Age Range compatibility

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DarlinNadia

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I have never been able to tolerate men in my age range for a long length of time. It seems there's some fundamental character flaw I can't get past or I'm simply not interested in guys my own age.

Guys much younger than me hit on me or guys much older than me hit on me. The guys my age that hit on me seem to be blatant morons. I realize I'm not sounding nice here but ... goodness. I am seriously thankful that God weeds these ding dongs out of my garden quickly... but I wonder if it'll ever change. I find the younger guys and much older guys just creepy.. but I have found I can get along with younger guys far better than I can guys my own age... they are simply more entertaining and interesting or maybe I'm highly immature...

I'm not in any hurry for a relationship, but I am trying very hard to be more open to one if the guy can overcome some essential hurdles, like holding my interest (this is very difficult to do) NOT be that whiny needy clingy guy that can't be without me because I'm the blood in his veins or the air that he breathes.. This is FAR too much responsibility for me to make a commitment to... Survive on your own... let me enhance and improve your life... do not give up your life for me .. sheesh..

I figured I'd cap out my age range to 10 years either direction... Ideally I'd like to meet someone close to my age but there is far too much chlorine in that pool or guys my own age are drinking their bathwater or something.

God is at my center but that doesn't mean I have to be objectionable to all these requests or inquiries (unless they fall below or above the 10 year age gap thing)

I don't sound like it but I really am thankful God weeds these guys out before any close bonds are formed. But, somehow I'm attracting the extra crazies, or felons, or fetish whack jobs, there are direct issues with my dating pool. It needs to be drained and scrubbed clean by God himself.

Perhaps I'm not physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, or financially attractive to guys my own age.

Does anyone else have this issue??? Is there a solution?

I'm certainly not willing to lower my standards, but perhaps there's something about me I'm not seeing that needs to be changed... of course there are some offensive things about me that are simply who I am... bold, blunt, truthful...seemingly harsh and insensitive ...
 
secularhermit

secularhermit

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There was a time when I thought about the gap of ages: I don´t like elders... and I made the decision to stay as I am.

No more concern on this! We people are more complex than a single life. :)
 
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Raine

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I think sometimes the beauty of relationships is in what you can give and share with the other person. :)

I understand what you mean though... Guys around my age have no interest in me either. :/
 
Liamson

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The only girls I know that are my age are either married or have done everything in their power to become unmarriageable.


I have a consistent track record of good relationships with women who are slightly older and bad relationships with women who are younger.
 
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SpottyPyjamas

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Guys my own age always seem a tad immature...I prefer interacting and conversing with older men. I truly believe I shall marry someone a lot older than me one day.
 
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Nodmyheadlikeyeah

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Even though i have only dated one guy who was younger than myself, i feel like i am more compatible with the younger age range vs older.
In my experience, having talked to men who were older, they are much more serious and some what boring.

I like talking about nothing and everything and i like not being serious all the time.
 
secularhermit

secularhermit

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Raine said:
I think sometimes the beauty of relationships is in what you can give and share with the other person. :)

I understand what you mean though... Guys around my age have no interest in me either. :/
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Who knows it?

Some people need a painter who draws a rainbow with his colors, each day. :)

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MissCris

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Pretty sure the age gap is too big if the person you're dating is ever mistaken for your grandparent or offspring.

But I guess if that doesn't bother you...meh, whatever.
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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Raine said:
I think sometimes the beauty of relationships is in what you can give and share with the other person. :)

I understand what you mean though... Guys around my age have no interest in me either. :/
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It would be nice to explain your age. I had to see what you mean and not seeing your age..
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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Nodmyheadlikeyeah said:
Even though i have only dated one guy who was younger than myself, i feel like i am more compatible with the younger age range vs older.
In my experience, having talked to men who were older, they are much more serious and some what boring.

I like talking about nothing and everything and i like not being serious all the time.
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So, I guess I am out, huh? Hee hee!! ;)
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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MissCris said:
Pretty sure the age gap is too big if the person you're dating is ever mistaken for your grandparent or offspring.

But I guess if that doesn't bother you...meh, whatever.
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Well, in this world today, it does not matter. Look, I had grey hair since 18 and the women when I was 18.. to say.. age 25, they thought I was too old! Cant help it with grey hair! Then when I was 20.. I was fixed on a blind date and my friend never told me her age.. because my friend did not want me to say no to a 35 years old. that is right, a 35!! And was already divorced with 3 or 4 kids and already tied up.. I wanted to have a family like I thought everyone else should have!! But then since that date.. I seem to be attracted by women 15 years older than I am ever since. One time when I was 35, a 64 years old woman was after me at the singles dance!! NOOOO!! I was screaming in my head there that night!

So, I have no choice.. I was feeling forced to marry an older woman which I did and did not want to.. who else wanted me at the time when I was 39 (met her at age 39)?!?

I wanted to marry a woman my age when I was 18 to say 40 but no.. either it was older, already tied up, divorced, with children.. not want be like a sucker. I was sucked by the women's views! Hated that.

Sure, you can see my anger, I still do.. but I am a nice guy and what the heck matter with them??

When I was 23, at church, women my age then told my own brother of 2 years younger that they thought I was my brother's father!! That was an insult by Christian women.

At my church where I was going for years, after I left that church (see last paragraph about my brother and the women), I tried to focus on my age and slight younger.. nope!!! The Deaf church has only a dozen Deaf people. look, only Deaf bachelors and old Deaf ladies were there!! I was like huh!? Then I tried the Hearing Church Singles Ministries.. no one was interested in me. Older ladies did!! More unsaved older women are more likely interested in me than Christian women. That is a fact. Why Christian women not interested in a man? That is a whole another subject.

Look, I have to resort to the Filippinas since I have better opportunity to find a wife who can marry me for who I am and love me for who I am AND be able to bear children. Now, another question to ask you, ladies, why are American Christian ladies not taught to accept the man's proposal for marriage as said in Prov. 18:22? If resist, you will never marry!! Never ever have children! This is perhaps why we have a huge problem in the US. Christian men I noticed could not get a wife who attend in same church or in same faith will more likely marry someone who is not a Christian. seen that happen often including myself. I understood why.. but that is for you to find out, period.
 
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UpstateNYChristianBro

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I have a preference.. already explained in last post in here.. the point is for me.. I wanted my age but no one my age was interested but older ones!! Hated that.. so I focus these days someone younger who can bear children.

I am not crazy. My mother had me tested and prove that I am not crazy. I know what I am doing. I may end up marrying say.. a 28 years old filipina! And that could be a clue for you!
 
violakat

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Upstate, I have a feeling that your problem with women is not them but you. From the way you're coming across, you sound like it's offensive that a women would chose not to marry you. Guess what, women don't want to marry someone who comes across as arrogant or bitter. And you come across as both.

Nowhere in Proverbs 18:22 does it say that the first woman you propose to must marry you, nor does it say that the 100th one must. Nor does it say if she refuses she will be single for the rest of her life. I'm not sure how you even got that idea, but I think you need to reread that verse, and really understand what it means before you start to use it to support your argument.
 
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faroukfarouk

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violakat said:
Upstate, I have a feeling that your problem with women is not them but you. From the way you're coming across, you sound like it's offensive that a women would chose not to marry you. Guess what, women don't want to marry someone who comes across as arrogant or bitter. And you come across as both.

Nowhere in Proverbs 18:22 does it say that the first woman you propose to must marry you, nor does it say that the 100th one must. Nor does it say if she refuses she will be single for the rest of her life. I'm not sure how you even got that idea, but I think you need to reread that verse, and really understand what it means before you start to use it to support your argument.
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If I have a short fuse before I get married, I will have one after I get married, also, in all probability. Women are savvy enough to figure this.
 
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jeremyPJ

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I don't think age should be a big deal, but in life many usually make it a big deal. I'm going to leave that up to the Lord.
There are many ways to look at the young, middle and older ages as far as advantages/obstacles. I don't put 100% judgement into all that. There are young ladies who are naturally very wise, and then older ones who may not be so much. Compatibility and faith in the Lord comes first for me.
 
CatHerder

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I've always thought that within five years older or younger was a good guideline - but what do I do if my secret CC crush is beyond that?

**le sigh**




































































j/k - it's not a crush........more like a warm fuzzy
 
tourist

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Raine said:
I think sometimes the beauty of relationships is in what you can give and share with the other person. :)

I understand what you mean though... Guys around my age have no interest in me either. :/
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They are obviously not old or mature enough to comprehend what true beauty is.
 
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kenthomas27

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CatHerder said:
I've always thought that within five years older or younger was a good guideline - but what do I do if my secret CC crush is beyond that?
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It's me, isn't it. You're not over the prom date.


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You didn't let age difference bother you that night! That's for sure...


I do look kinda smokin in white.
 
ronnie2796

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....what is going on here? Should I worry? Should I pray for everyone?

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violakat

violakat

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ronnie2796 said:
....what is going on here? Should I worry? Should I pray for everyone?

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Worry, no. That's just how every one is. Crazy. (Don't you just love it.) But as for prayer, always. Everyone can use someone praying for them.
 
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