If A Woman Isn't Married By Age 50, Will She Be Alone Forever?

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Biscuit, are you trying to imply that women OVER 35 are'nt attractive? That's a wee bit presumptuous isnt it? :( There is no "best age" to get married at. It happens when it happens. Or if it does'nt happen, then there may be a reason. Dont categorize women OR marriage.
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When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
 
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When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
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When do men's bodies usually begin to break down? :)
 
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I will try to be kind but not 'politically correct', because I would be lying. The 'best age' for women to get married is 18-29. Depending on her facial features & body, she could extend it to 35. This is just general info because a woman can get married at any age, but most men like them young and attractive, especially men 50 and under. I am 60 and have no problem attracting women 35 and under. Most people tell me or believe I am 40.
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That's........depressing. Looks like I'm 2 years to late.

Kim,
As to your original question. As frustrating as it is everything biscuit and you have said has some truth to it. As we get older i think the chances for people around our age to get married are slimming down. We don't look 25 anymore, and where our personality may be the same as it was when we were 25, our looks don't match and that's the kicker.
Is it fair.... absolutely not.
 
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biscuit said:
When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
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i don't really care what most men might do. i'm only looking for one good guy.

and when it comes to age, it is no more a predictor of maturity, beauty, and wisdom than grades indicate i.q.points.

that goes for men AND women.
 
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That's........depressing. Looks like I'm 2 years to late.

Kim,
As to your original question. As frustrating as it is everything biscuit and you have said has some truth to it. As we get older i think the chances for people around our age to get married are slimming down. We don't look 25 anymore, and where our personality may be the same as it was when we were 25, our looks don't match and that's the kicker.
Is it fair.... absolutely not.
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There are men who don't care how old you are, what your body type is or interested in facial beauty but want a woman who has a golden heart or a very pleasant personality and will treat them right. What I am saying is a woman who is trying to be the best she can be will give herself a fairer chance. Personally, I find too many women have the 'princess complex." In other words, it is all about them, and if you want them, you have to come with everything you have to please them in order to mate them. This will not work well with older women because they are already at a disadvantage. What I see in many of the older women (35+) is many of them have set up defensive shields in front of men to keep from getting hurt again. In other words, they haven't healed from their previous bad relationships. That's why many older men like young women because they have less personal baggage. Again, I am being honest because I have experience in the relationship, counseling field.
 
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Am I the only one who'd like to see a thread asking "If A Man Isn't Married By Age 50, Will He Be Alone Forever?"
So many questions I would love to ask on that one. ;)
 
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i don't really care what most men might do. i'm only looking for one good guy.

and when it comes to age, it is no more a predictor of maturity, beauty, and wisdom than grades indicate i.q.points.

that goes for men AND women.
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I wish you luck
 
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thanks.

i wish for you the same that i wish for myself and my brothers and sisters:

+ a kingdom-minded attitude, seeking God in one's life, above all else.

+a heart soft and open, rather than hardened by the pain of previous experiences. rejoicing always in the Lord.

+a deep and abiding love for my brothers and sisters in Christ

+the drive to continue to press forward, growing, learning and changing, instead of sitting on the sidelines

+to speak in truth and love, instead of judgment, bitterness or quarrelsome pettiness

+the faith to trust God working in our lives for His purpose and our good

+finally, a clear mind that can separate wheat from chaff
 
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Dear sister in Christ

I would like to tell you that if is in God plans, HE has the right person for you. I personally do not believe that if a woman is not married by age 50 she will be alone forever. About Tom Cruise, I will not even think about him, because in a first place he marry more than one time, and as know those couples were men are much older than woman ALMOST NEVER LAST. Why? because in a first place God is not in the center of that relationship, second, those relationship most of the time are not based on LOVE, are based on physical attraction and as a professional in Human Behavior, we know the reason why men look for younger woman...A good and mature man will look a woman of his age.God bless you
 
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Dear sister in Christ

I would like to tell you that if is in God plans, HE has the right person for you. I personally do not believe that if a woman is not married by age 50 she will be alone forever. About Tom Cruise, I will not even think about him, because in a first place he marry more than one time, and as know those couples were men are much older than woman ALMOST NEVER LAST. Why? because in a first place God is not in the center of that relationship, second, those relationship most of the time are not based on LOVE, are based on physical attraction and as a professional in Human Behavior, we know the reason why men look for younger woman...A good and mature man will look a woman of his age.God bless you
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Hi Ms. Patty; are you Thai? do people marry especially young in Thailand? of course, I know it's different for believers because added to the age aspect there should be the acknowledgement of the will and sovereignty of God in the matter.

Blessings.
 
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just_monicat said:
thanks.

i wish for you the same that i wish for myself and my brothers and sisters:

+ a kingdom-minded attitude, seeking God in one's life, above all else.

+a heart soft and open, rather than hardened by the pain of previous experiences. rejoicing always in the Lord.

+a deep and abiding love for my brothers and sisters in Christ

+the drive to continue to press forward, growing, learning and changing, instead of sitting on the sidelines

+to speak in truth and love, instead of judgment, bitterness or quarrelsome pettiness

+the faith to trust God working in our lives for His purpose and our good

+finally, a clear mind that can separate wheat from chaff
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Monica: Or, stated differently, I guess: someone of spiritual maturity.

Blessings.
 
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biscuit said:
When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
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I have so much I want to say here.

*sigh*
 
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biscuit said:
When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
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speechless.
 
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biscuit said:
When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
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Bit which one in the roomful of men will SHE choose? Probably not the 60-year-old.
 
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biscuit said:
When it comes to relationships and age, men & women are on the opposite side of the pole. God made us different and those differences are being played out universally. Like I said before I am not going to be politically correct but truthful. If you present a group of men with a 35 y.o. woman and a 20 y.o woman, I guarantee the majority of men will pick the 20 y.o. They both have good quality & balance. And yes, I would pick the 20 y.o. That's life. Age does matter because a woman's body breaks down after a certain age, usually in her 30's. Women prior to the WLM would tell their daughters what I am telling you now ... so don't pull this catagorizing woman's game.
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Hi Biscuit,

I'm just surprised you don't have a picture in your profile, seeing as you've told us all you're 60 and look 40. I'm not doubting, I'd just be curious to see the face that says he has no problem attracting 20-something women.

I'm also shocked, absolutely shocked, that you're not married???!!!

Don't worry, I'm sure the right 20-something with the ageless body is out there somewhere. :) I'd love to see a picture when it happens--please share it with us! ;)

I do understand that different things work for different people. Maybe it's just me, but I have yet to encounter an older man who was looking for a woman that much younger stemming from purely altruistic motives. The ones who have tried to talk to me, at least, talk about family values or wanting children... and the very heavily implied fact that they'd love a good piece of arm candy. They also speak to me as if I'm a 12-year old lost child. But as I said, it might just be my own experience.

I just always wonder what God would say about their motives (and yes, it could be a man or woman.) Is it God's command to seek out someone young because after a certain age, her "body will break down"? I always wonder what God's answer is to a prayer such as, "Lord, you know I need a beautiful, fertile, resilient young woman half my age..."

I was once approached on a dating site by a white mid-50ish man (I was about 35 at the time) who had two Asian children and pursued contact with me very aggressively. To be honest, I felt like he was looking for a handbag that matched his current pair of shoes. When I declined, he said, "Well, I'd like to be friends so you can tell me about your experiences (growing up in America) so that I can relate to my own children..."

I prayed about it.

And I believe God told me, "Kim, this man has all kinds of other resources he can go to (support groups, websites, etc.) He does NOT need to try to hold on to you under the guise of 'needing advice' in raising his children. He's using this as an excuse to get close to you." Of course, this can happen with any age group but I was pretty dismayed by this man's approach and method.

Again, this is just my own experience. If God was nudging me to date a 60-year-old man, it would be a stretch for me, I admit, and He would really have to work on my heart. Oddly enough, I often attract younger guys myself as well, but I'm hoping I'll have an open heart for whoever God has for me in the future, regardless of age. I do think that God understands though, that I am generally uncomfortable with older men because God saved me from being victimized by older men with harmful intentions when I was growing up. (Yes, I realize any age could be an abuser but for me, it was always older men who made comments that made me uneasy.)
 
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i just wish people would stop mistaking the fact that attracting wildly inappropriate people is any sort of a compliment to them.

or believing the flattery. : )
 
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