Darn biological clock...I need some advice!

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biscuit

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I don't think God is too please for a woman who is living(possibly) in sin (fornication), asking for a baby, possibly out-of-wedlock. If she was married, I believe it would be a different situation.
 
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Jullianna

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Angel2386 said:
I'd like your thoughts on my dilemma; I've been praying, but God seems to be vague with His instructions lately. (Maybe He's making me humble myself on the chat forum first?)

I'm a 33 yr old female, who has been in a relationship with a wonderful 29 yr old Christian man for the past year and a half. It's almost eerie how well we get along, plus he has a great job, a great family, and my friends love him. He would swim through sharks for me -- I trust him completely.
We're both kinda awkward when discussing the idea of marriage; he's always been painfully shy around women, and I finally gave up on handling relationships myself and told God to take over. We seem to have this "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" policy toward our relationship.
HOWEVER...as I said before, I am 33. Though I can't imagine it right now, I might want to have a child one day. The risk for pregnancy complications goes up considerably after age 35, but I'd like to get used to being married before I add the stress of a child to the mix. Meaning, I don't have a lot of time left! I feel if I press the issue, he'll propose, but here's where my problem comes in... I'm not very physically attracted to him. He's cute, don't get me wrong, but he just has no clue about what interests women. I love him very much, though; I can't imagine living life without him.
But for his sake, he deserves a woman who is "hot" for him. (heck, he's almost 30 and has never had a girlfriend besides me!) He also could have a woman who is a lot younger than me, who could produce a whole litter of kids to play with in the backyard. I love him, and I want what's best for him. I also want to be happy myself. I keep praying about it, but I'm still conflicted. I thought I would ask for advice here while I'm waiting on God to give me some clarity on whether to press the issue of marriage. Thoughts? (sorry for the novel)
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It doesn't appear that she is talking about having a child out of wedlock.
 
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biscuit

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Jullianna said:
It doesn't appear that she is talking about having a child out of wedlock.
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That's why I used the word "possibly" ...loosely. One of my college best friend wanted to get married and raised a family because of her biological clock. She also stated that if she couldn't find a husband to accomplish this, she was willing to have a baby out of wedlock. Many women today are in this predictament.
 
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Jullianna

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I would certainly be willing to adopt a child as a single mom, but if it's God's will to actually have one of my own, there's a far better way. :)
 
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Jullianna said:
I would certainly be willing to adopt a child as a single mom, but if it's God's will to actually have one of my own, there's a far better way. :)
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Agree! BTW, my college friend did get married and raising a couple of beautiful kids. I told her to be patient and things would work out for her.
 
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Jullianna

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I'm glad it worked out for her. :) The story of Ishmael should remind us of the dangers of trying it our way, huh?
 
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