Why am I having so much of a problem getting a good Christian girlfriend?

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dothackzero said:
Do you think that there would be a lot of girls in a phycology and a Business Communications class? I doubt there's gonna be any girls or atleast girls my age in the 3D animation and Intro to Web Programming classes I'm planning on taking. I really think part of my problem is that I'm not around that many girls right now... :(
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I think this is becoming unhealthy for you... :eek:
 
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NoTearsShed

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*hugs*
Keep praying & having faith in God =D
For him to save the girl for you & for you to meet her soon or at least be patient =)

Prayed for you.
 
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dothackzero said:
Do you think that there would be a lot of girls in a phycology and a Business Communications class? I doubt there's gonna be any girls or atleast girls my age in the 3D animation and Intro to Web Programming classes I'm planning on taking. I really think part of my problem is that I'm not around that many girls right now... :(
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Lol i wanted to do 3rd animation or game programming but now i think being in pshycology is better for me =)
I plan on taking pshycology & im a girl...
Maybe there are a lot of girls in there... but dont study something you dont like just because you want to find girls. instead go to church & find a christian girl =D
 
eugenius

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oopsies said:
I think this is becoming unhealthy for you... :eek:
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Amen. I don't want to hear that you changed your major to have more girls in your classes. That would be totally stupid man. Do what you like doing. You will probably meet your wife when you get a job. Thats what I'm planning on happening to me.

You shouldn't even have these thoughts until you are financially secure.

Also I am in engineering. I can count the number of girls in my courses on one hand. But hey, the ones who are there are pretty smart I gotta admit. And brains = hot. :D
 
dothackzero

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eugenius said:
Amen. I don't want to hear that you changed your major to have more girls in your classes. That would be totally stupid man. Do what you like doing. You will probably meet your wife when you get a job. Thats what I'm planning on happening to me.

You shouldn't even have these thoughts until you are financially secure.

Also I am in engineering. I can count the number of girls in my courses on one hand. But hey, the ones who are there are pretty smart I gotta admit. And brains = hot. :D
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I'm not changing my major. They are requried for the video game design degree I'm going for(Computer science after since it's only a 2 year degree for video game design and there's nothing after that at my school). Sadly when there are girls in my field they are too old for me. :(
 
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if you have faith that God can find one person for you in a college of 7,000 or even 70,000, why wouldn't you have faith that he could put you in place to meet that spouse in an office of 700 or 70 or even 7?!
 
dothackzero

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It's more that I think the problem with me not having a girlfriend is more on my end not God's. My social skills are crap, and because of my shyness it's really for hard me to be able to talk to girls. Or really to make any friends at all. I don't know how God is gonna me a girlfriend even when it time when I can't really even talk to girls in real life... and my fear is that God isn't helping me out with social skills and stuff, and be cause that I'll never get a girlfriend or even kiss a girl...
 
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So yeah, I've lost my job, and another chance to find a girlfriend... Seriously what if when I get new there won't be any girls my age there?

Anyway, please pray for me to be able to find a new job. Please focus on praying for me to get a job in co-op which would mean a programming job for me. I really hope that God made me lose my job so he could give me room for increase...
 
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Beeb0 said:
Don't let being single be a burden to you. If it's in Gods will, you will find that special someone & when it happens, the time you were single will be worth it all.
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I say amen to that... Whats the big rush anyway???
 
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eugenius said:
Amen. I don't want to hear that you changed your major to have more girls in your classes. That would be totally stupid man. Do what you like doing. You will probably meet your wife when you get a job. Thats what I'm planning on happening to me.

You shouldn't even have these thoughts until you are financially secure.

Also I am in engineering. I can count the number of girls in my courses on one hand. But hey, the ones who are there are pretty smart I gotta admit. And brains = hot. :D
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If you're gonna switch classes to find more girls, you can forget it. You might better spend your time developing your social skills.
 
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Hi Dot,

OCD comes from a feeling of worthlessness.

GAD has the same cause.

This is why you have low self esteem and you transmit those vibes.

Your problems are guilt and fear and the fact that you are seeking to deal with the symptom rather than the cause.

Jesus Christ died on the cross for both your guilt and fear.

Feed on sound Bible teaching, understand that God accepts you as you are right now. Jesus Christ died to pay for the things you are guilty of. Even if the whole world rejects you you can have confidence that God has adopted you into his family.

Fear is the opposite of love (...perfect love casts out fear...) therefore while you fear you cannot love. You identify yourself mentally as a pervert - you need to throw yourself on God's mercy and ask him every day to cure you of this.

I am a single 50 year old virgin and could count on 2 hands the number of girls i have kissed. One hand would suffice for the number I have tongue kissed.
 
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hey I think you are a good person..by reading everything u've wrote down :) I fall into that catergory where im having so much trouble lookin for a boyfriend. ..but here's what I've learnt....God will bring that one person you've been praying for...If you specific to God he will show you....you may feel that it will take forever, just dont go ahead and first seek God's guidance......also if you're loooking for that someone special..someone told me....dont look too far...look around...get urself involved in things and you'll see you will steal someone's heart :) I believe that

Im sure you will be specific to God, he hears you
 
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Hmmm, good advice
 
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Janwaz said:
hey I think you are a good person..by reading everything u've wrote down :) I fall into that catergory where im having so much trouble lookin for a boyfriend. ..but here's what I've learnt....God will bring that one person you've been praying for...If you specific to God he will show you....you may feel that it will take forever, just dont go ahead and first seek God's guidance......also if you're loooking for that someone special..someone told me....dont look too far...look around...get urself involved in things and you'll see you will steal someone's heart :) I believe that

Im sure you will be specific to God, he hears you
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Good advice!
 
dothackzero

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So yeah, I got some good advice from a friend. Actually, I think it the Holy Spirit speaking though a friend. Anyway, someone actually got though my thick skull. So yeah, it looks I'll be waiting for finding a girlfriend once I get the money to support the one and eveuntually enough for a kid too. Meaning waiting till I have enough for a small house or something like that.

Anyway, please pray that I'll be able to make friends with girls(I'll go crazy by then if I don't.), and that I get a better job than the one I had...
 
eugenius

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Yea dude, if you want something serious you gotta be financially stable. But why are you looking for something serious so early? You should really finish college first.

As far as being friends with girls, that isn't so easy. It has never been easy for most guys. Men and women are very different and 90% of the time we don't understand each other at all. And whats more we don't even like each other most of the time. Once you get older you no longer think that girls have cooties, but you still have a hard time understanding them. The only guys who find it easy to be friends with girls are gay guys. Its a proven fact.

For someone like you, or me (us geeks) its easier to be friends with girls who are geeks because they have some of the same interests. I really recommend that you try to find some geeky girls. It isnt too hard either, there are plenty of them. ;)
 
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dothackzero

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Yea dude, if you want something serious you gotta be financially stable. But why are you looking for something serious so early? You should really finish college first.

As far as being friends with girls, that isn't so easy. It has never been easy for most guys. Men and women are very different and 90% of the time we don't understand each other at all. And whats more we don't even like each other most of the time. Once you get older you no longer think that girls have cooties, but you still have a hard time understanding them. The only guys who find it easy to be friends with girls are gay guys. Its a proven fact.

For someone like you, or me (us geeks) its easier to be friends with girls who are geeks because they have some of the same interests. I really recommend that you try to find some geeky girls. It isnt too hard either, there are plenty of them. ;)
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Then why is it so easy for all of my friends to make friends with girls?

I don't know any geeky girls...
 
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The simple answer my friend, the answer that sucks beyond all reason is because you are too nice. Tell em when your frustrated or p.o.ed don't let em walk on you women want a Brock sampson brother. It's crazy but it's true and it sucks beyond measure right. The first thing I'd do is start getting more hands on, not too quickly but just be confedant. You wanna kiss a girl-do it-she asks why you ask why she didn't stop you. She does stop you then congradulate her but let her know that next time that might not work,akeva joke outta it.

And find new girls you are firmly stuck on the friend zone it would seem bro there is no eject button you're boned. -removes his hat in mourning-

I don't know if this advice is good for Christian girls... Just normal ones... My advice for christian girls is that there's only the one andvwhen the tome is right he will bring her into your life.
 
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Come to God pray and ask him.
 
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SoughtAndFound

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Probably one of the most practical things you can do...

Hi all

This is my first posting to the site - I would have posted sooner, but it took a while for my account to be approved.

I used to have anxiety when it came to talking to women - especially those whom I perceived to be attractive to me. I didn't like being in groups, and when I did make an effort to speak to women, I wasn't at all at ease, so the whole experience wasn't a positive one.

I had been interested in psychology and the like, so began exploring the books on self-improvement (self-help) in the bookshops I knew in London, as well as buying dozens of books online - working with different techniques to improve this aspect of my life, but without success.

Finally I came across a book titled "The Sedona Method," which lead to me working on many things, and resulted in all social and relationship anxiety disappearing completely. Now I am able to look women in the eye, communicate, flirt outragiously even; and every encounter is enjoyable. When it comes to the skills of relationships - I am gradually learning and making up for lost time.

I should just clarify that I am still a virgin, haven't kissed a women on the lips yet (shock, horror!) and 32 years old. If it's in God's will for me to meet a lady who is suitable/compatible/ideal for me, then great! If it's in God's will for me to remain single for some reason unknown to me, that is fine too.

I don't actually use The Sedona Method anymore (I outgrew it), but I can recommend it to resolve any emotional issues surrounding things in life.

Robert
 
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