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Can't believe I just took this test.
Your Scores
Why do they compare such strange things and never give you a good option? Like,
"I need to be touched everyday" or "I need to be affirmed everyday".
Like, where is the "I'm not a bag of sand and I don't fall apart if I'm not noticed every single day" option.
Your Scores
- 4Words of Affirmation
- 11Quality Time
- 4Receiving Gifts
- 10Acts of Service
- 1Physical Touch
Why do they compare such strange things and never give you a good option? Like,
"I need to be touched everyday" or "I need to be affirmed everyday".
Like, where is the "I'm not a bag of sand and I don't fall apart if I'm not noticed every single day" option.
I was floored by how many obvious questions there are about gifts!!!
My results were:
9 Quality Time.
7 Words of Affirmation.
7 Physical Touch.
4 Gifts.
3 Acts of Service (If I had to choose, I'd rather have someone come over and do chores with me than give me a gift.)
I'd also like to add:
5 Sharing their food with me.
10 Sharing their dessert.
15 Not slapping me if I "happen" to take a bite of their food and/or dessert.
My results were:
9 Quality Time.
7 Words of Affirmation.
7 Physical Touch.
4 Gifts.
3 Acts of Service (If I had to choose, I'd rather have someone come over and do chores with me than give me a gift.)
I'd also like to add:
5 Sharing their food with me.
10 Sharing their dessert.
15 Not slapping me if I "happen" to take a bite of their food and/or dessert.
I was floored by how many obvious questions there are about gifts!!!
My results were:
9 Quality Time.
7 Words of Affirmation.
7 Physical Touch.
4 Gifts.
3 Acts of Service (If I had to choose, I'd rather have someone come over and do chores with me than give me a gift.)
I'd also like to add:
5 Sharing their food with me.
10 Sharing their dessert.
15 Not slapping me if I "happen" to take a bite of their food and/or dessert.
My results were:
9 Quality Time.
7 Words of Affirmation.
7 Physical Touch.
4 Gifts.
3 Acts of Service (If I had to choose, I'd rather have someone come over and do chores with me than give me a gift.)
I'd also like to add:
5 Sharing their food with me.
10 Sharing their dessert.
15 Not slapping me if I "happen" to take a bite of their food and/or dessert.
Me too! So... do you want a present? Would you like a present? Would you rather someone give you a present? Would it make you feel good to get lots of presents?
Talk about leading questions. Interesting. Maybe they stood out more for me because that isn't my love language, so I was scoffing whenever I saw one.
Here's a question:
How many of you would say that you "give" in the same ways that you like to "receive"?
Do you show others love in the same way that you like to receive love?
I took the test two days back. Never knew there was a concept of love languages before. Curiosity.
I love to give gifts to people, more than I like to receive them...
So no. I don't give love the same way I receive it, because people are different. They have different ways of showing love. I just accept all that with gratitude.
I am not a touchy-feely person but many of the people who love me are. It's the way they show love, and I am cool with it. I appreciate it anyway. If a friend hugs me, or someone kisses me or holds my hand, I accept it. I am surprised my score is 0.
It's not that I dislike physical touch. It's just not my way of showing love. It's not important to me.
However many times I have found that holding someone's hand is all they want. And if that's what it takes for them to be comforted, I'd do it.
It's not like we're restricted in any way to show love. At the end of the day, love is selfless. It's not about how I want to show love, it's about them. And looking towards Christ, the one who loves us the most, getting a mind that is like His, to be led by the Spirit to edify others - I don't think we have much to worry
(But buying someone a fancy tech gadget is way more lovey than giving them a hug. IMHO.)
- 8Words of Affirmation
- 9Quality Time
- 5Receiving Gifts
- 8Acts of Service
- 0Physical Touch
I love to give gifts to people, more than I like to receive them...
So no. I don't give love the same way I receive it, because people are different. They have different ways of showing love. I just accept all that with gratitude.
I am not a touchy-feely person but many of the people who love me are. It's the way they show love, and I am cool with it. I appreciate it anyway. If a friend hugs me, or someone kisses me or holds my hand, I accept it. I am surprised my score is 0.
It's not that I dislike physical touch. It's just not my way of showing love. It's not important to me.
However many times I have found that holding someone's hand is all they want. And if that's what it takes for them to be comforted, I'd do it.
It's not like we're restricted in any way to show love. At the end of the day, love is selfless. It's not about how I want to show love, it's about them. And looking towards Christ, the one who loves us the most, getting a mind that is like His, to be led by the Spirit to edify others - I don't think we have much to worry
(But buying someone a fancy tech gadget is way more lovey than giving them a hug. IMHO.)
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10 - Physical touch
10 - Quality time
6 - Words of affirmation
2 - Acts of service
2 - Receiving gifts
I'm pretty sure 'Physical touch' should be somewhere around '12', hahaha. I'm not one to constantly touch strangers or people I don't know too well, but I do desire to have close contact with people I care about. I love hanging out with the motherly figures at church because they give the best 'mumma' hugs imaginable. The worst part about a hug is letting go, so if someone is willing, I hold on to them for awhile and nestle my face between their neck and collar bone.
I've thought about it and to be honest, I think most of it is a learnt behaviour. My parents were not ones to verbally express any emotion and tell my brother and I that we were loved, but I remember when I was in primary school, my mum was studying to be a therapeutic masseuse and she would practice the things she was learning on my brother's back or mine. It was those times, above all, I felt close to my mum.
On another level, I am a kinaesthetic learner, so I learn and make sense of my world through movement and touch. Although I may seem like I type a lot on here, I don't talk so much in real life. I feel like I can say a lot more through touch than I can verbally.
10 - Quality time
6 - Words of affirmation
2 - Acts of service
2 - Receiving gifts
I'm pretty sure 'Physical touch' should be somewhere around '12', hahaha. I'm not one to constantly touch strangers or people I don't know too well, but I do desire to have close contact with people I care about. I love hanging out with the motherly figures at church because they give the best 'mumma' hugs imaginable. The worst part about a hug is letting go, so if someone is willing, I hold on to them for awhile and nestle my face between their neck and collar bone.
I've thought about it and to be honest, I think most of it is a learnt behaviour. My parents were not ones to verbally express any emotion and tell my brother and I that we were loved, but I remember when I was in primary school, my mum was studying to be a therapeutic masseuse and she would practice the things she was learning on my brother's back or mine. It was those times, above all, I felt close to my mum.
On another level, I am a kinaesthetic learner, so I learn and make sense of my world through movement and touch. Although I may seem like I type a lot on here, I don't talk so much in real life. I feel like I can say a lot more through touch than I can verbally.
