21 years old and still single.

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Of course, it's not unfair that I've never been given a chance is it? No we couldn't have that at all. That's too ethical to even contemplate. Neither is it unfair of the extremely callous comments that have been made.

My sour attitude is mainly towards single females and a few others that are just horrible. That isn't going to change anytime soon. I could change it in an instant but you need to understand that people reap what they sow. That was their attitude towards me when I was younger so goes around comes around yeah?

I specifically said that they would answer for what they had done. I'm not sure if you missed that part, or if you only saw what you wanted to see... another female being rude to you.

If people reap what they sow, then why are you now sowing judgment, disdain, and unfairness towards women in general, most of whom you have never met, and have never wronged you?

Also, I find it incredibly entertaining that you said some women had a "judgmental, condemning look on their faces" when you first met them. What if they were thinking the very same thing about you? Do you detect any irony there whatsoever?

I will not further derail this thread. Good day.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

My sour attitude is mainly towards single females and a few others that are just horrible. That isn't going to change anytime soon. I could change it in an instant but you need to understand that people reap what they sow. That was their attitude towards me when I was younger so goes around comes around yeah?

The problem with punishing people in this particular way is that the harm is really only done to you. Bitterness eats away at the insides. The person we are bitter against doesn't even suffer. It's a poison that causes discontent and anger, grows and grows, and eats away at us like a parasite.

But if we can "change it" - make a conscious decision to let it go, shed the weight of it, dump the burden onto the ground and walk away from it - we can be free. That doesn't mean you have to be vulnerable again. You can still protect yourself. But letting go of those poisonous feelings will make you a new man, and a happier one. THAT is the best revenge you can ever inflict on someone who has hurt you. Proving to them that what they did for evil didn't matter a bit to your happiness. No one can touch that happiness if you don't let them.

Anyway, I love ya brother. Now wait... I don't want you to think that I LIKE you. But I care about you and want to see this poison cast off into the darkness where it belongs. Choose to do it for your own sake.

 

[eugenius]

I'm 28 and in your situation. So you know.

But you know, I didn't really try. Its not like I tried and got rejected. I bet if I tried I would have success. But being an introvert and nerd doesn't make this stuff any easier. I doubt that if you tried you would be rejected. Can't really complain unless you try. Which is why I don't complain.

 

[UpstateNYChristianBro]

I consider myself good-looking and I am still ostensibly single.

Women seem to care more about confidence than anything else. If you master that, you can smack Brad Pitt.

Also, wear a UND hockey sweater. The ladies like those more.

what is an UND? I know what a hockey sweater is but.. what is an UND?? University of Norte Dame?? If that so.. booo!! SU number 1!! lol!!! Oh wait, SU has no hockey team. lol. Am a Montreal Canadians fan.

 

[Desdichado]

what is an UND? I know what a hockey sweater is but.. what is an UND?? University of Norte Dame?? If that so.. booo!! SU number 1!! lol!!! Oh wait, SU has no hockey team. lol. Am a Montreal Canadians fan.

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[Desdichado]

Sorry to burst your bubble but they likely don't see that you're good looking. You have to get past that before they'll look at anything else.

I would be more concerned about my supposed delusions of grandeur if you knew more of my back-story. Alas. It is a sad song for few ears on this forum to hear.

 

[FireWire]

I specifically said that they would answer for what they had done. I'm not sure if you missed that part, or if you only saw what you wanted to see... another female being rude to you.

If people reap what they sow, then why are you now sowing judgment, disdain, and unfairness towards women in general, most of whom you have never met, and have never wronged you?

Also, I find it incredibly entertaining that you said some women had a "judgmental, condemning look on their faces" when you first met them. What if they were thinking the very same thing about you? Do you detect any irony there whatsoever?

I will not further derail this thread. Good day.

Well once again you've condemned me without ever comprehending the situation. That's an irony. Nice work.

 

[FireWire]

I would be more concerned about my supposed delusions of grandeur if you knew more of my back-story. Alas. It is a sad song for few ears on this forum to hear.

Precisely!! Nothing wrong with a bit of self-confidence though.

I think I'm good looking too and quite cute. I don't care what women think these days. I've heard a handful say it over the years though.

 

[FireWire]

I'm 28 and in your situation. So you know.

But you know, I didn't really try. Its not like I tried and got rejected. I bet if I tried I would have success. But being an introvert and nerd doesn't make this stuff any easier. I doubt that if you tried you would be rejected. Can't really complain unless you try. Which is why I don't complain.

I'm an introvert too. I would get rejected but I wouldn't know what the rate was. I only have one sample so it's 100%.

 

[FireWire]

The problem with punishing people in this particular way is that the harm is really only done to you. Bitterness eats away at the insides. The person we are bitter against doesn't even suffer. It's a poison that causes discontent and anger, grows and grows, and eats away at us like a parasite.

But if we can "change it" - make a conscious decision to let it go, shed the weight of it, dump the burden onto the ground and walk away from it - we can be free. That doesn't mean you have to be vulnerable again. You can still protect yourself. But letting go of those poisonous feelings will make you a new man, and a happier one. THAT is the best revenge you can ever inflict on someone who has hurt you. Proving to them that what they did for evil didn't matter a bit to your happiness. No one can touch that happiness if you don't let them.

Anyway, I love ya brother. Now wait... I don't want you to think that I LIKE you. But I care about you and want to see this poison cast off into the darkness where it belongs. Choose to do it for your own sake.

Gracie,

I'm not punishing anybody neither am I bitter. I dropped that some time ago. But I know I've had to protect myself without a doubt or let Christ protect me.

I love ya too sister and well I don't LIKE you either. The darkness is on the outside where it does belong.

 

[FireWire]

I´d like to appologize for we, as ugly or rejected men: We´re not fair! Sorry! That´s true, and we cannot blame human race for rejections, backslides or lacks (that´s true, in my case). But I can assure CC´s readers that there´s something wrong, since the very beginning, and that´s SIN (a thing that twisted values).

If you have read novels like "Wuthering Heights" you can confirm where our treasures are: Just call it wealth, sex, beauty, etc. And I´d like to thank Firewire for reminding me these words: "...people reap what they sow...". I spent decades hurting people the way I wanted and the way I could. Those lesson and pains I received gave me the experience I needed to know and, in fact, I don´t think those affliction will pass away or cease, because I acknowledged I´m sure where I´m going and am convinced I´m crazy enough to avoid the "togetherness" of a family, and someone here has noted me detachment, a thing that´s making my way easier, though I can bravely long for that perfect love bond I haven´t found to glue. Perhaps I´m one of those Jesus thought of when telling His disciples: "Mat 19:12 For example, some men are celibate because they were born that way. Others are celibate because they were castrated. Still others have decided to be celibate because of the kingdom of heaven. If anyone can do what you've suggested, then he should do it."

To the rest of the world, as Jesus said, I would say: Luk 23:31 "If people do this to a green tree, what will happen to a dry one?"

Rejection -in its many forms- are ways of emotional castration, division, divorce and spiritual struggles, within men and also women.

It takes times to see it this way but, the deepest root of this is SIN, and the tearing down of the altars of our selfish EGOs.

I'm glad you understand the point I made. I like the way you think.

 

[FireWire]

Oh well, their attitude towards me stinks too. I'm not going to blame my attitude for that. What if I come across or are introduced and they have a judgmental, condemning look on their face? Yes it has happened all too often. One time I was minding my own business. My fault? Nah. Nice? Heck no. There is no cotton wool with this one.

No wonder here the marriage rate is the lowest since 1973 and we have one the lowest birthrates in the OECD.[/QUOTE

I'm not sure what the culture is like in your country. I hear negative things about Americans a lot but it's not just the beautiful people getting married and having children here. I don't mean the inside beauty I'm talking about the outside beauty.

If people are judging you based on your appearance alone, shame on them. I know that is a brutal reality of the world we live in. I honestly mean this, based on your photo you don't look like bad looking to me. You look like you have a nice smile and nice eyes. I mean that sincerely.

Thanks

At least you didn't condemn me this time.

I'm sure you're pretty too.

 

[UpstateNYChristianBro]

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HUH!? I was just joking but true that I do not know what is an UND. What does that has to do with a hockey sweater? North Dakota is ND, NOT UND.

BTW, can't hear anthem. Didn't you read my post earlier regarding about my deafness? Please.. read the fine print.

 

[faroukfarouk]

Is that from the Victoria's Secret Men's dept?

Fenner: So what did you think it was?

 

[Shamrocker]

I'm 35 (i'll be 36 in the summer) i'm still single. you still have time!

 

[Donkeyfish07]

Try not to have the attitude of it'll never happen for me because ___________. Be confident in who you are even if you have to pretend. As long as you act confident people will think you are and will respect you more. Odd as it sounds people will often think whatever you show them. God bless.

Very wise of you pipsqueak. I seen a dude with no arms and no legs (Literally, birth defect) get a really pretty girlfriend once. I've also seen a disabled guy in a wheelchair, and a true blue midget get one. All three ladies were good looking by anyone's standards too.

 

[faroukfarouk]

I'm 35 (i'll be 36 in the summer) i'm still single. you still have time!

Shamrocker: Well, you know what they say: "Marry in haste, repent at leisure".

It's always best to be very careful.

 

[Donkeyfish07]

I'm an introvert too. I would get rejected but I wouldn't know what the rate was. I only have one sample so it's 100%.

Brother, I pray you get out of that mindset your in. It's impossible for ANYONE, and I include Brad Pitt, Kim Kardashian, you name the celebrity............to get absolutely everyone they desire. It's also equally impossible for someone to be rejected 100% of the time providing they have a significant sample size (1 person is not a large enough sample). It's just a matter of finding someone you can connect with. Negative thoughts about yourself and failure to take action are the biggest problems any person can have in this department. Your worst enemy in the dating scene is always yourself. That goes for both men and women

 

[secularhermit]

I'm 35 (i'll be 36 in the summer) i'm still single. you still have time!

Hmmmm! What are you planning to do NEXT saturday?


Ja! Ja! Ja!

 

[tourist]

Long lasting relationships aren't built on looks... But the heart goes a long way. Even scriptures say that beauty can be deceiving but a woman who fears The Lord is worthy to be praised . And I'm sure that scripture can be applied to men as well.

I am not confident about my looks either by our society standards, but what I am discovering is that the closer I draw to God the more I start to perceive myself the way he sees me - and I tell ya - God views you as such a beautiful child of his! The more I draw close to The Lord the more beautiful I feel and this starts from the inside and then exhibits itself outwards.

Well said!