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You will not like the same things, you will not be on the same level of maturity, you will have completely different understandings of the world, and it would be like dating your daughter. I would say to stay in a 10 year age range, above and below. I don't think there is anything honorable in a 35 year old seeking someone who just officially reached 'legal age' (18). Seems wrong somehow. This is my opinion, of course.
i'm not sure why you're asking this question. i'm going to hope that you're not just "looking for an 18 year old" and are speaking of one specifically.
of course it's possible.
as to your particular scenario (and lacking further detail) i would warn that you're attempting to bridge one of, if not THE most difficult times of adult development. if there is a time when age difference really matters, it's that time. the potential implications of your different life stages are going to be huge for quite awhile, and it matters even more if those constraints/decisions apply to one or both, in particular. she will continue to evolve and develop in ways that mean she will possibly be *rather* different than the person she is today.
what she says she *wants* today may dramatically change. i'd bet on it. and plan on the fact that those decisions will affect you in a major way.
i am grateful that i am not having to live everyday by the decisions i made when i was 18-- it would be a whole different landscape.
but maybe a better question is why are you so into an 18 year old (whether "she" is real or hypothetical)? what is it that is attractive to you? i'd explore that.
of course it's possible.
as to your particular scenario (and lacking further detail) i would warn that you're attempting to bridge one of, if not THE most difficult times of adult development. if there is a time when age difference really matters, it's that time. the potential implications of your different life stages are going to be huge for quite awhile, and it matters even more if those constraints/decisions apply to one or both, in particular. she will continue to evolve and develop in ways that mean she will possibly be *rather* different than the person she is today.
what she says she *wants* today may dramatically change. i'd bet on it. and plan on the fact that those decisions will affect you in a major way.
i am grateful that i am not having to live everyday by the decisions i made when i was 18-- it would be a whole different landscape.
but maybe a better question is why are you so into an 18 year old (whether "she" is real or hypothetical)? what is it that is attractive to you? i'd explore that.
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While I feel nothing is wrong with a 35 year old marrying an 18 year old at least in terms of the hypothetical and also with me hypothetically assuming you would both be faithful to eachother and be good to eachother in accordance to God. However I think some of the other posters do bring up some valid points as to why such a thing might at the very least be somewhat of a challenge. Things such as mutual interests, mental maturity, societal factors, etc.
I would say if you yourself don't think other people should be fixated on the age of your potential spouse then why should you be fixated on her age? What if (hypothetically speaking) you met a good woman that was for instance, 37 as where you were 35. Wouldn't you still want to marry her even though she would be a little older than you as long as she was the one woman that loves you and you love her?
Just some thoughts of my own for you to ponder as well. I am 24 years old and am single and probably will never marry, so perhaps my own thinking is flawed, but it is what it is. I hope at the least regardless of whom becomes your wife and whatever yours and her age is that you would at least both love eachother in accordance to God.
I would say if you yourself don't think other people should be fixated on the age of your potential spouse then why should you be fixated on her age? What if (hypothetically speaking) you met a good woman that was for instance, 37 as where you were 35. Wouldn't you still want to marry her even though she would be a little older than you as long as she was the one woman that loves you and you love her?
Just some thoughts of my own for you to ponder as well. I am 24 years old and am single and probably will never marry, so perhaps my own thinking is flawed, but it is what it is. I hope at the least regardless of whom becomes your wife and whatever yours and her age is that you would at least both love eachother in accordance to God.
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Hate to burst your bubble but it's very unlikely. Being 19, I think I have a pretty good view of an 18 year old.... clueless! On what they want, who they are, where they want to go, how to accomplish all this and that, when to do this or that, etc. Being so for an 18 year old to fall in love it could happen but not for a long time, or having a lasting love is almost impossible because how could they be a good mate if they don't even no what they want or who they are? What in about 5 years they find out you weren't what they wanted? I think for the most part truly falling in love and such is rare for those under 25.
Age is just a number for love, but age similarities are totally different tale. For example most people my age love SpongeBob as a daily show to smile and enjoy, along with Adventure time, Regular Show, and even those a little older Uncle Grandpa for a few laughs. Oh and Disney, never forget that! Everything has to do with texting, typing, coding... you know electronic stuff for everything. Of course there's some not like this, but they are a rare find. As you can see (this isn't even th 1/2) we're a very immature generation! And don't think you can change a 90's baby because we're stubborn and will only do everything our way. If one doesn't like our way then whatever to them.
Trust me, you don't want an 18 year old or even those about 5 years older, unless you enjoy watching kids because that's exactly what it is.... I'm around this age so I know it's a terrible, unrealistic idea. Not sure about a lot of things, but 110% on this
Age is just a number for love, but age similarities are totally different tale. For example most people my age love SpongeBob as a daily show to smile and enjoy, along with Adventure time, Regular Show, and even those a little older Uncle Grandpa for a few laughs. Oh and Disney, never forget that! Everything has to do with texting, typing, coding... you know electronic stuff for everything. Of course there's some not like this, but they are a rare find. As you can see (this isn't even th 1/2) we're a very immature generation! And don't think you can change a 90's baby because we're stubborn and will only do everything our way. If one doesn't like our way then whatever to them.
Trust me, you don't want an 18 year old or even those about 5 years older, unless you enjoy watching kids because that's exactly what it is.... I'm around this age so I know it's a terrible, unrealistic idea. Not sure about a lot of things, but 110% on this