Having Pre-marital sex with your boyfriend makes you "really upset and scared"
no, it doesn't. the thought of going to hell because of it does. i very much enjoy making love to my lover.
What keeps you from getting married, especially if you are already acting like you are married?
we are both currently unemployed, and looking. so i don't want to get married until we are financially stable.
I guess I will pray to God on this one, because I do want to repent, but my boyfriend said he will not wait until marriage. I think God is the only one who can change his heart. I will talk to my bf about this again, but he is not taking this whole "religious" thing seriously, even though he is a believer.. I am hoping God can change him with at least that decision because it will be very hard for me to leave someone I love.
I believe you are sincere in being afraid of Gods judgement. The issue is
the way you feel while committing the act itself. You need the intimacy and
want to feel loved. I can assure you, it is probably more lust at this point than
love. And we know when we scratch an itch it feels better for a while. I am
not putting you down even though I know you are sinning against God. I am
leaving that up to God and you to work out. I did go on a search and read
something from another site and found this part very interesting and I think
anyone who reads it will find it interesting too.
Young people today need to be taught to abstain from sexual intercourse and remain pure virgins before marriage. So many problems in marriages today stem from the fact that they are not virgins when they marry. Young people are bringing wounded emotions and diseased bodies into their marriages because of prior promiscuous affairs. STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) are so widespread that the statistics are shocking. There are 12 million new cases of STDs annually in the United states and 67% of these occur among persons under the age of 25. In fact, every year one out of six teens contracts an STD. 100,000 to 150,000 women become infertile each year as a result of STDs.¹ Others endure years of pain as some of these diseases are incurable. What a tragic price to pay for sexual sins. The Bible is right when it says fornication is a sin against one's own body.
The sin of fornication is not only defined as illicit sexual intercourse between those who are not married but also is an umbrella for other sexual sins as well. The Bible also speaks of the sin of incest as fornication in 1 Corinthians 5:1:
"It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife."
The Bible also lists whoremongers as fornicators in Revelation 21:8:
But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
All prostitutes and pimps are fornicators. Couples who just "live together" according to the Bible, are committing the same sin that whores commit.Singles who "make love" fall into the same category. Just because society has accepted this type of living does not make it right. The Bible must be our standard of what is right and wrong.We must change our standards if we do not want the wrath of God to fall on us. God hates sin but He loves the sinner. If anyone repents and calls on Jesus today He will help them to come out of any illicit relationship and heal them of all past hurts and even heal any disease that they may havecontracted.
God gave us the laws in the Bible for our good. They are not meant to deny us any good thing but they are given so we can enjoy the proper sexual relationship in the proper time. If we obey the words of the Bible and "flee fornication" andglorify God in our bodies, the Lord will bless us beyond what we could believe.