Well alright, guess I'll play.
Dear best friend and companion I'll ever have,
I'm starting to think I'm getting close to ready to meet you. Sorry if it's taken me a while but I assure you I have not been idle and I have some great stories to tell. You've probably been through quite a bit of life yourself, but whatever your past let me assure you that I won't consider myself to have settled for second best when I marry you. All will be forgiven before I say I do or else I won't say it. If you have walked in purity, I'll consider myself one of the most blessed women on earth and I look forward to helping each other discover what intimacy is and means. If you haven't walked in purity, start again and recommit yourself to it. I have every intention of being worth it and of staying pure for you. Pursue the Lord with all your heart and let him conform you to the image of Christ. That doesn't mean burn yourself out in church activities, but it does mean that the resolve, quiet strength, and gentle love of the Lord should be evident in your life. Be a man of integrity, principle, and high standards, a man who never compromises on the truth, but be the kind of man who will show mercy and kindness to those who are hurting, even if it is their own stupid fault.
So here's the stuff that you really should know up front. I want you to get in my face when I need it, and even if I get all defensive when you do, I am listening and I will love, respect, and value you more for it in the end. I will rarely volunteer information, but if you ask me a direct question I will give you an honest answer, always. You'll win my heart forever if you learn the art of serving me without making me feel needy or incapable ( start by phrasing your questions "Would it help you out / make it easier for you if I…." instead of anything using the word need). I'm fiercely independent so you'll probably have to fight me on this some, but I am getting better about it and do appreciate it. Oh and the other thing I should tell you is that I have a delayed freak out reaction. You can say something you think will really upset me, I will appear to have no reaction and discuss it perfectly calmly and rationally. 12-24 hours later I may be nearing an internal emotional meltdown, but you will only know if you ask or if I hit the point where I unload all my fears and emotions on you in writing ( in which case reassurance that my worst case scenario is not true and that things aren't as bad as I think they are is most helpful).
Here's what I'm going to appreciate about you most. You're going to be the kind of person who gets me out and about and involved with other people. Even though I agree with the idea that God wants his people out and interacting with the world to bring life and healing, if left to my own devices, I will keep my world small and comfortable. I need you to keep me from doing that. You're going to help me realize that it is ok to treat myself. Though I'll freely give gifts to others, I have a hard time justifying doing anything nice for myself so you're going to have to take charge of that. And I'm going to appreciate your strength. You will be my shield. When I'm around you I'll be able to completely let my guard down and be vulnerable and trusting. In some ways that's still a little scary, but in others it sounds like a little piece of heaven on earth.
Anyway, there is certainly more about me to discover, but I guess you have the rest of your life to enjoy that adventure. I love you and I am glad to be yours, now and always, - me