J
When I walked through the door at church today, two little girls were jumping up and down. They couldn't wait to tell me about a new pet. They followed me to my seat, telling me all about their week. One of my favorite parts of Sunday. And then this conversation happened:
Her: I invited two boys and a girl to my birthday party. One boy and the girl came. The other boy just ignored me while I was talking with him.
Me: Aww. Some boys are like that.
Her: BUT...he's cute
Starts young, doesn't it? Thinking it is okay to be treated badly because he/she is "cute" or attractive to us in some way? He/she has issues completely unrelated to us, but we take responsibility for them and try to "fix" them? We somehow think we have to? We don't want to hurt their feelings (As if somehow their feelings are more important than ours...why is that?)?
On some level we know it. We know we know it. We do it anyway.
And we don't realize how stupid it is until a 1st grader says it out loud.
Her: I invited two boys and a girl to my birthday party. One boy and the girl came. The other boy just ignored me while I was talking with him.
Me: Aww. Some boys are like that.
Her: BUT...he's cute
Starts young, doesn't it? Thinking it is okay to be treated badly because he/she is "cute" or attractive to us in some way? He/she has issues completely unrelated to us, but we take responsibility for them and try to "fix" them? We somehow think we have to? We don't want to hurt their feelings (As if somehow their feelings are more important than ours...why is that?)?
On some level we know it. We know we know it. We do it anyway.
And we don't realize how stupid it is until a 1st grader says it out loud.