophecy of Jesus being "marred beyond any man" (Is 52:14) I would assume that, in terms of physical appearance, he was not one we would be "attracted" to. I guess you could argue he wasn't overweight, but nonetheless I don't think attractiveness was an issue for Jesus.
2. I've recently come to believe that eating healthy and staying in shape are good things for Christians to do, and can be an act of love toward others. Many churches referred to the Scripture that says "Honor God with your body" or "Your body is a holy temple" among others, but whenever I looked, it seemed it always referred to lust, and not eating habits. However, I also learned that poor health choices can affect those around you and cause unnecessary grief and pain, and thus as a result I have started trying to eat healthier and work out more as I have been gaining weight recently. It is a tough battle, especially in American society (don't know much about other societies), as we live in such a fast-paced culture where it is hard to settle down and take the time to cook a meal, but the reward is worth the time and effort.
1: Isaiah states a prophecy of Jesus being "marred beyond any man" (Is 52:14) I would assume that, in terms of physical appearance, he was not one we would be "attracted" to. I guess you could argue he wasn't overweight, but nonetheless I don't think attractiveness was an issue for Jesus.
2. I've recently come to believe that eating healthy and staying in shape are good things for Christians to do, and can be an act of love toward others. Many churches referred to the Scripture that says "Honor God with your body" or "Your body is a holy temple" among others, but whenever I looked, it seemed it always referred to lust, and not eating habits. However, I also learned that poor health choices can affect those around you and cause unnecessary grief and pain, and thus as a result I have started trying to eat healthier and work out more as I have been gaining weight recently. It is a tough battle, especially in American society (don't know much about other societies), as we live in such a fast-paced culture where it is hard to settle down and take the time to cook a meal, but the reward is worth the time and effort.
I'm fine with the word Overweight being in the title, but not unattractive.
First of all, attractive does not only refer to external characteristics of a person. Second of all, attractive is an extremely subjective concept. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that. Third, you can be overweight and yet still be attractive. Have I made myself clear?
First of all, attractive does not only refer to external characteristics of a person. Second of all, attractive is an extremely subjective concept. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that. Third, you can be overweight and yet still be attractive. Have I made myself clear?
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I'm fat. Always have been. It bothered me when I was a little kid. Not so much because little kids can be cruel with name calling but for some reason when 2 or more kids would try & pick a fight with me or a group would come at me,I was always told by the Nuns that because I was bigger I can't be fighting back or hitting because I could hurt them. I used to think,even as a little kid that this was insanity..."So like 4 or 5 kids can call me names or try to physically fight me,but because I weigh more than them,I'm not allowed to fight back because heaven forbid I get ahold of one of them & hurt them it's the end of the world?"
As a teen I came into my own. I was a Metalhead,had long hair and was into art,played drums and didn't care about the norms of society,I had sort of a "heck with you world!" attitude,but using much more graphic wording.
In having the " I don't care what people think of me attitude",somehow it caused people to want to be around me more. Go figure? I guess through music I also gained confidence. Girls either loved me or hated me.
Some found me attractive,other's were repulsed by me.
I realized early on that looks are subjective.
No matter how ugly you think you are,someone will find you attractive to some greater or lesser degree.
When I got saved,then I started to get insecure about my looks. Mostly because back then pretty much every Christian was cookie cutter looking. All the guess had short hair,dressed normal,and everyone acted so proper. Many of the guys I went to church with were really fit too. I should say..not fit,but thin..thinner than me. Talking to many Christian girls at the time,not only did they all envision the perfect Christian man to be head of his own ministry,know the Bible cover to cover,dress like a TV evangelist,have loads of $$$ to support them,but they liked thin,clean cut guys. Of which I was none of and never could see myself even wanting to be.
By the time I hit 29,I just remember thinking to myself.."This isn't freedom...it's free doom. Why am I trying to be something I'm not?"
Ever since then I just came to be much more comfortable in who I am as well as what I look like.
If woman doesn't like me for how I look. That's fine. To each is own.
Personally,I'm not out to impress or conform to what anyone wants. I'm too old for all that,and I just can't be bothered.
I think one thing that bothers me is whenever I hear people say thing's like "Oh he/she is some awesome.They're spiritual,funny,sweet,wonderful,smart,talented...if only he/she weren't so fat/blonde/tall/skinny/hairy/bald."
I suppose if looks is your deciding factor in whom you date or marry,that's your choice and more power to ya' in finding someone who meets all your criteria. Mutual attraction is important. I would never try to downplay that one bit.
I find it funny though when many of the people who say "I'd never date that person because they're too fat." - are many times in fact,"fat" themselves or not the most physically impressive specimen in the lab.
So yeah...that's my rambling's on being fat. lol
I don't care...I am me,and it's never hurt my dating life. I was married to a really attractive woman for 9 yrs too,so I guess not all fat people are unattractive. lol
In an unrelated though...
Is it almost March yet? I could go for a Shamrock Shake!!!!
As a teen I came into my own. I was a Metalhead,had long hair and was into art,played drums and didn't care about the norms of society,I had sort of a "heck with you world!" attitude,but using much more graphic wording.
In having the " I don't care what people think of me attitude",somehow it caused people to want to be around me more. Go figure? I guess through music I also gained confidence. Girls either loved me or hated me.
Some found me attractive,other's were repulsed by me.
I realized early on that looks are subjective.
No matter how ugly you think you are,someone will find you attractive to some greater or lesser degree.
When I got saved,then I started to get insecure about my looks. Mostly because back then pretty much every Christian was cookie cutter looking. All the guess had short hair,dressed normal,and everyone acted so proper. Many of the guys I went to church with were really fit too. I should say..not fit,but thin..thinner than me. Talking to many Christian girls at the time,not only did they all envision the perfect Christian man to be head of his own ministry,know the Bible cover to cover,dress like a TV evangelist,have loads of $$$ to support them,but they liked thin,clean cut guys. Of which I was none of and never could see myself even wanting to be.
By the time I hit 29,I just remember thinking to myself.."This isn't freedom...it's free doom. Why am I trying to be something I'm not?"
Ever since then I just came to be much more comfortable in who I am as well as what I look like.
If woman doesn't like me for how I look. That's fine. To each is own.
Personally,I'm not out to impress or conform to what anyone wants. I'm too old for all that,and I just can't be bothered.
I think one thing that bothers me is whenever I hear people say thing's like "Oh he/she is some awesome.They're spiritual,funny,sweet,wonderful,smart,talented...if only he/she weren't so fat/blonde/tall/skinny/hairy/bald."
I suppose if looks is your deciding factor in whom you date or marry,that's your choice and more power to ya' in finding someone who meets all your criteria. Mutual attraction is important. I would never try to downplay that one bit.
I find it funny though when many of the people who say "I'd never date that person because they're too fat." - are many times in fact,"fat" themselves or not the most physically impressive specimen in the lab.
So yeah...that's my rambling's on being fat. lol
I don't care...I am me,and it's never hurt my dating life. I was married to a really attractive woman for 9 yrs too,so I guess not all fat people are unattractive. lol
In an unrelated though...
Is it almost March yet? I could go for a Shamrock Shake!!!!
