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I did that a while back, but it was just for laughs: http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/62946-matchmaking-thread.htmlIf anybody was serious about suggesting matches, there would probably be some embarrassment involved... but I'm sure the victims (err... participants...) would live. Maybe we could have an opt-in thing, where people post in the thread if they don't have a problem with being matched up? Just a thought.
I did that a while back, but it was just for laughs: http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/62946-matchmaking-thread.htmlIf anybody was serious about suggesting matches, there would probably be some embarrassment involved... but I'm sure the victims (err... participants...) would live. Maybe we could have an opt-in thing, where people post in the thread if they don't have a problem with being matched up? Just a thought.
reading (actually scanning) through that 19 page thread was like watching a 2-hour "behind the music" special. thanks for linking it popclick.
all the references and not-so-coy inferences and [insert imagination here] are just too funny.
golly, i love this stuff.
For me a lot of it is I think dating culture in general is impersonal and unbiblical. You say they are both looking for marriage. I don't want to be approached like someone is holding auditions for the role of future wife. I want to be valued for me and one day have a friend who is like " you are so incredible, I want to spend the rest of my life with you." A dating and matchmaking culture seems to short circuit that as the implied purpose of the relationship is to get hitched and the focus become marriage and having the relationship, not the other person or actually relating to them.
Full disclosure also prompts me to say that I score low on those things that are often considered important to dating (physical appearance, awareness of social expectations and rituals, willingness to participate in small talk) so the fact that people tend to see me as friend material instead of date material probably doesn't help me have a high view of dating.
Full disclosure also prompts me to say that I score low on those things that are often considered important to dating (physical appearance, awareness of social expectations and rituals, willingness to participate in small talk) so the fact that people tend to see me as friend material instead of date material probably doesn't help me have a high view of dating.
well, not to brag or anything, but...
ok, here goes. i've set up a few friends (four or five total, and one friend is married, the other is in an "exclusive"), but the ONLY reason i think any of them were receptive is not because i just saw them together, but because i sat down and explained why i thought they had the basis for a genuine compatibility. i personally think that's only fair.
see, the beauty in matchmaking is:
1) all the introverts can blame the matchmakers
2) you gain the opportunity to see someone through someone else's eyes. meaning, my perspective and what i see is going to be different than what others see. and the same goes with the things we see in others through the course of friendship. some of us have strengths in seeing qualities and potential, others have different strengths.
3) we most often see others strengths and leanings far better than we see our own.
4) you have nothing to lose, really. if it's a disastrous result, blame the matchmaker.
ok, here goes. i've set up a few friends (four or five total, and one friend is married, the other is in an "exclusive"), but the ONLY reason i think any of them were receptive is not because i just saw them together, but because i sat down and explained why i thought they had the basis for a genuine compatibility. i personally think that's only fair.
see, the beauty in matchmaking is:
1) all the introverts can blame the matchmakers
2) you gain the opportunity to see someone through someone else's eyes. meaning, my perspective and what i see is going to be different than what others see. and the same goes with the things we see in others through the course of friendship. some of us have strengths in seeing qualities and potential, others have different strengths.
3) we most often see others strengths and leanings far better than we see our own.
4) you have nothing to lose, really. if it's a disastrous result, blame the matchmaker.
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Older than i thought...
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/62946-matchmaking-thread.html
http://christianchat.com/christian-singles-forum/62946-matchmaking-thread.html
