never had a gf. don't see much hope of ever getting one. any suggestions?

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I can assure you that at least one person cares. I don't know you personally, but I know the value of every life on this earth. The Lord God created each person specially and uniquely. It would devastate me to know that someone felt such despair that they took their own life. As I said, I don't know you personally, but I promise you that there are people in your life who care and love you deeply. We tend to think of love as a feeling, but most times it's a choice moreso than a feeling. Sometimes we are really bad at expressing our love and concern for those in our lives that matter. But cling to this truth no matter what: You are loved, your life has great value, and you are vital in the life of others...even when it doesn't feel that way.
I will try to remember this. or, if i want to live by the words of Yoda: Do, or do not. there is no try.
So i will remember. i just hope it helps when i need it.
 
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Just want to say i dont want to be depressed. that impression is false and if i give it to you then thats a failure on my part. Well that is honestly a relief to hear. In that case take some of the advice that's been given. * Be positive * Go out somewhere different * Attempt to get to know a variety of people * Find a new hobby/interest * Get a job/ start studying * Don't be alone (that's what's easy for you), challenge yourself. When you help your depression, I think you will notice a difference in your life.

And like many people you assume i have more power over how i feel than what i actually do. believe me, if i had as much power as you say i do; i would not be so depressed. I really do know what you mean and why you think the way you do, BUT I know you have more power than you think you do. You just haven't realized it yet. I'm not saying it's going to be easy to overcome, but it's doable. (Yes, it's hard, but it's sooo worth it). So instead of saying "I can't" or "I don't", TRY. :)

I dont mean to sound like a victim here. im just being honest.
But regardless, thank you for your response and for reading everything. it does mean something to me.
I pray that you will get some revelation in this area. (That the depression doesn't have to consume you) God bless!
 
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well OP per another thread. you can go to some place in India and end up kidnapped and forced to marry a girl.
 
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Dude, ^^those two statements are somewhat contradictory to me. You want the love and care to go both ways? And yet what did you offer Jesus? Your life? Your belief or praise? Anything?
Maybe you didnt see this in my misc thread. but i did have faith once. This hapoened when i was 15. I had prayed to god before in my life and got no answer... but i thought there was a good reason and if i really needed him, he would answer. then one day i was going thru a time of great fear and pain. I asked god for comfort, but none came. After that i questioned gods nature and lost faith.

So i did offer him faith. maybe i wasnt as faithful as i should have been but hardly anyone is at 15.
 
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Im sorry you feel that way about my fave games. honestly, the only thing im living for is games, movies, anime, music, books etc. And i really like japan. maybe i will live there someday...

And i dont know... i was never happy in school...

And well... you know how suicide hurts people that care alot about you? Well... i need to feel like someone loves and cares about me alot... so if there is only one person who does... then if that one person stops caring about me and i end up suiciding... there wont be anyone that cares about me much so it wont hurt anyone very much.

Its more complicated than that but i tried to summarize... there are other reasons too but not as signifigant.
Well, staying home and playing video games is not gonna get you in Japan. A scholarship could. Or you could apply to a volunteering program in Japan (Volunteer in Japan | Reviews of Volunteer Programs in Japan | GoOverseas.com - I give the link as an example, I'm sure there are plenty of programs out there).
You must have an intelectual curiosity, there must be something that you're good at, something that you like doing: focus on that. I know retired persons that are more active than you are. I'm not saying this to make you sad, it's just that you have to realise that you can't just let yourself lived, you must live the life!
The main reason for your depression is that you don't do nothing. Go outside, get a job, study something, make yourself useful in some way and you won't have time to think about suicide and you'll also make some friends, gain experience, maturity, stability, security etc.

How about your parents and your sister? Why don't you believe that they care for you?
 
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Well, staying home and playing video games is not gonna get you in Japan. A scholarship could. Or you could apply to a volunteering program in Japan (Volunteer in Japan | Reviews of Volunteer Programs in Japan | GoOverseas.com - I give the link as an example, I'm sure there are plenty of programs out there).
You must have an intelectual curiosity, there must be something that you're good at, something that you like doing: focus on that. I know retired persons that are more active than you are. I'm not saying this to make you sad, it's just that you have to realise that you can't just let yourself lived, you must live the life!
The main reason for your depression is that you don't do nothing. Go outside, get a job, study something, make yourself useful in some way and you won't have time to think about suicide and you'll also make some friends, gain experience, maturity, stability, security etc.

How about your parents and your sister? Why don't you believe that they care for you?
Well, they just ignore me for the most part.

Sometimes i think whats standing between me and happiness is reality :/
 

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Maybe you didnt see this in my misc thread. but i did have faith once. This hapoened when i was 15. I had prayed to god before in my life and got no answer... but i thought there was a good reason and if i really needed him, he would answer. then one day i was going thru a time of great fear and pain. I asked god for comfort, but none came. After that i questioned gods nature and lost faith.

So i did offer him faith. maybe i wasnt as faithful as i should have been but hardly anyone is at 15.
I remember your story. :) I would argue that if you had offered Him belief, it would not have been contingent upon receiving comfort from Him.

I think that, deep down inside, you know what you're looking for. Truly. If you're ever ready to give up fighting against the only true source of help... well, you know what I'm going to say.

He's there. ;)
 
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Please, answer the question. Do you think they care for you, yes or no?

P.S.: do you care for them?
... no.

And well i care about them as much as any human. (well i should say as much as any human that is not a murderer or something)
 
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I remember your story. :) I would argue that if you had offered Him belief, it would not have been contingent upon receiving comfort from Him.

I think that, deep down inside, you know what you're looking for. Truly. If you're ever ready to give up fighting against the only true source of help... well, you know what I'm going to say.

He's there. ;)
Well maybe one day he will make his presence known.
 

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For those who have made the random accusations about the OP being former user Dothackzero, unless Dot moved halfway across the country (which I don't see happening) Arcynaculr is not him.
 
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Roger. Copy. All clear on the Western Front. :)
 
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For those who have made the random accusations about the OP being former user Dothackzero, unless Dot moved halfway across the country (which I don't see happening) Arcynaculr is not him.
Glad that has been cleared up.

It was rather perturbing.
 

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hmmm y did he get banned? imworried for him.... looks unstable suicidal thoughts can easily come in