Is it weird to want to get married at 21?

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JustinUK

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My family go to church and pray often, but they say I shouldn't get married or tied down yet, I am 21 and to be honest I'm not interested in going out on the night and "hooking up". I have lived an unstable life for too long now, I moved to different countries on my own and I left my parents house at the age of 17 and I want to settle down and concentrate on a job and share my life with someone, what is so weird about that? Any opinions? :) thanks4reading
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Don't do it! Don't do it!!!

SAVE YOURSELF!


Though honestly it's your life, you should go for what you truly want while you can. Nothing wrong with that.
 
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I agree with JustAnotherUser, go for what you truly want but trust God in everything you do, let His will be done not yours, trust His timing and everything will be, He knows better :)
 
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From the age of 14 i wanted to get married. The searching was killing me. The merridge is God s blessing. People are so happy and blessed when God connected them and made them one flesh. I m so happy you want to search a daughter in Christ and care for her. God is with you!
 
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clarkthompson

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Marriage is something good if God leads you to be married and if your marriage is based on Him it will last.
 
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rainin

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There is nothing wierd about it....it's just a really bad idea. When we are young we want things that we don't fully understand sometimes. We don't understand because we are young. There are many threads here that are a testimony as to why this is a bad idea just as in life I imagine you have been told the same. If you decide to take good sound advice and remain single until you have had a chance to mature a bit more, your life will probably be much more enjoyable. If you decide to reject the advice of the more experienced, you had better get ready for an extremely bumpy ride through this life.
 
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It's not unnatural to want.... but be sure you don't rush into anything too soon. I also wanted to get married and settle down when I was younger...I'm 30 now and don't regret being single even though I still want to be married with a family of my own... I can tell now I wasn't ready.
 
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Pipp said:
It's not unnatural to want.... but be sure you don't rush into anything too soon. I also wanted to get married and settle down when I was younger...I'm 30 now and don't regret being single even though I still want to be married with a family of my own... I can tell now I wasn't ready.
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I am not sure of any of us are ready.
 
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Nodmyheadlikeyeah

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I feel like i should say no...
 
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jennymae

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I don't think it is weird. I married at 19.
 
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It's not weird when he's not rushing into it, he needs to really think about it and be sure that this is what he wants and this is what God wants :)
 
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ww_21

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..................... Proverbs 18:22 .......................
He who finds a wife finds what is good
.....and receives favor from the Lord.​
 
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JustinUK said:
My family go to church and pray often, but they say I shouldn't get married or tied down yet, I am 21 and to be honest I'm not interested in going out on the night and "hooking up". I have lived an unstable life for too long now, I moved to different countries on my own and I left my parents house at the age of 17 and I want to settle down and concentrate on a job and share my life with someone, what is so weird about that? Any opinions? :) thanks4reading
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Do they give reasons as to why you shouldn't marry yet? Generally 21 year olds aren't super mature, but 21 year olds generally haven't moved to different countries on their own and lived completely separately from their parents for 4 years either. The impression I get though is that you are looking for stability and think marriage will bring it. Marriage brings a lot of change and adjustment. In fact a romance, especially with a girl around your age, will probably make your life feel less settled and certain for a bit not more. Best advice I can give you is to use this time to build your foundations and prepare. Become the kind of man you want to be as a husband, build the foundation of a stable job and finances to take care of your future wife and God will entrust one of his precious princesses to you. Not a complete guarantee as I'm not authorized to make promises on God's behalf, but a very likely scenario.
 
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JustinUK

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Thanks to everyone for their answers! I will keep them in mind :)
 
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cinder said:
Do they give reasons as to why you shouldn't marry yet? Generally 21 year olds aren't super mature, but 21 year olds generally haven't moved to different countries on their own and lived completely separately from their parents for 4 years either. The impression I get though is that you are looking for stability and think marriage will bring it. Marriage brings a lot of change and adjustment. In fact a romance, especially with a girl around your age, will probably make your life feel less settled and certain for a bit not more. Best advice I can give you is to use this time to build your foundations and prepare. Become the kind of man you want to be as a husband, build the foundation of a stable job and finances to take care of your future wife and God will entrust one of his precious princesses to you. Not a complete guarantee as I'm not authorized to make promises on God's behalf, but a very likely scenario.
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I agree with you that a romantic relationship can indeed be unsettling at times. It is like a roller coaster ride. Excellent advice.
 
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Is it weird to be married at age 21? No. Is it wise, depends on if you are listening to God or not. You, I'm not so sure it's wise, based on what you saying here and not knowing everything. It's sounds like, from what I'm reading, that marriage will solve all your problems. It won't. God doesn't in fact promise us a life of stability. But He does promise us hope through Him, if we trust Him with our lives.
 
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Personally I think it depends on the person. If you're ready and mature enough to get married, then so be it. If you feel pressured to get married and that you're not ready to make that commitment, then stay true to yourself, stand your ground and refuse to do so. But, if not, then go for it. 21 yrs old is not too young if you're ready for marriage, and it's also a good age if you're planning to have children together. Means if you have any around that age you'll be young parents. I'm 26 and wish I got married at 18 and had babies, but again that's me as an individual. For some people it's far too young.
 
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It's not weird at all, everyone at some point in life longs to be with someone for a lifetime and you just happen to experience it at 21, as long as God is your base and you are truly ready then why not ^_^ do what makes YOU happy
 
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JustinUK said:
My family go to church and pray often, but they say I shouldn't get married or tied down yet, I am 21 and to be honest I'm not interested in going out on the night and "hooking up". I have lived an unstable life for too long now, I moved to different countries on my own and I left my parents house at the age of 17 and I want to settle down and concentrate on a job and share my life with someone, what is so weird about that? Any opinions? :) thanks4reading
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I think many have had problems for not obeying 1 Cor 7, which so clearly commands:

"because of fornications,
let each man have his own wife, and
let each woman have her own husband."

Just make sure that you and the one you marry is a born-again Christian. Be not unequally yoked.
 
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Hoffco

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My cousin marred his sweetheart at 16 ,had a wonderful marriage and are proud great grand parents. My son is 46 this oct. never married, wanted and wants to, but has been cursed by the circumstances every time. God had the right girl for him,I think, but her father forbade it. The girl was Chinese and her Father wouldn't not bless her marrying an American. My son has never had girl friend since. My youngest child is a boy, was 38, never married a girl, he is homosexual. About 4 yrs ago, I offered God my life for his salvation . God refused me, and killed my son. He was dead, but was revived two time and is alive, but totally paralyzed, neck down. I am forbidden to see him, by his choice, by the wink of an eye, because his older sister make him promise not to allow me a visit to see him before all the surgery was done. He is alive and today, and still very able to think and operate a computer, as far as I know. No one is communicating with me. My first wife died in 07 and I moved to the Philippines and remarried and have a wonderful ministry at 71yrs. this June26. I have no plans of ever returning to the states. My first marriage was wonderful until my oldest daughter became a teen. Then she and her mother turned totally against me and ruined our family. Now all of my family and three of my siblings and even the church, which was backing me in the ministry, have turned against me. In the end, my wife deliberately crucified me in the church I was pastoring by her science at my trial in 2000, and bad mouthing me to friends. God remover my wife of 40 yrs., from my life in 2007 with, undetected, eye cancer. My ministry here in the Philippines is being blessed of God.
JustinUK, Why, do I tell you my story? You can not predict your future, all you can do is make wise choices for today and keep a close walk with Jesus all alone the ways, and prayer for God's blessing. My first wife and I agreed ,we make a wrong choice with allowing our daughter to remain in our home at the age of 13. We agreed, we should have send her away to a Christian boarding school in a third world country.
I was saved at 17, went to Bible college and seminary, married at 25, had a great marriage, but problems began when our daughter was 3 yrs old, her mother started to defend her anger at age 3. My wife's disrespect and my anger destroyed our marriage. May God bless you with the right choice. Love to all, Hoffco
 
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