I can fully understand what you ladies are saying. From the male perspective, it gets difficult on our side of it also, but I have learned to use this time of singleness to prepare myself to be a better communicator and spiritual leader for future relationships. I almost view this time as a time of sowing. I am sowing time into the Word and investing my efforts in studying how to be a better mate in the future, and when I am in a relationship in the future, then I will be in a time of reaping and can enjoy all the benefits of the time I have spent preparing now.
I will keep you both in my prayers.
I agree.
I know I am young, but I may have a few words that may help.
And it seems one topic of this thread is weight. As said before, males are visual people. Even the best christian men, first thing that normally happens is seeing you. And first impressions are important. I am not judging. I am overweight too and I do not like it.
I have several points to make that might be of help.
1. Idol Overeating: Overeating is probably the main problem with being overweight. And it is very easy too do. I like to eat, its as simple as that. I like the taste of some foods and its nice to eat them and I like a lot of it. How is one supposed to stop this? Of course the first thing people will say is just have self control. And yes that would work. But for some people its extremely hard to do! So lets look at it a different way.
The way I can help not overeating is prayer. You must keep a continual communication line with God. Bring Him into it and it will help take away the Idol of food. And then once you can take food away from being your Idol, just ask yourself "Am I really even hungry?" A lot of times I was impressed by how many times I was not really hungry, but I just wanted food.
2. Emotial overeating: Food is a comfort. It is satisfying. When I get stressed out, there is nothing like just relaxing and eating some good food. It is a plessure and helps comfort you in times of stress or other emotial things. I have done this many many times. This can even happen from being stressed about loosing weight.
The way to stop this, Is of course to go to God! When things get so stressed out, pray some. Talk to God. Read your Bible. Things will get better. But God is the way.
3. Peer-Pressure overeating: Yes this does happen. Everyone is made differently. I have many friends who eat as much or more than me. Yet they stay looking like sticks. And then they always ask "Well, aren't you going to eat more?". And we want to be accepted. But we are not supposed to be of this world. So you must strive to be in God's will.
Another thing, I will admit I live with my parents still, but hey I am young! But just a minute ago, my mom gave me something to eat, she gave me 2 sandwiches. Now I know for a fact that if I ate 1 sandwich and wait a little bit. I would morethenliekly be full. And if not I could eat some fruit or something. But she gave me 2. And it would be easy to just eat both and be done with it. But still, I must control what happens.
There are a lot of ways to loose weight. My favorite way to loose weight is to fast. Though it is very hard to do, because you cut out food completely! Now I always fasted for a spiritual purpose. Actually I did it for a girl. And to learn God's will with her, and loosing weight was the icing on the cake (there is an oxeemoron for you...)
I have done a 7 day fast, and an 8 day fast. Plus I do a lot of single day fasts it seems. The reason this is my favorite way to loose weight is because of how close you can get to God. During this time it is important to focus on God, and not let something else take you mind away from eating (like TV or internet).
There is a website
The Lord's Table - Setting Captives Free
That is a Biblical way to loose weight. I will admit I have not done this course yet (because they only let you do one at a time), but if it is anything like the other courses they have, it will change your life for the better.
I have heard it said many times over, If you care about yourself other will care about you. Now I don't know for sure about this. But it does make sence. If you keep focusing on your weight, then others will too. You should focus on God and be what He wants you to be. If you want a man in your life. Then focus on preparing yourself for that man. God will give you a husband if that is His plan for you.
2 farmers pray for rain. One farmer goes out and starts to prepare his field for rain, the other does not. Which one trusted God? Which one are you? Are you praying for a husband and doing nothing? Trust God and prepare yourself for the man He has for you!
No one is perfect, I am not selecting you out. Even while I typed that I was seeing for myself how many things I need to work on. And how I need to stop doing nothing and prepare myself for the girl He has for me.
God bless you