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You know Brooke, I can totally empathize with how you feel as I am a single Christian who can relate to your situation.
However, that part of your posting, "I deserve" just jumped right at me as a red flag.
Using that in the context of, let's say, simply wanting to be treated like a lady or desiring to be loved by godly husband is one thing but if that was any indication of how you see yourself as, i.e., deserving or believing to be entitled to, then I believe there is a big difference and I would suggest to think about why you want to find that someone.
It is something I've been thinking about as well since I came to realize very recently how much of my desire to find that person was driven substantially by 'me' factor rather than for God and for her. Any relationship, especially marriage, won't last long if I'm driven by 'me' factor.
This was not probably the kind of encouragement you were looking for but just wanted to share this as a single Christian man who can empathize with your situation and also going through a season of transformation to become the right person that my wife is looking for. To share the way I deal with when I am struck with that sudden loneliness is by singing, "God has a plan for me~ God has a plan for me~ (Jeremiah 29:11)," to just a random tune; it helps me to focus on the fact that God has a plan for me and makes me to look forward to that day.
God bless and let us put our trust and hope in our Heavenly Dad, one who adopted us as His own by giving His only Son Jesus Christ and is dying to give us the "blessing" yet withholding it for now because we are perhaps not so quite ready to receive it. In His perfect timing - Amen.
J
In response to Brooke-
I have had this issue all my life. I make friends, then they change into someone totally different from myself or their old selves. I have no idea why this is, but had gotten to the point that I was afraid to make friends. Now that I want friends, it seems everyone distances themselves from me. They are nice, but don't let me in their "circle". I just don't understand our society.
I have had this issue all my life. I make friends, then they change into someone totally different from myself or their old selves. I have no idea why this is, but had gotten to the point that I was afraid to make friends. Now that I want friends, it seems everyone distances themselves from me. They are nice, but don't let me in their "circle". I just don't understand our society.
U
Brooke, I noticed everyone else said this and I am going to say it too. I agree with them. It is the words you said, "I deserve.." No, no. This showed your personality that you are "demanding" like Samson wanted this woman and he paid the price. Same thing. Same with Jacob wanted Rachel. In the Bible it repeated in many stories that those Biblical people wanted this or that or even deserve this or that. They paid the price.
I am 49 and I heard stories about generations X and Y and even Z are very different than my generation-the Baby Boomers. We were raised good old fashioned way or some of them rebelled (like my older sister was a hippie back then in the 1970's) but from what I heard from people my age that their children or grand children. Real bad. As in dating scene with the younger generations, they deserved this or that.. In another word, they demanded it. Young women demand to marry gentleman.. I did research about young women in 20s and oh! They expected to be drama queens cared for by their gentlemen. Let me paint another picture. They are using men. No offense but the attitude is out there. Christians are supposed to follow the letter of the Bible meaning to be humble and the right man will come along. Get it?
I am 49 and I heard stories about generations X and Y and even Z are very different than my generation-the Baby Boomers. We were raised good old fashioned way or some of them rebelled (like my older sister was a hippie back then in the 1970's) but from what I heard from people my age that their children or grand children. Real bad. As in dating scene with the younger generations, they deserved this or that.. In another word, they demanded it. Young women demand to marry gentleman.. I did research about young women in 20s and oh! They expected to be drama queens cared for by their gentlemen. Let me paint another picture. They are using men. No offense but the attitude is out there. Christians are supposed to follow the letter of the Bible meaning to be humble and the right man will come along. Get it?
