5 Love Languages Test

[DarlinNadia]

(Sorry for double post)

Here's the results of the test from the Other Person Paradigm (I personally read each question from the view point of "she would..." replacing "I would..." from assumption that is what I'd expect a potential love interest to answer to fit the paradigm.)

The results from the paradigm standpoint are:

7 Words of Affirmation
7 Quality Time
3 Receiving Gifts
6 Acts of Service
7 Physical Touch

So basically my breakdown of both results are you can show me ya love me just by putting up with me and talking to me. And the sort of woman I would be desirous of would enjoy spending time with me as equally as she should enjoy me serenading her with love poems and kisses lol. Didn't really need a test to tell me that so much, but it does put somethings into perspective I suppose like I guess you shouldn't date me if you are like santa clause giving out gifts (cause I am suspicious when people try to give me gifts thinking they are just trying to bribe my favor or for some reason even when I know they're not actually trying to bribe me I feel embarassed when someone buys me gifts since I ain't rich enough to repay.)

Anyways, just my own personal thoughts about me personally in reflection to this test. Kudos for the topic either way though, very interesting test for personal reflection and study of the CC.com citizens' mindsets in my opinion.

I really wonder how I my *ideal* love language would work.. Seems Like I'd spend time with the person that's doing acts of service for me>>> How does that work? I praise along the way... Good Job, Thank you, You're great.... I suppose in some weird world it would Work. lol

Inability to accept gifts with the thought I have to repay often stems from pride for me... one of my biggest struggles

Sorry for all my double posts too... I am new to forum and don't consider such things.. My apologies to those that it rubs wrong.

 

[blueorchidjd]

Mwahhaha!

First I slap blue with a peanut butter slathered deer hoof for stealing my topic!
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8 Words of Affirmation
9 Quality Time
1 Receiving Gifts
3 Acts of Service
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[GodIsSalvation]

I really wonder how I my *ideal* love language would work.. Seems Like I'd spend time with the person that's doing acts of service for me>>> How does that work? I praise along the way... Good Job, Thank you, You're great.... I suppose in some weird world it would Work. lol

Inability to accept gifts with the thought I have to repay often stems from pride for me... one of my biggest struggles

Sorry for all my double posts too... I am new to forum and don't consider such things.. My apologies to those that it rubs wrong.

Heh to be honest I am not sure if double posting is against the CC Laws or not (though I wouldn't hazard it and go into Triple Posting!) That's why I just apologize for it whenever I am forced to do a double post so that the enforcers of CC Law (the Mod Squad) know I'm not trying to be a spammer lol. Just in case people were curious on my own personal quirks. Though my observation from being around CC for a few months is basically that as long as you don't go overboard and blatantly try to destroy the website people are pretty understanding for the most part.

Anyways, sorry to be judgemental here hope ya don't take it the wrong way Nadia, but this is my analyses of your results and paradigm results if you don't mind my analyses (and I admit upfront I could be wrong, this is just my analyses based off a brief internet test after all thus my understanding is understandably incomplete and by all means correct me where I need correcting!)

By your own results it would seem to indicate you enjoy doing work/tasks for people/potential mate and enjoy serenading them with compliments. And also you enjoy to moderately spend time with someone and cuddle them. Not so much being a big material gift giver (like myself.)

Then by your paradigm results would imply to me that you would enjoy a mate that likes to spend time with you first and foremost. Followed by someone that showers you with lovely serenading, and moderately desire someone that wants to cuddle with ya. With not too much focus on that person doing work for you or buying you gifts.


Heh it is very curious to me that almost everyone on the topic scores real low on accepting material Gifts except for Aimee whom probably feels very appreciated when she receives Gifts. Which there is nothing wrong with that in my opinion. I don't think its so much a pride issue on giving/receiving Gifts, rather we all enjoy expressing affection and accepting affection in different ways. The Regular answers to me show how one is most receptive to affection given and the Paradigm answers to me show how one wants to express affection.

 

[DuchessAimee]

Okay, so I'm big on getting gifts. Apparently I can be bought. Awesome.

 

[DarlinNadia]

Okay, so I'm big on getting gifts. Apparently I can be bought. Awesome.

The question IS... do you GIVE Gifts as a way of showing your love?

 

[GodIsSalvation]

Okay, so I'm big on getting gifts. Apparently I can be bought. Awesome.

Heh maybe not so much that you can be bought, but rather a guy that wants to woo you properly would do best to adorn ye with marvellous things. Guess the real question would be what sort of gifts you enjoy receiving.

 

[parablepete]

4 Words of Affirmation
6 Quality Time
6 Receiving Gifts
5 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch

I am thinking I must be dead......LoL (Married test)

 

[just_monicat]

I really wonder how I my *ideal* love language would work.. Seems Like I'd spend time with the person that's doing acts of service for me>>> How does that work? I praise along the way... Good Job, Thank you, You're great.... I suppose in some weird world it would Work. lol

Inability to accept gifts with the thought I have to repay often stems from pride for me... one of my biggest struggles

Sorry for all my double posts too... I am new to forum and don't consider such things.. My apologies to those that it rubs wrong.

i think what is helpful about such a test is for the very reason you're suggesting one ought to take for the purpose of "how do you prefer to express your love" concept. i think part of being in a relationship with someone you love is about aligning our preferred ways to express love to what our beloved's preference for receiving love expressions. and that takes some deliberate action and thought when those preferences don't match well.

case in point:

while my ex never took the test for confirmation, i am sure that his #1 language was acts of service, which is fairly low on my own list and not a natural inclination on my part. if i were to simply behave without any awareness of this (and in concert with what my "preferred expressions of love") expression through acts of service would be happenstance, rather than an expression of organic (or preferred) ease.

so perhaps the best value of such knowledge of an SO's preferred love language is an opportunity to calibrate (or at least shift) the focus of your energies. so that someone like me, who loves sentiment and authentic expression who might write a letter of heartfelt words won't be expecting my SO with "acts of service" needs to feel as loved by such a thing as i might feel if i were to receive the same thing from him. half of the problem is how we feel loved, and the other half is understanding what our SO prefers (or responds to) so that one isn't feeling exhausted trying to pour one's heart out in effort while not getting a resulting appreciation of effect. i can totally envision someone trying beating their head against the wall putting in the effort that simply isn't having the desired effect. just mere appreciation. and i must admit, my ex was a great "acts of service" giver, but could be pretty lousy at words of affirmation, simply because his preferences drove his actions.

for me, it was hard at first to place any real significant value at what i considered "busy work" and things that are fairly unimportant to me (that's what the service directory is for).

i learned a lot about such things from that relationship.

finally, i want to make a separate note here about personality types. as some of you may know, i'm definitely fascinated about personality preferences and types, and tend to observe them fairly naturally in people. and what i've seen consistently is that love language and personality preference are totally overlapped.

for example, using MBTI language, those who are XSTX (as in an "ISTJ" for example) will usually value things like acts of service and gifts; tangible and practical expressions of love. those who are XNFX (as in an "ENFP") are almost always valuers of words of affirmation and quality time.

 

[just_monicat]

Okay, so I'm big on getting gifts. Apparently I can be bought. Awesome.

and apparently, i'm a fool for flattery...

how annoying, right? ; )

 

[Raine]

[h=4]This is definitely accurate for me.

Your Scores[/h]

• 7Words of Affirmation
• 10Quality Time
• 2Receiving Gifts
• 9Acts of Service
• 2Physical Touch

 

[kenthomas27]

So... no need to buy Kenthomas any Christmas presents this year folks.

Apparently you told everybody that last Christmas.

And in the words of somebody I wuv to pieces ....."Wait. What?

 

[Donkeyfish07]

Well I would have taken it but:

"Provide your contact information below and you will receive your personal Love Language profile emailed to you."

Edited: Ok, so it's possible to skip that give me your e-mail stuff. I'm in. lol

 

[Donkeyfish07]

• 5Words of Affirmation
• 9Quality Time
• 0Receiving Gifts
• 5Acts of Service
• 11Physical Touch

Sounds close

 

[Wandering_Here]

• 7 Words of Affirmation
• 11 Quality Time
• 0 Receiving Gifts
• 8 Acts of Service
• 4 Physical Touch

Yep, that sounds about right.

 

[maxwel]

I have ZERO love languages.

That is SUCH A RELIEF!!

: )

 

[BananaPie]

...okay, so the numbers are alluring and centrifuging me to this thread...

Would somebody "splain" to me in plain English why I need to place ya'lls results in descending order, please??

 

[just_monicat]

...okay, so the numbers are alluring and centrifuging me to this thread...

Would somebody "splain" to me in plain English why I need to place ya'lls results in descending order, please??

so FUNNY you mention it. i did the exact same thing and noticed earlier that you were the only one who did it as well.

me? i'm just slightly weird and perfectionist about data presentation... : D

but i can't speak for you miss 3.14159...

edit: ok, so gracie's weird too...

 

[Tintin]

so FUNNY you mention it. i did the exact same thing and noticed earlier that you were the only one who did it as well.

me? i'm just slightly weird and perfectionist about data presentation... : D

but i can't speak for you miss 3.14159...

edit: ok, so gracie's weird too...

I just listed them in descending order because Blue Orchid did. I guess I'm a follower.

 

[GodIsSalvation]

Guess I'm a plagiarist, I just copied and pasted what the screen told me lol.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

so FUNNY you mention it. i did the exact same thing and noticed earlier that you were the only one who did it as well.

me? i'm just slightly weird and perfectionist about data presentation... : D

but i can't speak for you miss 3.14159...

edit: ok, so gracie's weird too...

I couldn't NOT do it. You know what I mean?